What is Love? - Page 6

Originally posted by: ...Jes...

thank u !!! 😳🤗 i was afraid none wil read my blabbering ..bu thanks Vildana 🤗😆

Sana is excellence,so as vibhav ...bcoz of both of them we can relate to LaKhil!!! ⭐️

Hehe naa dear, I agree with you in all.

Originally posted by: janiya2010

Guys after watching today episode i am very happy finally lajjo set him free and nikhil face was full of ????????????????????😆.one more thing should happen after nikhil goes back he should come to know abt barkha,nani and ishana's plan and how they did to lajjo to remove her out of his life it would be icing on the cake to see the mad, and angry nikhil😆.I just want to see how nikhil kicks ishana out of his life enough of her we had😡.

even we all are just waiting for that! ⭐️

Originally posted by: ziks

Hmm jes i just read all the replies and amazing definitions of love .

If we give human form to love it exactly looks like laajo .
Love is laajo and laajo is love jes. As simple as that .

In my opinion love is keeping the person whom u loved happy at any cost . For making
him/her happy people can do any sacrifice they will go go to any extent .

If her death gives him happiness they are be ready to die wont think even for one second
they can do anything they can take any decision they can fight with the whole world even
with god to keep loved ones happy .

In real love there wont be any expectations always giving not expecting anything
in return . If other person is happy then in their smile in their happiness they will find
their happiness .

Really in love if we love other person sincerely truly then the distance does n't matters
Where ever he or she may be we always feel them close to our heart .

In one sentence if we have to say if one truly loves other person from that second or
instance his/her life is not theirs . They wont live for their own after falling in love they
start to live for other person . We feel that their sorrows are our sorrows and their
happiness is our happiness .

Love is selfless and unconditional Just like laajo's .

Ishaana 's love as someone said its posessive love , selfish love , fake love ,
Forcing the other person emotionally blackmailing them by making them guilty ,
lying cheating to get the other person at any cost . I will never call ishaana 's love as love

And coming to Nikhil Yaar its complicated yaar . So confusing . I think and beleives he loves
ishaana and what he feels for laajo is admiration for all her qualities , yes i agree that
sometimes i also feel that he is connected to laajo at emotional level . But on observing him
i again beleive that no he does n't have any love feelings for laajo .


Nikhil during ishaana's engagement drama he felt his life was over he can't live without
ishaana even for one second . He was completely devastated when he felt that ishaana
is going to seperate from him . He simply died lived like a dead person .

But when laajo is going to separate from him i never found the 1% of sadness , despair
in him when compared with ishaana scene .

I agree he was not feeling good but by seeing him now since laajo seperated from
him he never ever felt the pain of laajo's sepearation . The way he cried and shouted with
pain and collapsed during ishaana scene the emotions he went through , the raw
pain he went through . I felt he loves ishaana .

But with laajo he knows she is seperating from him forever . I dont think its making
a much difference to him as ishaana's seperation i mean he is not feeling that raw
pain , he is not that much sad , he misses laajo likes a lot her but not to the extent that
he could n't live without her i mean he is not dreading of laajo's separtion . He does nt
feel haapy about laajo seperation . surely he is feeling sad . But He is fine
with it .

I always compares nikhil ishaana scenes with nikhil laajo's . My mind stucked to the
scene where nikhil felt that his life is utter waste and he cant live with out ishaana and
how he dreaded the seperation and how he cried before laajo . How he always reveals
his fears before laajo that he cant bear the seperation with ishaana . how he hates his life
without ishaana . Iam confused jes .

I dont know jes i had given a sensible reply . But i tried yaar . 😆

even i m saying the same thing yaar ..Laajo is love! <3 and i don't even need to give theories for that ..it is so damn visible!

i slightly will disagree ..Love doesn't mean to die for that person which Laajo finally realized ..what is the greatness in dying?it is only brave when u live and fight .. and i agree,it is bcoz of love,u r willing to die ..but there cant be only one person who loves u and whose love matters to you ..only love can make u think on this ..even if those persons are not there but still u need to remember their wishes ..specially who have given u this life .. i believe life is a gift by parents and god .. it is very unfair on our part to end it for someone whom we love .. when u have opportunity to fight ..there is no need to die :) ..and love also never makes u think ur life is a waste ..there are really many persons around who are hungry for ur love ..u just need to look around yourself!


