Why Malini over Imlie ANY day.. so so many reasons DT nt p6 - Page 2

Originally posted by: sunshine333

Thanks for the indepth analysis from both POVs. So i would differ here. Malini is a career woman in her own right not just a housewife. She is not ambitious per se as “imlie” but that’s because she is settled and has a job she likes. She likes and cares for her in laws and family. She definitely has depth. She calls spade a spade. She called her mom out so many times.

But when it comes to Aditya she is not able to process the change in his behavior and the “why”. Imagine a VERY loving husband who seemingly changes overnight. Anyone would be like how ? Why? What happened here.

Imlie has clarity. She knows the whys and the hows of the situation. She knows the shit that went down in pagdandia but Malini doesn’t. Mailini is working in the dark. Her husband changed overnight and is not willing to open up. And when she finally did piece everything together it shocked her to the core. I can easily put myself in her shoes over imlie’s except the suicide step. But people who are emotionally fragile can do that. Not condoning it btw, just trying to put across her frame of mind.

Hmm, I see what you’re saying but it’s not just about an established career for me but any other other personality traits besides being his wife who is in the dark about his first marriage, any other meaningful relationship outside aditya, I don’t see it with her. The moment I started disconnecting from her as one of my favs was when aditya fought with her over the silly car issue (he was taking out kahin ka anger kahin) instead of calling him out on it she went home crying to her mom and accused her mom of trying to create differences. After that, it became a constant for her that’s all I saw from her no action just trying to evade hard situations any way either by harming herself through starvation or fainting or her words and actions completely different from what her thoughts were shown e.g. they showed us through flashbacks or monologues how she had doubts but would go I have full faith infront of anyone else, don’t know if she was trying to run from the truth herself or wanted to make it seem like everything was perfect but it got maddening seeing her let aditya weasel out of every situation only if he just spoke once to her. Three times she left home and came back through minimum effort aditya put and forgot everything he said or did. As a viewer, it just frustrate me to a point I could no longer connect with her character, even if I could understand her.

The reason I started getting inclined towards imlie throughout the show according to her own beliefs has always given it back to him whenever he crossed a line. Malini also fought with him but only when he completely disassociated himself from her, she did it to get his love back even if it was through some bizzare way of insulting someone else, I am talking about before all this imlie stuff, she accomodated him everywhere and tried to avoid conflict at all costs, it’s easy to be in a relationship like that for years she tailored her needs and interests for him e.g. not playing holi anymore and god knows how many other things she compromised on instead of telling him off (which makes it seem more like she was emotionally dependent on him rather than love) he hardly put effort in that relationship and she was fine with it. We’ve seen aditya’s behaviour with her pre marriage to imlie and post marriage to imlie , the post one always seemed like he was trying to compensate for guilt or something rather than doing it out of love, she herself once called him out and said romantic words don’t suit him meaning he never really used any with her before as opposed to how naturally it came out for imlie. I just think they were both in a bad relationship for 7 years for their own personal reasons rather than mutual love or something. Just for Malini, it was more serious because of how emotionally dependent she got which was bound to end badly with or without imlie since aditya is the most emotionally unavailable person. Said all this regarding the overnight thing, she didn’t always think of him as someone she couldn’t lose she always thought he’d leave her or something even before imlie she had those fears, but she never addressed them and let herself get deeper stuck in a mirage of a perfect marriage because she has never had it in her to face any of her doubts or any conflict pre or post marriage. Even now she made an assumption, we the audience know the truth, her as a character only made an assumption and decided she didn’t want to hear the whole truth. Can’t say more about that because that’s a sketchy area but I guess for me she just remains a hollow character, sad cause she was my only favourite once I was really hoping for a better character sketch more like IK’s mun.

