Hi this is my first post on this forum, though I visit it often. This happens to be only the second serial I am watching for any length of time. The earlier one lost my interest after 3 or so months. Hopefully this will hold my interest. So far it has. And the music... God! I am in love with the signature tune and the lyrics! Who writes those lines... if anybody knows please tell me.
I haven't watched any of the other serials from this production team or seen the actors before. But, having watched it for some time now I completely get why Harshad Chopra is so popular. The guy can act and portray a zillion emotions using just his eyes and with his body language. And I really like Shivya too. She portrays Arzoo's naivet and strength so well.
I don't even mind Kurti Appa - she does provide a certain comic relief in an otherwise extremely intense series. The character who truly bugs me is Nausheen. How she managed to raise 3 strong and confident young women is beyond me! I know there are women like that out there but they bug me no end.
Now coming to the reason for this post - I guess I may end up offending some of you with my opinions... for which I apologize. These are just my thoughts on a TV show and you are most welcome to dismiss them as absolute balderdash :).
I read about how some of the forum members were disappointed with the story for depicting a married man falling in love with another woman. Sure, his wife has been in a coma for 7 years and from the looks of it really trampled on this guy's heart while she was awake.
In our teens and our 20s and, maybe, even in our 30s many of us, who have grown up on a steady diet of fairy tales and Mills&Boons romance novels believe in a happily ever after with one guy. We are willing to concede that maybe we can have a couple of romances while in school or college that fizzle away or result in a broken heart. But then we meet THE guy. The one we will marry (love or arranged) and we will live happily ever after... deeply in love with each other.
The reality is a gazillion miles away. There are couples out there who I am sure are lucky enough to find that one mate or partner who loves them, the way they wish to be loved, for the rest of their lives. But for many, marriage also results in disillusionment - for whatever reasons - boredom, laziness, betrayal, insurmountable differences, bad luck, destiny... whatever. Sometimes couples can make peace and make amends and carry on - hopefully stronger and more truly' in love - the kind of love that is not sustained by red roses and candlelight dinner alone, but the kind of love that is kept afloat by daily acts of kindness and consideration. And if you are really lucky, you will share a deep abiding passion for each other.
However there are couples out there that are not so lucky - the ones who crack and fall apart - same reasons as above - boredom, laziness, betrayal, insurmountable differences, bad luck, destiny. But in this case they are not able to repair the damage and move on. They are stuck in a vicious loop... a tornado that is going to spit everyone out and around.
Falling in love is often dramatic - you find yourself feeling everything more sharply and with greater intensity. The joys, the angst, the gut wrenching pain, the missing, laughter, blue sky, flowers, kindness... everything. But falling out of love is one of the most hushed and soundless occurrences in our lives. It unfolds over days and weeks and we don't even realise it until one day we wake up and we realise that we are free... free of that aching pain that accompanies being head-over-heels in love. This is life. It is neither right nor wrong. It is human.
Sahir is human. Who is to say that it is wrong for a man who has been suffering and crumbling under so much of pain for so long, to finally, after 7 long years, feel the first stirrings of a new love in his heart? Is it wrong... to be human? Sure his wife is alive... which is why he is punishing himself - emotionally and physically. Sahir, in my opinion, no longer loves his comatose wife - maybe her betrayal has squeezed and killed that emotion in him. What he is burdened with is guilt. He is in as much of limbo as Zeenat... difference is that she is physically in a limbo and he is trapped in an emotional one.
No one can predict when love enters one's lives - you could be single, married, divorced or dating someone else. The only thing one can do under these circumstances is to be true to your higher selves and treat yourself and your partner with integrity. And so far I find Sahir doing it and I have a feeling that Arzoo too will make the choices that ring honest. They may fall in love, but they will not betray or demean themselves or the other people in their lives. Of course, given how shockingly the makers of the last serial I watched destroyed the characters and the story, I am crossing all my fingers while I type this out. Hopefully the characters of Humsafars and their relationships are treated with the dignity and maturity they, and we as an audience, deserve.
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