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Posted: 11 years ago
#41
Hmm jes i just read all the replies and amazing definitions of love .

If we give human form to love it exactly looks like laajo .
Love is laajo and laajo is love jes. As simple as that .

In my opinion love is keeping the person whom u loved happy at any cost . For making
him/her happy people can do any sacrifice they will go go to any extent .

If her death gives him happiness they are be ready to die wont think even for one second
they can do anything they can take any decision they can fight with the whole world even
with god to keep loved ones happy .

In real love there wont be any expectations always giving not expecting anything
in return . If other person is happy then in their smile in their happiness they will find
their happiness .

Really in love if we love other person sincerely truly then the distance does n't matters
Where ever he or she may be we always feel them close to our heart .

In one sentence if we have to say if one truly loves other person from that second or
instance his/her life is not theirs . They wont live for their own after falling in love they
start to live for other person . We feel that their sorrows are our sorrows and their
happiness is our happiness .

Love is selfless and unconditional Just like laajo's .

Ishaana 's love as someone said its posessive love , selfish love , fake love ,
Forcing the other person emotionally blackmailing them by making them guilty ,
lying cheating to get the other person at any cost . I will never call ishaana 's love as love

And coming to Nikhil Yaar its complicated yaar . So confusing . I think and beleives he loves
ishaana and what he feels for laajo is admiration for all her qualities , yes i agree that
sometimes i also feel that he is connected to laajo at emotional level . But on observing him
i again beleive that no he does n't have any love feelings for laajo .


Nikhil during ishaana's engagement drama he felt his life was over he can't live without
ishaana even for one second . He was completely devastated when he felt that ishaana
is going to seperate from him . He simply died lived like a dead person .

But when laajo is going to separate from him i never found the 1% of sadness , despair
in him when compared with ishaana scene .

I agree he was not feeling good but by seeing him now since laajo seperated from
him he never ever felt the pain of laajo's sepearation . The way he cried and shouted with
pain and collapsed during ishaana scene the emotions he went through , the raw
pain he went through . I felt he loves ishaana .

But with laajo he knows she is seperating from him forever . I dont think its making
a much difference to him as ishaana's seperation i mean he is not feeling that raw
pain , he is not that much sad , he misses laajo likes a lot her but not to the extent that
he could n't live without her i mean he is not dreading of laajo's separtion . He does nt
feel haapy about laajo seperation . surely he is feeling sad . But He is fine
with it .

I always compares nikhil ishaana scenes with nikhil laajo's . My mind stucked to the
scene where nikhil felt that his life is utter waste and he cant live with out ishaana and
how he dreaded the seperation and how he cried before laajo . How he always reveals
his fears before laajo that he cant bear the seperation with ishaana . how he hates his life
without ishaana . Iam confused jes .

I dont know jes i had given a sensible reply . But i tried yaar . 😆


Edited by ziks - 11 years ago
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Posted: 11 years ago
#42

Originally posted by: ziks

Hmm jes i just read all the replies and amazing definitions of love .

If we give human form to love it exactly looks like laajo .
Love is laajo and laajo is love jes. As simple as that .

In my opinion love is keeping the person whom u loved happy at any cost . For making
him/her happy people can do any sacrifice they will go go to any extent .

If her death gives him happiness they are be ready to die wont think even for one second
they can do anything they can take any decision they can fight with the whole world even
with god to keep loved ones happy .

In real love there wont be any expectations always giving not expecting anything
in return . If other person is happy then in their smile in their happiness they will find
their happiness .

Really in love if we love other person sincerely truly then the distance does n't matters
Where ever he or she may be we always feel them close to our heart .

In one sentence if we have to say if one truly loves other person from that second or
instance his/her life is not theirs . They wont live for their own after falling in love they
start to live for other person . We feel that their sorrows are our sorrows and their
happiness is our happiness .

Love is selfless and unconditional Just like laajo's .

Ishaana 's love as someone said its posessive love , selfish love , fake love ,
Forcing the other person emotionally blackmailing them by making them guilty ,
lying cheating to get the other person at any cost . I will never call ishaana 's love as love

And coming to Nikhil Yaar its complicated yaar . So confusing . I think and beleives he loves
ishaana and what he feels for laajo is admiration for all her qualities , yes i agree that
sometimes i also feel that he is connected to laajo at emotional level . But on observing him
i again beleive that no he does n't have any love feelings for laajo .


Nikhil during ishaana's engagement drama he felt his life was over he can't live without
ishaana even for one second . He was completely devastated when he felt that ishaana
is going to seperate from him . He simply died lived like a dead person .