Originally posted by: sunshine333

Ok after the caustic and taunting and yes even personal replies to my first post I was reluctant for a good number of days to post. But I decided to not be silenced and post why I support Malini over Imlie (and would do so even if this was a real life scenario)

- Adiya CHOSE to marry Malini. It was not an arranged marriage, they dated for SEVEN years and he was happy with malini by all standards till Imlie conveniently comes along. There’s name for it: the “shiny penny syndrome”

- Imlie is a “glorified” “unreal” “unrelatable” character. For ex. to make her “smart” they made her second in all india exams even when she had to finish it in half the time. I mean COME ON. Malini is much more relatable. We have all seen Malinis irl, none of us have ever seen an Imlie. She is truly a fictional and unrelatable character WHO DOESN’T EXIST.

- Everything that Malini does becomes that shes gaining shmpathy. Malini’s sacrifices are seen as “selfish” and “to gain sympathies” whereas imlies sacrifices are “genuine” and make her “mahaan”

- Imlie and Aditya are just plain nasty because they were romancing behind her back IN HER OWN ROOM while calling her didi didi. Didi this and didi that. I mean who would do that to her didi. Yuck yuck and more yuck.
- Malinis only mistake is she loves a useless guy like aditya and gave “shaye” to a naagin.

- Imlie has a CHOICE to remove herself from the situation but she CHOOSES NOT to. She talks the talk but doesn’t walk the walk. One ouo baby please .. two fake tears and both are shamelessly romancing each other behind didi’s back. just YUCK

- I understand that since imlie is the namesake of the show and the whole show is based on her she is bound to get some undeserved sympathies and audiences are naturally subconsciously inclined to support the lead “heroine”.

Anyways i would take a malini over imli ANY DAY in real life. Imlie is a classic example of someone who “appears good” on surface but is a manipulative shrew capable of deluding herself and working others to get her way.

👏👏👏 BRAVO . GREAT POST!!

I find Imlie a totally unrelatable character as well, while Malini and Aditiya totally based on real people.

Imlie is a "superwoman", at age 19. Even though she grew up in the village. She is wrongly given too many superpowers and too many traits, that teenagers are NOT known for. Like being completely selfless, knowing how to solve every problem, using psychology to deal with grown-up mature people, wanting to study and work all the time, etc etc.

But I don't think Imlie is mature enough to realize that she is the one hurting Malini, the most. She is but a child. Even the romance with Aditiya was not initiated from her side. She is a hormonal teenager and feeling the first pangs of sexual attraction. It could have been any man.

Now Aditiya, well my views on that two-timing spineless, worthless man are well known.

I want to see him completely break after Malini's suicide attempt.

Also can't wait till Malini kicks him to the curb and sues him for emotional distress.

I totally agree ,Aditya married Malini by his choice he wasn't forced to marry her ,he could have said the truth to Anu if not moon ,it would have spared so much suffering for all 3 characters.

Apart from suicide drama I totally relate to Malini ,she gave 7 years of her life to make a relationship work the least she deserves is a sorry and truth about everything.

Adi and Imlie are shameless to romance behind her back ,they want to be truthful but dont tell the truth ,just be truthful for once and face the consequences.

7 years is long term ,they might not have loved each other and their marriage might have been broken ,but it wouldn't have been broken because of a third party .

When someone decides to end their life they dont do it for sympathy but to end their suffering.