And,yes i know u compare Ishana and Nikhil's scenes with laKhil's ..and again i would say the same thing! that's why i found Nikhil's approach toward Laajo is Love..i also see many ppl around me who are ready to die for not getting love,they write their lover's names,do tattoos and so on ..but i don't believe in such expressions of love .. even my many friends claims to die for their bfs and blah blah but i honestly can't relate with them ..coz for me my parents r more important,even if i get the person in life i won't sacrifice them ..love helps u to fix priorities as well! and what Nikhil has done for ishana is nowhere love for me ..i do believe at a point u feel weak like Laajo but later there is a rise ..but Nikhil doesn't have it like Laajo ..bcoz he simply doesn't love Ishana ..if there love existed then Nikhil must have been a solved person till now ..like we saw it only took few months for Laajo,maybe Nikhil wld take a bit longer ..but that's not the point! the biggest difference ..we claim it is Laajo who defies Love ..but has she ever thought of anyone else other than Nikhil?No,there is no need to yaar ..only his thoughts are enough to lead her whole life,this is what love's power ..but Nikhil is constantly and continuously feelings his erge towards Laajo ..now how is that possible if he so immensely loves Ishana???

I can't change ur perspective dear ..but it is really simple if u rise above the pains Laajo has faced ..if u believe love is unconditional ..then why we r angry with Nikhil on giving her pain?was there any condition like Nikhil can't hurt Laajo???there are simply no conditions ..just bcoz u love someone doesn't mean he won't/can't hurt u,or won't/can't make u feel low ..he has the power to brake u completely and only u have given him this right ..then why any regrets? and here one point can be raise that Nikhil was broken everytime things related to ishana happened..but now u urself compare ..what laajo feels for Nikhil and Nikhil feels for ishana?are they both same from any angle??? and is they appears same to you,then i m helpless to explain it any further ! 😳

@Bold: and this proves it is just a mere obsession ..like i would too hate my life i don't get to come to IF and blabber here 😆 but this is not Love ..in real sense i love my life more than all this .. bcoz i have my loved ones in it and just for one person/thing i can't hate it .. Love can never make u hate anyone and specially urself! i mean this is the only purpose of Love and it is to love urself .. that person is just the medium ..but ultimately u end up in loving urself ..that's why even without that person u can keep loving him bcoz it is about ur soul and ur strength! and Nikhil thinks it to be Ishana but if it was her he would have loved his life the way Laajo is doing now ..she seems sad but she really is satisfied with her life ..she is not making Nikhil guilt free out of any other thing,she genuinely believes so ..she has reached that level where she believes she doesn't even need Nikhil to love him ..she can love him forever even without having him with her! he would have felt guilt free even being burdened with them just like Laajo ..we think she has no guilts but there are lots of ..she just doesn't feel important to give priority to them coz her love has rose above all this !

Originally posted by: VildanaROSID

Hehe naa dear, I agree with you in all.

I agree they both rock this show, love to watch them as jodi. Cant wait to watch ep when they will be in love for real, I mean when Nikhil realize his feelings. 😳

ywa i knw yaar ..but we need to wait ..after it is this wait which makes things worth living!

Originally posted by: ...Jes...

even i m saying the same thing yaar ..Laajo is love! <3 and i don't even need to give theories for that ..it is so damn visible!

i slightly will disagree ..Love doesn't mean to die for that person which Laajo finally realized ..what is the greatness in dying?it is only brave when u live and fight .. and i agree,it is bcoz of love,u r willing to die ..but there cant be only one person who loves u and whose love matters to you ..only love can make u think on this ..even if those persons are not there but still u need to remember their wishes ..specially who have given u this life .. i believe life is a gift by parents and god .. it is very unfair on our part to end it for someone whom we love .. when u have opportunity to fight ..there is no need to die :) ..and love also never makes u think ur life is a waste ..there are really many persons around who are hungry for ur love ..u just need to look around yourself!


