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Originally posted by: tptwi

@bold: I know you are not yaar.... if you wish, you can go back and read what I am referring to 🤣

And I agree that his actions have been entirely stupid. I sound like a broken record, but it really does just go back to him being too engulfed in his own emotions to see anything beyond what is going on in his own heart.... it is a serious issue and can only be cured by therapy, but Vankar won't show us that because he is too busy spewing BS at us 😊 And me focusing on his intentions/the reason behind his actions should not absolve him of the culpability that he does have in this entire situation 👍🏼

Interesting......so you are saying that even this stupidity is coming out of some internal imbalance/issue? I'm not able to relate to it...maybe you do.

Originally posted by: msin

What I feel the story is written quite well .. you feel for every character…nobody is totally wrong or totally right .. every shade is grey .. and that is real life is .. there are situations when we sympathise with pakhi also .. pity the actress is so bad .. if it was done properly we could have swung from hate to sympathy also ..

I don’t think people fall in love suddenly or completely.. rishto ke bhi roop badalte hai .. naye naye saancho me….😂😂😂..si virat’s attachment for Sai grew to attraction and then love .. simultaneously his attraction for pakhi which had become infatuation grew to friendship and family protection .. however he did not clear it properly with both ladies ..

Today virat n Sai are in love but if they continue this brash behaviour.. virat might shrug off and find some other sympathetic shoulder who he feels understands him more .. Sai has to be careful .. abd it goes the same for virat .. marriage is a constant work in progress ..

@bolded: This is the tragedy of them having casted Ms. Sharma as Pakhi. Any sympathy that could have been gained for her was a lost cause to begin with. Many people who have watched KD say that they felt RK's pain, but here that is out of the question at this point. At least for me.

Originally posted by: nethraa_99

Interesting......so you are saying that even this stupidity is coming out of some internal imbalance/issue? I'm not able to relate to it...maybe you do.

Which stupidity are you referring to? There are many 🤣

Anyways, my answer is yes... but still want to know so that I can maybe explain more...

Originally posted by: tptwi

Which stupidity are you referring to? There are many 🤣

Anyways, my answer is yes... but still want to know so that I can maybe explain more...

I'm referring to Virat acting on his emotions for Pakhi - giving her exlanations when she is jealous, etc all those that amounted to an "emotional relationship". Him not understanding that what he had with Pakhi was ethically wrong.

Originally posted by: tptwi

@bolded: I completely agree with this. I have been saying the same thing for all of eternity and even mentioned it in a post within this thread 🤣

After reading all of your and Nethraa's posts, I have come to see that I am placing too much emphasis on his intentions, when yes, I agree that his actions have crossed the line. However, I still stand by the fact that his intentions do matter and have to count for at least something.....

Ofcourse thats where we decide who is forgiven , who is not.. Thats why Pakhi does not deserve sympathy and Virat does. Pakhi's deceive was intentional, Virat's was not!

Originally posted by: msin

Yes all this has taken root in Sai’s mind so now even if he’s doing birthday party surprises and planning anniversary getaways.. she cannot shrug away the pakhi factor .. because see she was right Na .. when they came back pakhi could still question virat n Sai abd gang up the famiky for going on a secret trip .. infact ninad is changing .. subtly …he gently rebuked virat ..

If virat had been more clear to pakhi n Kaku and the family that’s he taking his wife for a holiday .. because they both deserve it abd he can afford it .. abd Tell clearly it is not his duty to take pakhi out anywhere.. she can find another friend .. he will sponsor their trip … considering how thick headed the Chavan famiky is .. some straight talk would have helped virat .. if he had started talking long ago from Ladakh trip fiascos ..

Sai does not want a hole in the corner relationship..

that where in the original EMon mentions how if he celebrated it infront of the family and Pakhi, she would have accepted it , celebrated it, feeling that this relationship is real.. However by planning to not let them know, he has turned this relationship as mithya(False). You see here you can relate her words with the incident that happened during ladakh kaand..She was ridiculed for going with her husband, Pakhi cancelled the trip because Sai was accompanying her and Virat.. And whether she speaks about it or not, its still there inside her, deep.. That pot that she keeps filling with such incidents..

Originally posted by: Tali_99

My problem wirh Virat is everytime Pakhi insulted Sai he kept mum, be it in zillat arena or in their room. But the moment Sai spoke to defend herself and spoke up to Pakhi- he said Pakhi ke liya ek sabbd bhi nahi. What is a person to think when their spouse is willing to defend their bhabhi/ friend even when that said person is wrong. He feels obligated to defend a nonsense person's honour just because her husband is not their.

Pakhi ke izzat, izzat aur Sai ke izzat kutch nahi. 😔

Pakhi has an entire gange and Pakhi herself who I mind you is almost 10 yr older to Sai.

No doubt Virat cares about Sai and now lovers her too but he has to open his mouth in front of everyone and one in for all tell Pakhi to stop insulting Sai.

Given the recent fight they had It would be nice if noth wrote theit feels down

These are very basic issues, very unnoticed one, but in her heart these have made a place.. You see, Sai has never seen Virat telling Pakhi "ye kya behude tareeke se baat kar rahi ho Pakhi se", however he has never as such been aggressive towards her in defending Sai..Sai would always think its because of softness he holds for her..Any spouse would for that matter, when the base of relationship is something thats here..

Originally posted by: msin

Oh yes this is very much happening in professional spaces ..and it is getting murkier with one partner definetely getting hurt .. sometimes even destroying his personal life

There was this book , that talked about it and especially highlighted Metro cities there, since the couple hardly get to talk to each other on weekdays, when they come back they finish the chores and sleep , since the mind is too tired with work pressure, traffic and all such stuffs...And since the deceit is emotional, as we have always focussed on Physical affairs, this goes unnoticed in the person's head!

Originally posted by: nethraa_99

If he had residual feelings for Pakhi and also started developing feelings for Sai...I'd still not call it as riding two boats...It is his actions that amount to "riding two boats".

Edit: He did err in his actions...which is why he is being called out

Haan haan, thats why I said, he has these feelings and then he acted also that way... when he would jump into her room any given time, have teary eye locks with her while getting clicked with Sai..Lie to both women , agree to packing his saaman in her bag...the list is long yaar...

Originally posted by: nethraa_99

I'm referring to Virat acting on his emotions for Pakhi - giving her exlanations when she is jealous, etc all those that amounted to an "emotional relationship". Him not understanding that what he had with Pakhi was ethically wrong.

I attribute Virat giving Pakhi explanations to his guilt. The other moments that you and others have mentioned on this thread such as walking into each other's rooms, phone calls, etc.... I believe that in his mind, he was acting as a friend with pure intentions...nothing more. Even though, as you have said, that was not the case. The entire reason that he did not understand that all of this was wrong, or perhaps more significantly, how it was impacting Sai, is because once again, he cannot look at things from other people's perspectives yaar. It is always all about what is in his own mind and heart....his natural state is being engulfed in his own emotions. That, to me, is not healthy. This is kind of like what we were discussing before regarding emotional quotient. You had said that Virat lacks the emotional strength to be able to confront Sai/Samrat about the past, and I had said that it is not that he lacks the emotional strength, but that he does not even realize that strength is necessary in the first place. He does not know how to control his feelings to the extent that it causes such turmoil in all aspects of his life....