Originally posted by: spelano.ws

To each their own I guess. I can’t like a character who has no personality outside being wronged. Even without that aspect she had no life outside aditya. To me she is a very bland character, and as unrealistic as imlie is to you. In some aspects even imlie is unrealistic to me, but her actions make more sense to me, especially since people keep mistaking it as mahanta, it’s not mahanta it’s just her issues related to the fear of abandonment because of dev. Actually, in that aspect even malini’s actions are understandable but not something I can empthise with, the inconsistency throws me off, she seems like a shell of a human being who cannot have any of her own convictions or traits unless being ‘inspired’ by someone when that doesn’t work it’s just constant breakdowns. She is what you call a dark empath. Hasn’t had to dealt with a real conflict before, and whenever she had always ended up guilt tripping people with everyone ending up coddling her whether she intended it or not. She used to be my favourite and I had expected a completely different character sketch from her. I would have admired her way more if she stood up to aditya and had any clear sense of her actions instead of the route she took of ruining a girl’s first day of college because she wanted a reaction out of him. Even then I somehow understood her cause I thought she had a doubt on imlie (even though was greatly disappointed with her being the kind of a woman who insults the other girl instead of questioning her husband ‘mujhe aditya ke liye dar lagta hai’ please) but ends up she didn’t all she thinks is aditya doesn’t love her anymore and loves imlie. Only a suspicion, actually, remove imlie from this equation completely, imagine she hadn’t even been there and problems had started between aditya and mun. Or if aditya had told her he doesn’t want to marry her. She would have still taken this same step because she is emotionally codependent on him she does not love him we’ve seen multiple examples of out of nowhere fear of him leaving her, even pre imlie. I tried really hard but I can’t find anything to connect to anymore, maybe I just like characters who don’t faint at the drop of a hat and have some sense of what they want from themselves outside of a person.

Malini is so bland character.. She bores me to core... I could have understood her pain if she knew for real.. Also I cannot bear such weak person be it men or women... You should fight for your right... Or try to talk out in better way... Talked to family Or there could have many better ways than the approach she is taking... Guilt tripping a person you claim to love... Making all family against the person you claim love.. Her love does not seem love in any case... It is obssesion and such person go to any length to to achieve what they want...

Above her acts shows she is such a weak person.. And I don't watch the show to idolize such weak character...

Imlie is my sunshine for whom I watch the show.

100% agree

Malini over Imlie any time.... ..hope she will come to know as earliest and She will be more happy and strong 👍🏼

Makers Just dont show Aditya is staying with Malini and sacrificing blah, blah blah...👎🏼

Hope Aditya and Imlie marries asap and have 10,15 kids ..good Luck to them..👍🏼

Couldn't have said better... @spelano.ws

Malini can have my sympathy but not liking or admiration...

Would prefer someone like Imlie any give day over didi.. and not saying this because of show or Aditya...

Malini's only claim to fame here is the situation, but individually, she is a exhausting character to watch or a person to be with..

Imlie as a character outside the Situation has lots of substance and vibes that Malini lacks..

People like Malini can gain a good sympathy as a fictional character, but in real life you run away from them because they are too exhausting

If you take out Aditya and Imlie and apparent attrocity they have inflicted on Didi, then what will be left of Didi...Every spice, content , arc of Malini revolves around Adilie...she is hollow individually

What quality she has to invoke any emotion within you, be it smile, happiness, hate, anger or like..

Sympathy and liking are two different things 👍

Originally posted by: sunshine333

Thanks for the indepth analysis from both POVs. So i would differ here. Malini is a career woman in her own right not just a housewife. She is not ambitious per se as “imlie” but that’s because she is settled and has a job she likes. She likes and cares for her in laws and family. She definitely has depth. She calls spade a spade. She called her mom out so many times.

But when it comes to Aditya she is not able to process the change in his behavior and the “why”. Imagine a VERY loving husband who seemingly changes overnight. Anyone would be like how ? Why? What happened here.

Imlie has clarity. She knows the whys and the hows of the situation. She knows the shit that went down in pagdandia but Malini doesn’t. Mailini is working in the dark. Her husband changed overnight and is not willing to open up. And when she finally did piece everything together it shocked her to the core. I can easily put myself in her shoes over imlie’s except the suicide step. But people who are emotionally fragile can do that. Not condoning it btw, just trying to put across her frame of mind.