And,yes i know u compare Ishana and Nikhil's scenes with laKhil's ..and again i would say the same thing! that's why i found Nikhil's approach toward Laajo is Love..i also see many ppl around me who are ready to die for not getting love,they write their lover's names,do tattoos and so on ..but i don't believe in such expressions of love .. even my many friends claims to die for their bfs and blah blah but i honestly can't relate with them ..coz for me my parents r more important,even if i get the person in life i won't sacrifice them ..love helps u to fix priorities as well! and what Nikhil has done for ishana is nowhere love for me ..i do believe at a point u feel weak like Laajo but later there is a rise ..but Nikhil doesn't have it like Laajo ..bcoz he simply doesn't love Ishana ..if there love existed then Nikhil must have been a solved person till now ..like we saw it only took few months for Laajo,maybe Nikhil wld take a bit longer ..but that's not the point! the biggest difference ..we claim it is Laajo who defies Love ..but has she ever thought of anyone else other than Nikhil?No,there is no need to yaar ..only his thoughts are enough to lead her whole life,this is what love's power ..but Nikhil is constantly and continuously feelings his erge towards Laajo ..now how is that possible if he so immensely loves Ishana???

I can't change ur perspective dear ..but it is really simple if u rise above the pains Laajo has faced ..if u believe love is unconditional ..then why we r angry with Nikhil on giving her pain?was there any condition like Nikhil can't hurt Laajo???there are simply no conditions ..just bcoz u love someone doesn't mean he won't/can't hurt u,or won't/can't make u feel low ..he has the power to brake u completely and only u have given him this right ..then why any regrets? and here one point can be raise that Nikhil was broken everytime things related to ishana happened..but now u urself compare ..what laajo feels for Nikhil and Nikhil feels for ishana?are they both same from any angle??? and is they appears same to you,then i m helpless to explain it any further ! 😳

@Bold: and this proves it is just a mere obsession ..like i would too hate my life i don't get to come to IF and blabber here 😆 but this is not Love ..in real sense i love my life more than all this .. bcoz i have my loved ones in it and just for one person/thing i can't hate it .. Love can never make u hate anyone and specially urself! i mean this is the only purpose of Love and it is to love urself .. that person is just the medium ..but ultimately u end up in loving urself ..that's why even without that person u can keep loving him bcoz it is about ur soul and ur strength! and Nikhil thinks it to be Ishana but if it was her he would have loved his life the way Laajo is doing now ..she seems sad but she really is satisfied with her life ..she is not making Nikhil guilt free out of any other thing,she genuinely believes so ..she has reached that level where she believes she doesn't even need Nikhil to love him ..she can love him forever even without having him with her! he would have felt guilt free even being burdened with them just like Laajo ..we think she has no guilts but there are lots of ..she just doesn't feel important to give priority to them coz her love has rose above all this !

I could n't disagree with u more jes . I totally respect and understand ur opinions and
views about love and life . Yes love has to make the person live not die .

But in love one can go to any extent any lengths yaar . If suppose they failed
in love if they did nt get their loved ones then sometimes in that depression every thing
every person nothing noone matters . They will behave in a way laajo behaved
giving up on her life . I too wont support such actions yaar i too admire and like
people who value their life and fight till end . I dont like weak people who
ends their life in the name of love . I agree with ur views completly .

I agree with u on the point that in unconditional love there should n't be any
expectations and any regrets . I think its laajo's oneside unconditional love and
nikhil should nt be blamed even though he brakes laajo . Because laajo has given him
that power .

Yeah i agree with u that surely there is a difference in laajo's love towards nikhil
and nikhil's towards ishaana . Lot of diference i can feel . But not have clarity
about the difference in their love .

And whether nikhil really loves ishaana or not ? well i cant say now yaar .
I did n't get enough proofs that he does n't love ishaana .

Yesterday when he was looking at laajo i surely felt there was depth some feelings
not sure what are they ?not only intense worry guilt concern something more i
found . I was confused . But still i did n't get enough proofs that he does nt love
ishaana and what he feels for laajo is love .

But certainly i did find a slight change in him towards laajo . He was moved

Originally posted by: ziks

I could n't disagree with u more jes . I totally respect and understand ur opinions and
views about love and life . Yes love has to make the person live not die .

But in love one can go to any extent any lengths yaar . If suppose they failed
in love if they did nt get their loved ones then sometimes in that depression every thing
every person nothing noone matters . They will behave in a way laajo behaved
giving up on her life . I too wont support such actions yaar i too admire and like
people who value their life and fight till end . I dont like weak people who
ends their life in the name of love . I agree with ur views completly .

I agree with u on the point that in unconditional love there should n't be any
expectations and any regrets . I think its laajo's oneside unconditional love and
nikhil should nt be blamed even though he brakes laajo . Because laajo has given him
that power .

Yeah i agree with u that surely there is a difference in laajo's love towards nikhil
and nikhil's towards ishaana . Lot of diference i can feel . But not have clarity
about the difference in their love .