But when laajo is going to separate from him i never found the 1% of sadness , despair
in him when compared with ishaana scene .

I agree he was not feeling good but by seeing him now since laajo seperated from
him he never ever felt the pain of laajo's sepearation . The way he cried and shouted with
pain and collapsed during ishaana scene the emotions he went through , the raw
pain he went through . I felt he loves ishaana .

But with laajo he knows she is seperating from him forever . I dont think its making
a much difference to him as ishaana's seperation i mean he is not feeling that raw
pain , he is not that much sad , he misses laajo likes a lot her but not to the extent that
he could n't live without her i mean he is not dreading of laajo's separtion . He does nt
feel haapy about laajo seperation . surely he is feeling sad . But He is fine
with it .

I always compares nikhil ishaana scenes with nikhil laajo's . My mind stucked to the
scene where nikhil felt that his life is utter waste and he cant live with out ishaana and
how he dreaded the seperation and how he cried before laajo . How he always reveals
his fears before laajo that he cant bear the seperation with ishaana . how he hates his life
without ishaana . Iam confused jes .

I dont know jes i had given a sensible reply . But i tried yaar . 😆





@ bold : I wouldn't disagree with you with the points you have raised, because like you said, if we compare Nikhil-Ishana Scenes and Nikhil-Lajoo scenes, then yes it surely seems that he still loves Ishana, and maybe that is the case, but there are a few things that comes to my mind when I say to myself that Nikhil still loves Ishana only and those points are :

Nikhil had left Son Barsa and was halfway back to Delhi, but he returned back and married Lajoo, with his own will. How can you marry someone, even if it is out of guilt, when you are so crazy in love with someone else.

Other thing which comes to my mind is after Lajoo left Nikhil and cameback to Som Barsa, Nikhil had to be pushed into signing the divorce papers. If he is so in love with Ishana, if he can't live without her, why the hesitation. He should have signed the papers instantly, because he already had the go ahead from Lajoo, she had written him in his letter that she has left him for good and he can move on with his life.

Last but not the least, look at the contrast between the two relationships. Remember when Ishana was sick once, she tied Nikhil to herself physically with a duppatta so he wouldn't leave her in the middle of the night, because even with him telling her how much he loves her, she still fett insecure, whereas, Lajoo who was on the verge of death, who had forbade her family about telling about her condition to Nikhil, he somehow sensed that something bad was about to happen. Lajoo doesn't need any physical restraints to tie herself to Nikhil, they are already connected to each other.

The question is, why can't Nikhil realize this ? Why does it pain his so much to be separated from Ishana, maybe it is love, or maybe it is because Ishana is more of a habit/obsession/addiction for Nikhil, because he has this emotional dependency on her, which has been constantly satiated since his brother died, and Ishana became his lifeline. After loosing his brother, who was like God to him, he transferred all that love and devotion to Ishana, because he was brutally rejected by his mom and blamed for killing the brother he worshiped.

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Posted: 11 years ago
#43
Okay,i finally thought to post my thoughts again which i have been doing with this whole thread ..i JUST love this thread ..it is a treat to read all your replies ..thank u guys! :D

i kept thinking should i post my thoughts and bore u all ..coz i knw if i start to write,i won't stop ..so it is on u guys to bear my torture or not !!! 😳

okay maybe when i was going through teenage confusions about Love(well i am still a teenager,no doubts about that😆) i came through some really good English movies which only focused on soul connections .. now it is not necessary to watch western movies to know what it Love .. but as i m a tv freak and couldn't rise above it .. so i had watched ..later i moved on to Tagore theories and his depictions which totally amazed me .. i mean i fell short of words when this man comes ..they way he lived this emotion called love .. then the chain keeps going on and on ..

i have heard and seen about various forms of Love but which i can relate with is this quote from A Walk to Remember By Nicolas Sparks:
'Love is always patient and kind,it is never jealous,love is never boastful or conceited,it is never rude or selfish,it does not take offense and it is not resentful.Love takes no pleasure in other people's sins but delights in the truth,it is always ready to excuse,to trust,to hope and to endure whatever comes.Love does not come to an end.'