omg you just spoke my mind ..that’s what I have been trying to say as well.. Imlie is aware of everything in Adityas life ., but Malini doesn’t have a clue.. poor Malini didn’t even get one day of her post wedding life with Aditya as he was mentally absent because of all the PD episode .. and why on earth did Imlie stay back even after he married mun, its plain hilarious and Uber-fictional 😝.. Imlie was aware about Adi having a fiancée even before their forced wedding ..Imlie was the one who emotionally blackmailed Aditya every single time whenever he tried to reveal the truth ..and agree PD is a village , don’t villagers or family come to Damad’s house even once after wedding , there are so many post wedding rituals in our country common🤷‍♀️ .. and for Holi? Before holi they were in PD, why didn’t Meethi accompany for daughters pehli holi ?? Ok she didn’t come to meet as Imlie once sent them away.. why they never called and spoke over telephone? The representation of Imlie’s sasural is just ADITYA for PD gang .. like seriously ?? Which lalaland is this on earth ?? Meethi being cheated herself sends her daughter away with so much trust! Hard to believe! The thing is show had such a unique concept .. I was hooked till the first two weeks, later on it just made no sense.. makers have not taken the writing part seriously .. they just want to show Adi-Imlie as the couple.. and how much Imlie values her forced Sindoor ..

That’s how a professor is supposed to be - she belongs to an affluent family and is a professor at a top college.. she is conducting herself exactly the way how a professor should .. her grace and her sarees and her language as well.. many people address each other as “aap” in Hindi to even similar age group people.. I have few of my classmates call me aap too it’s just a linguistic thing .. so what else was Malini supposed to do .. jump on vegetable carts and yell? Seriously 😂 and if Malini was that cunning, she wudnt have dated a middle class man like Aditya..for 7 long years .. which is why I totally get Anu opposing to Adi anyways .. oh wait Aditya has such a huge home in Delhi it sometimes appears bigger than Malini’s house to me , so unrealistic!!

Originally posted by: sunshine333

Ok after the caustic and taunting and yes even personal replies to my first post I was reluctant for a good number of days to post. But I decided to not be silenced and post why I support Malini over Imlie (and would do so even if this was a real life scenario)

- Adiya CHOSE to marry Malini. It was not an arranged marriage, they dated for SEVEN years and he was happy with malini by all standards till Imlie conveniently comes along. There’s name for it: the “shiny penny syndrome”

- Imlie is a “glorified” “unreal” “unrelatable” character. For ex. to make her “smart” they made her second in all india exams even when she had to finish it in half the time. I mean COME ON. Malini is much more relatable. We have all seen Malinis irl, none of us have ever seen an Imlie. She is truly a fictional and unrelatable character WHO DOESN’T EXIST.

- Everything that Malini does becomes that shes gaining shmpathy. Malini’s sacrifices are seen as “selfish” and “to gain sympathies” whereas imlies sacrifices are “genuine” and make her “mahaan”

- Imlie and Aditya are just plain nasty because they were romancing behind her back IN HER OWN ROOM while calling her didi didi. Didi this and didi that. I mean who would do that to her didi. Yuck yuck and more yuck.
- Malinis only mistake is she loves a useless guy like aditya and gave “shaye” to a naagin.

- Imlie has a CHOICE to remove herself from the situation but she CHOOSES NOT to. She talks the talk but doesn’t walk the walk. One ouo baby please .. two fake tears and both are shamelessly romancing each other behind didi’s back. just YUCK

- I understand that since imlie is the namesake of the show and the whole show is based on her she is bound to get some undeserved sympathies and audiences are naturally subconsciously inclined to support the lead “heroine”.

Anyways i would take a malini over imli ANY DAY in real life. Imlie is a classic example of someone who “appears good” on surface but is a manipulative shrew capable of deluding herself and working others to get her way.

Personal replies .. omg! Seriously ! Who did that ??And lol why step back , this is an open forum .. just report whatever crosses the line.. simple!

Agree with each one of you. Imli’s character is despicable so is Aditya. They are doing this knowingly when malini is clueless .