Why these Double standards sai ? - Page 2

Originally posted by: Chandu_500

main ithna jaanti hoon ki sai ki jagah mein hoti chavan niwas mein tho main paagal hojaati 🤪

i think sai's reaction was that because she didnt expect virat to suddenly say something like that. iska koyi deep waali meaning nay hai.

generally when we see people doing something we don't expect them to do then shock waali reaction tho aati hi hai.

and upar have u seen kaku and gang's reaction it was like abhi sab cheerleaders waali frocks pehnke virat ko encourage karenge, saying come on virat ek mukka maaro, meri taraf se dho maari, ek pet mein maarna, aur sar pe tapli dena' 🤣

I agree with u but difference if I would had been on virat , main pagal ho chuki hoti or paagal khane me apna admission bhi kar liya hota but only sending sai to hostel

Originally posted by: sukri

She is stuck in a chakravyuh with Chavan Seniors, Paakhi and Karishma. She has not figured out the right way to deal with them yet.

She tried being calm and explained nicely (like the Pakhi's return & Chilly grinding), but that didnt stop them. Infact that led to her injury. She did joke and fun like the reporting thing, but they still found it in bad taste.

Virat gave her generic advice, but he really needs to spell it out for her and help her out in private on how to handle in spasht words.

He couldn't stand 1 min of taunts that his family was throwing to him and he ended up shouting at Sai. Imagine the plight of poor girl, who has been facing it since beginning with no one to take a stand for her except for Virat. Yes if he is there, he supports her and gets her out of the web.

Problem is that they are too smart and too many, how they taunt Sai in front of Virat vs when he is not around is different. He doesn't even know the things they say to her. Both Virat and Sai are falling victim to these schemers.

Virat thinks they are dil ke ache. She is too young to have seen such scheming within family.

She is probably yet to realize that its their plan. Maybe now when Virat shouted at her and she looked at Pakhi, she is finally figuring out what Pakhi is trying to do and maybe that will help her figure out a different way to deal with gang.

She thinks Virat gets her and will support what she is doing coz just the day before he said handle them like you handled Jagdap and Vithal. So she went back dealing with Gang the only way she knows which is being offensive.

So she is probably now confused on why Virat who always has her back is saying such things when his family is at fault and he usually is the one who understands her.

Aapko sach mein lagta hain virat ka outburst sirf ek din ka or ek min ke taunt ka hain.

Sai is quite smart to know they purposely instigate her , earlier she dint knew they r worst than animals , vo bhi pata chal gaya , she will be prepared for it .

But do sai understand virat , who is 10 time tougher spot then her ?

Originally posted by: sammy17

@Bold-Exactly! Isn't it virat who himself constantly in contrast to his silly deal dialogues, keeps telling sai such type of dialogues that convey clearly that he wants sai to carry out bahu responsibilities, be accepted by his family etc then also say to her she doesn't need to leave when she herself says she will go shift to a hostel? He himself wants sai to stay by repeatedly saying dialogues that contradict the whole deal waali shaadi situation.

When he is on good terms with sai he inserts sai into the family by wanting her to be respected by them, by wanting her to carry out bahu responsibilities etc, but when he gets mad at her he throws the deal waali card and shows her place to her by telling her not to interfere in his family. He isn't chaining her intentionally, but he is pushing her to accept his family rather than entertaining her ideas of moving out of the house because he does not want her to leave.

Agar aisa hai , aur virat ji saari galti hai , why is sai doing this favour on virat by staying him? Chali jaye na .

Infact mein to sai ki jagah hoti to khud hi bhaag jaati shaadi se , that 2 when I myself I will not marry d person if he last one on earth .

Originally posted by: deepikagupta9

I agree with u but difference if I would had been on virat , main pagal ho chuki hoti or paagal khane me apna admission bhi kar liya hota but only sending sai to hostel

i agree that sai jaha zaroorat nay hoti hai waha bhi chilla thi hai. she should actually play it smart like kaku and gang, jab virat saamne ho tho she should be a little polite with 'ghar ke bade' and jaise hi virat jaaye she should vent out her frustration at them, cuz chavan saheb unhi cheezon pe react karte hai jo woh aakhonse dekhte hai and khanon se sunte hai he dont try to find out ki uske peet peeche kya hoti hai, and unki 'dhoodh ki duli family unki wife ke saat kaise behave karti hai, kya kya bolti hai' warna am sure woh sai ka hi saat deta.

yeha dono haalat se majboor hai, sai dont tolerate any nonsense from anyone, and virat ki woh family hai so he cant stand and see sai yelling at them like that.

here it should be like chavan saheb should think ki sai jo ek aurath ko insaaf dilaane keliye keliye ithna bada risk utaya hai supporting his bua jo usse and uske pyaari family ko karna chhaiye tha, going against them even after knowing sab end mein ussi par chadne waale hai, and jo ladki virat ki maa se ithna pyaar karti hai, he should think ki why she is having difficulty in only adjusting with kaku and gang.

ab virat bhi sai ki tarah behave karne lagega saying ' i will also talk to you the same way as u are doing' then umar mein bade aur MATURE hone ka faida hi kya hai?😆

Originally posted by: deepikagupta9

Aapko sach mein lagta hain virat ka outburst sirf ek din ka or ek min ke taunt ka hain.