this is what i genuinely feel about Love .. Love is about being clam and quiet .. being compassionate towards others .. it doesn't revolve around only the person whom you love ..if u love someone, anyone can touch ur heart which slightest attempts ..they can make u happy and even make u cry .. Love is about exploring a whole new yourself .. love is an excuse to love others .. it the most easiest feeling one can feel at any moment of life .. it just brings your inner beauty out and makes u beautiful .. makes u yourself! it is like living a whole life with a redefined yourself. it is like another chance to rear urself up by urself .. it just makes u complete ..one who loves someone can never feel incomplete ..the whole world comes forward to complete that person ..world becomes more reletable to that person and anywhere in world that person is able to find love and love others ..it is above general way of accepting thins and reacting ..it is sensible in its own ways yet appears childish when u think about yourself ..it just makes u think towards the lager picture and accept things the way they are ..and doesn't take credit in changing them ..it enables people to accept things gladly and still not complaining ..there is simply no end to it ..once you have felt love,it will conquer even the world for you and always will make u feel satisfied even if u are in the darkest phase of ur life ..it just makes feel you blessed to live!

okay i have blabbered enough ..i can go all day on about what i feel about love ..so now coming to LaKhil .. and sorry i cant relate to Ishu ..she doesn't fall into my category ..so other than criticizing her ..it's better not to talk about her :)

So Laajo ..i can see the whole transformation done in her ..they way she has lived this emotion called love ..is so visible to everyone .. she has turned into a wise and sensible person .. she has guts but she doesn't want to misuse them .. she wants to appreciate everyone .. but she doesn't believe in ignoring herself ..her self respect and self esteem is one side and others are one side .. she loves Nikhil at her best but she has never said it to him coz she knows it is not about telling,it is about sensing ..is is about believing ..she knows her truth ..now it doesn't matter what even Nikhil thinks and does ..and this is where she is real for me .. she has made her own world where she is allowed to love Nikhil hopelessly and helplessly ..none is allowed to stop her there ..she feels blessed about it ..there is no regrets,no blaming,no guilt ..it shows her inner strength and her capability to love someone/Nikhil .. i just relate to her to some other extent ..she just makes my heart get proud and satisfied ..she is way too beautiful than i can express !!

Coming to Nikhil .. well i know most of discussion is done on him and some tried to assure he loves Laajo and some thinks it is Ishana ..everyone is justified at own place ..i can't change others way of thinking and i never tend to do so as well .. what i feel about Nikhil is ,he loves Laajo with his everything ..he can give away his everything for this girl named Laajo ..he can sacrifice his gf by marrying her,he can jump into water blindly for her,he can support her while against the whole society(when she broke her marriage coz of dowry),he can ran all the way with his life on hands to know that she is sick,he can keep waiting for her to wake up without even blinking once,he can spend his days in a place where people are dying constantly and continuously,he can be indifferent to his health and life but just needs to be sure that she is out of danger .. YES! he can do all this .. but he just can't love her damn it! To him Love is an unknown feeling ..so unknown that even being in grip of this feeling,he can't understand it ..he just fails to realize the havoc running inside him.he is not even proud of that,yes that's the way he is .. he can go to any extent for her but still can't name it Love.

i saw someone i guess Sami Di(sorry,if i m wrong Di,i just noticed in ur WUs) saying in WU that they share a platonic relation atm.but why? can even being in touch physically assure Love?physical desire is another thing ..it has nothing to do with Love..ppl assume that it is the next step in Love,a relationship ..but there is no steps in love..it is itself a very rich feeling/element.it needs nothing else to complete it ..it is never proud of doing so and never depends on such contacts.bcoz later these other feelings cause this feeling called love ..everyone keeps blaming love for someone's downfall ..but i simply don't believe that .. how can smiling cause you?how can believing cause you?how can being hopeful cause you?it is just our bad deeds for whom we keep blaming love..Love gets just completed to even get one glimpse of that person ..and even without seeing that person ..it just makes u smile even that person is nowhere near there ..u r able to enjoy more deeply with tears ..it just completes you in another way that u don't even realize it!

Edited by ...Jes... - 11 years ago
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Posted: 11 years ago
#44

Originally posted by: ...Jes...

Okay,i finally thought to post my thoughts again which i have been doing with this whole thread ..i JUST love this thread ..it is a treat to read all your replies ..thank u guys! :D

okay maybe when i was going through teenage confusions about Love(well i am still a teenage,no doubts about that😆) i came through some really good English movies which only focused on soul connections .. now it is not necessary to watch western movies to know what it Love .. but as i m a tv freak and can't rise above it .. so i had watched ..later i moved on to Tagore theories and his depictions which totally amazed me .. i mean i fell short of words when this man comes ..they way he lived this emotion called love .. then the chain keeps going on and on ..

i have heard and seen about various forms of Love but which i can relate with is this quote from A Walk to Remember By Nicolas Sparks:
'Love is always patient and kind,it is never jealous,love is never boastful or conceited,it is never rude or selfish,it does not take offense and it is not resentful.Love takes no pleasure in other people's sins but delights in the truth,it is always ready to excuse,to trust,to hope and to endure whatever comes.Love does not come to an end.'