And whether nikhil really loves ishaana or not ? well i cant say now yaar .
I did n't get enough proofs that he does n't love ishaana .

Yesterday when he was looking at laajo i surely felt there was depth some feelings
not sure what are they ?not only intense worry guilt concern something more i
found . I was confused . But still i did n't get enough proofs that he does nt love
ishaana and what he feels for laajo is love .

But certainly i did find a slight change in him towards laajo . He was moved

well maybe bcoz ppl take weak ppl as role models and act like that .. i have seen enough of dying and all ..but i honestly haven't seen such weak ppl in m real life,i mean ppl whom i admire.. all have been hell strong in their fights ..so yah maybe that's y i feel that Love can't make ppl die :) for me Love is your strength and it is in ur hands to turn it into ur weakness ..and i just can't do it!

i knw still u won't find it there bcoz the way u r seeing it is totally dif and just my words can't do it unless u experience it the way i m saying .. i mean u r judging it on proofs ..but i m judging it on my senses ..love can't be judged by any proofs and whom u think to be as proofs atm later they wil only backfire u! plz don't mind yaar ..totally my views :)

yes he is moved by her from day one ..otherwise he would never have married her ..so simple it is! now i can believe Laajo was naive but not Nikhil,he was having a realtionship and he knew what marriage can be very well ..so on his part he always has emotions for her but he always has denied them as well .. he never had the guts to reject her ..rather Laajo has rejected her when it was needed ..!! 😳

And,i guess love is not about convincing or being convinced yaar ..it si about believing!!

I think after reading all the above perspectives of love , one may feel it is difficult to define it in words, rather only feel it!!

Originally posted by: varshitap

I think after reading all the above perspectives of love , one may feel it is difficult to define it in words, rather only feel it!!

According to me Love should be unbiased, unconditional and so it is divine. It is a connection between souls which makes them feel incomplete without other.

Coming to Ishana's Love for Nikhil( I think it is more to be with him and feel pampered by him) Can we call this Love?!!! may be yes in her terms. An unbiased view may be that it is obsession of possession ( that is she feels she owns Nikhil and wants him to make her feel special all the time). I think her Love is more Desire than Love.

Nikhil's Love for Ishana is of compulsion . As we all know that Nikhil grew up as a lonely child and he feels that Ishana loves him and he cant afford to let her go . This invariably has cast a screen around him that he cannot see any other definition of love!!!😕

Coming to Laajo's Love for Nikhil , I think it is what Love is all about " Spreading Happiness in the life of Nikhil" though it may mean that she remains unhappy. Her Love is without expectations ,

unconditional and ever forgiving. What can we call this ?!! Isnt it DIVINE? This type of love is difficult to be seen in real life , we can only be inspired by such love . Because Love and Sacrifice are two faces of same coin. Well on a philosophical note Lord Buddha has said " Desire is the main cause of unhappiness"!! I think Ishana will soon realize this!!!😉😆

awww thanks for commenting dear! :) yah i too belive it is about souls and words are never enough to describe it ,u just need to feel it <3

yah agree on each point .. :D

@bold: OMG! 🤣 yah she will realize soon 😉😆

Originally posted by: ...Jes...

Okay,i finally thought to post my thoughts again which i have been doing with this whole thread ..i JUST love this thread ..it is a treat to read all your replies ..thank u guys! :D

i kept thinking should i post my thoughts and bore u all ..coz i knw if i start to write,i won't stop ..so it is on u guys to bear my torture or not !!! 😳

okay maybe when i was going through teenage confusions about Love(well i am still a teenager,no doubts about that😆) i came through some really good English movies which only focused on soul connections .. now it is not necessary to watch western movies to know what it Love .. but as i m a tv freak and couldn't rise above it .. so i had watched ..later i moved on to Tagore theories and his depictions which totally amazed me .. i mean i fell short of words when this man comes ..they way he lived this emotion called love .. then the chain keeps going on and on ..

i have heard and seen about various forms of Love but which i can relate with is this quote from A Walk to Remember By Nicolas Sparks:
'Love is always patient and kind,it is never jealous,love is never boastful or conceited,it is never rude or selfish,it does not take offense and it is not resentful.Love takes no pleasure in other people's sins but delights in the truth,it is always ready to excuse,to trust,to hope and to endure whatever comes.Love does not come to an end.'