this is what i genuinely feel about Love .. Love is about being clam and quiet .. being compassionate towards others .. it doesn't revolve around only the person whom you love ..if u love someone, anyone can touch ur heart which slightest attempts ..they can make u happy and even make u cry .. Love is about exploring a whole new yourself .. love is an excuse to love others .. it the most easiest feeling one can feel at any moment of life .. it just brings your inner beauty out and makes u beautiful .. makes u yourself! it is like living a whole life with a redefined yourself. it is like another chance to rear urself up by urself .. it just makes u complete ..one who loves soemoen can never feel incomplete ..the whole world comes forward to compl;ete that person ..world becomes more relatable to that person and anywhere in world that person is able to find love and love others ..it is above genral way of loving ..

Oh God, yaar how I love this your post. 🤗
Awesome, I agree with every your word. When you're with someone in bad moments, is really something special. Thats mean you care for someone, you cant see that person in tears, you cant see that person hurt. That is all love.
Edited by VildanaROSID - 11 years ago
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Posted: 11 years ago
#45

Originally posted by: VildanaROSID

Oh God, yaar how I love this your post. 🤗

Awesome, I agree with every your word. When you're with someone in bad moments, is really something special. Thats mean you care for someone, you cant see that person in tears, you cant see that person hurt. That is all love.

Vildana 🤗 thanks hun :*
and i m still editing yaar ..i have written about Laajo and Nikhil is yet to come ..also i have corrected the typing errors! 😳😆
and thank you again! 🤗
Edited by ...Jes... - 11 years ago
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#46

Originally posted by: ...Jes...

Vildana 🤗 thanks hun :*
and i m still editing yaar ..i have written about Laajo and Nikhil is yet to come ..also i have corrected the typing errors! 😳😆
and thank you again! 🤗

U r wellcome dear 🤗 but yes, seems that we share same thinking.
I saw it now dear, that you edit.

I will this one to its from Dear Jhon, Nicholas Sparks.

"I finally understood what true love meant...love meant that you care for another person's happiness more than your own, no matter how painful the choices you face might be."

This for sure is about Laajo.
Edited by VildanaROSID - 11 years ago
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Posted: 11 years ago
#47

Originally posted by: VildanaROSID

U r wellcome dear 🤗 but yes, seems that we share same thinking.

I saw it now dear, that you edit.

I will this one to its from Dear Jhon, Nicholas Sparks.

"I finally understood what true love meant...love meant that you care for another person's happiness more than your own, no matter how painful the choices you face might be."

This for sure is about Laajo.

i am done this time yaar! 😆

yes,of course ..this lines are meant for Laajo 🤗 she is just this much pure and beautiful ..<3
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Posted: 11 years ago
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I cant more agree with you, what you said about Nikhil. Totally agree with you 👏
I agree about Laajo ( Sana's acting are great, in these ep she made me cry like no one )🤗
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: VildanaROSID

I cant more agree with you, what you said about Nikhil. Totally agree with you 👏

I agree about Laajo ( Sana's acting are great, in these ep she made me cry like no one )🤗

thank u !!! 😳🤗 i was afraid none wil read my blabbering ..bu thanks Vildana 🤗😆

Sana is excellence,so as vibhav ...bcoz of both of them we can relate to LaKhil!!! ⭐️
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: xaviara



Like I said in my initial post, Nikhil is so used to the blame game played by the people he has lived with his whole life, that hearing from Lajoo, that he isn't at fault, and that he tried his best, that he isn't responsible for her circumstances, is something he really isn't used too. And now that Lajoo is setting him free, without blaming him for anything, he isn't happy. Remember how he told his Chachu that even though he had signed the divorce papers, he feels suffocated, which he thinks is because he feels guilty and responsible for hurting and leaving Lajoo, but its not guilt, how can it be, because Lajoo refuse to let him feel guilty, and really wants him to go back and live the life he wants with the woman he thinks he loves. Nikhil doesn't realize it that he will never be the same again after this trip, because he heart has realized his love for Lajoo and accepted her. However much he tries to move on, his memories of Lajoo will not let him move on.

can't agree more ..Nikhil is totally unaware about this feeling named Love ..he just thinks Ishana has been there all the way..but has she?if she has then why still he is living in his guilt?why he just can't share an eye contact with his mom?why all this blame game happening till now???

And,he really needs to go back,so that he can get the time to think what he feels .. he deserves this time ..and hopefully he will realize it !!!

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