this is what i genuinely feel about Love .. Love is about being clam and quiet .. being compassionate towards others .. it doesn't revolve around only the person whom you love ..if u love someone, anyone can touch ur heart which slightest attempts ..they can make u happy and even make u cry .. Love is about exploring a whole new yourself .. love is an excuse to love others .. it the most easiest feeling one can feel at any moment of life .. it just brings your inner beauty out and makes u beautiful .. makes u yourself! it is like living a whole life with a redefined yourself. it is like another chance to rear urself up by urself .. it just makes u complete ..one who loves someone can never feel incomplete ..the whole world comes forward to complete that person ..world becomes more reletable to that person and anywhere in world that person is able to find love and love others ..it is above general way of accepting thins and reacting ..it is sensible in its own ways yet appears childish when u think about yourself ..it just makes u think towards the lager picture and accept things the way they are ..and doesn't take credit in changing them ..it enables people to accept things gladly and still not complaining ..there is simply no end to it ..once you have felt love,it will conquer even the world for you and always will make u feel satisfied even if u are in the darkest phase of ur life ..it just makes feel you blessed to live!

okay i have blabbered enough ..i can go all day on about what i feel about love ..so now coming to LaKhil .. and sorry i cant relate to Ishu ..she doesn't fall into my category ..so other than criticizing her ..it's better not to talk about her :)

So Laajo ..i can see the whole transformation done in her ..they way she has lived this emotion called love ..is so visible to everyone .. she has turned into a wise and sensible person .. she has guts but she doesn't want to misuse them .. she wants to appreciate everyone .. but she doesn't believe in ignoring herself ..her self respect and self esteem is one side and others are one side .. she loves Nikhil at her best but she has never said it to him coz she knows it is not about telling,it is about sensing ..is is about believing ..she knows her truth ..now it doesn't matter what even Nikhil thinks and does ..and this is where she is real for me .. she has made her own world where she is allowed to love Nikhil hopelessly and helplessly ..none is allowed to stop her there ..she feels blessed about it ..there is no regrets,no blaming,no guilt ..it shows her inner strength and her capability to love someone/Nikhil .. i just relate to her to some other extent ..she just makes my heart get proud and satisfied ..she is way too beautiful than i can express !!

Coming to Nikhil .. well i know most of discussion is done on him and some tried to assure he loves Laajo and some thinks it is Ishana ..everyone is justified at own place ..i can't change others way of thinking and i never tend to do so as well .. what i feel about Nikhil is ,he loves Laajo with his everything ..he can give away his everything for this girl named Laajo ..he can sacrifice his gf by marrying her,he can jump into water blindly for her,he can support her while against the whole society(when she broke her marriage coz of dowry),he can ran all the way with his life on hands to know that she is sick,he can keep waiting for her to wake up without even blinking once,he can spend his days in a place where people are dying constantly and continuously,he can be indifferent to his health and life but just needs to be sure that she is out of danger .. YES! he can do all this .. but he just can't love her damn it! To him Love is an unknown feeling ..so unknown that even being in grip of this feeling,he can't understand it ..he just fails to realize the havoc running inside him.he is not even proud of that,yes that's the way he is .. he can go to any extent for her but still can't name it Love.

i saw someone i guess Sami Di(sorry,if i m wrong Di,i just noticed in ur WUs) saying in WU that they share a platonic relation atm.but why? can even being in touch physically assure Love?physical desire is another thing ..it has nothing to do with Love..ppl assume that it is the next step in Love,a relationship ..but there is no steps in love..it is itself a very rich feeling/element.it needs nothing else to complete it ..it is never proud of doing so and never depends on such contacts.bcoz later these other feelings cause this feeling called love ..everyone keeps blaming love for someone's downfall ..but i simply don't believe that .. how can smiling cause you?how can believing cause you?how can being hopeful cause you?it is just our bad deeds for whom we keep blaming love..Love gets just completed to even get one glimpse of that person ..and even without seeing that person ..it just makes u smile even that person is nowhere near there ..u r able to enjoy more deeply with tears ..it just completes you in another way that u don't even realize it!

wow Jes you beautifully said all...and I couldn't agree with you more...

OMG...I watched the movie A Walk to remember its amazing movie

^thanks Hanz for being so patient to read it! 😳😆🤗

yes it is a great movie ..and i have always been fan of concepts where girls die ..i mean u kwn na! 😉😆 the movie was not so unique but it touched my heart <3 and the transformation in love happens <3