We know it, but she doesn't. So far she sees him support her and also him being happy with her.

Only outburst or fight they had was about her doing the stupid honey-trap thingy on her own.

So why will she relate that to his family insulting her that morning.

Sai is quite smart to know they purposely instigate her , earlier she dint knew they r worst than animals , vo bhi pata chal gaya , she will be prepared for it .

We need to remember she is 18 year old. She is slowly learning about them. Its just the next day after Chilly khand. She thinks that they deliberately instigate her coz they don't like her, but like I explained she doesn't know how to deal with them.

But do sai understand virat , who is 10 time tougher spot then her ?

When Virat who is older than her, cant see the taunts his family puts her through, do you think at this point Sai can think of anything other than her college and how to get away from taunts?

Just like how she has to tell him openly about how his family treats her and how it impacts her, Virat also has to tell her openly how this affects him and they have to come up with a solution jointly.

She doesnt know how to deal with them, but he knows his family. He has to guide her.

Inka dialogues are very upar upar se coz writers don't want Sai and Virat to have open communication at this point.

Agar sab clear ho gaya then story khatam.

Also want to add what others are saying, by supporting his family without knowing what actually happened before he came there, his family now thinks they have been given permission to openly insult her without consequences or what you call would call in cricket as 'Free Hit'

I'm sorry but I saw no double standards on sai's part. Sai is true to her character. She's impulsive, and very assertive (I won't say she's disrespectful) Respect is earned not snatched. Sai has never been malicious in anything she's ever said or done. In Gadchiroli she saw Virat as the catalyst to everything bad that happened in her life since he got there ( that's except for the Jattap scenario).

Having said that, there was no need for Virat to utter the words he did to Sai in front of his family. He only did so as he felt cornered. His ego was a bit bruised, which I understand. However it was not justified and uncalled for. That could have been said in the argument they had in the bedroom and it would not have bothered me one bit because that was between them both and Shivani was the only person there.

If this is the start of Virat helping his family to insult Sai I am done with this show. He has basically given the blessings his mad family to continue insulting her by indirectly telling them I will help you too. Look at me, I am going to prove to you that I know how to control my wife.....I will give her a taste of her own medicine.

That is what I got from this scene.......Virat was the double standard one in that scene today.

Originally posted by: deepikagupta9

Agar aisa hai , aur virat ji saari galti hai , why is sai doing this favour on virat by staying him? Chali jaye na .

Infact mein to sai ki jagah hoti to khud hi bhaag jaati shaadi se , that 2 when I myself I will not marry d person if he last one on earth .

I didn't say it is all virat's galti. My comment was an answer in agreement to the member who was referring to your comment about sai not being chained to stay with virat in chavan house. My comment was to highlight how virat doesn't want her to leave whatsoever despite how his family is with her and he wants her to get along with his family that's why he himself keeps telling her not to go and he gives this emotion of not wanting her to leave the name of zimmedaari, and same goes for sai that like virat, without realising it sai too has become too attached to virat to want to leave him, but whereas virat gives it zimmedari name for not wanting her to leave, sai can't even give that reason either as he is not her zimmedari so she doesn't even give even a false reason like virat to cover up her real attachment to him. So both are weirdly doomed to stay in this chavan house amid all this harassment if both keep acting like husband and wife and wanting to not leave one another but saying their marriage is not a real shaadi.

So for anyone who keeps wondering that sai is not chained to stay with virat in this house so why does she stay.... well in actual she is chained, both by her own hopeless accord and by virat.... but neither she or he realise it that those chains are there that stop sai from leaving this mental house or virat allowing sai to leave, and those chains are called emotional attachment and sense of belonging.

The unfortunate thing is, that regardless of whether sairat continue to act like husband and wife without actualising that they consider each other husband and wife and consider their marriage as a proper marriage, or whether they do start considering each other as husband and wife and their marriage for real, in either scenario they both will still be stuck in chavan niwas with that family continuing to insult sai because as virat himself said he cannot imagine leaving them, so the answer is not as simple as why doesn't sai just leave the house when it is just deal shaadi, because truth is they are attached to each other like husband and wife, and if they were to become husband and wife in truest sense sai would then be expected even more than ever to manage this abusive family and not just leave like over-sensitive pakhi who leaves just for being called out for wandering into her married devar's bedroom whenever she wants just because her husband is absent.

So rather than solutions like sai should just leave or sai needs to watch her tone despite being harassed and humiliated irregardless of how she talks to them, it is the family who has to learn how to treat their own family members with respect and it is them who have to change, because in future when sairat realise their love and become husband and wife sai can't just leave the house because of chavan's behaviour, and even now leaving the house is not that simple when that attachment between them is there.

If Sai even breathes out of order in that house they will attack her and ask her why she dared to breathe different

I don’t fault Sai at all for her outburst

Any sane person would go loony tunes mad in that house

Horrible ridiculous toxic as shit ppl in that house

Viraat refuses to set a boundary between PsychoPakhi & his marriage to Sai

the division of labour in that house is sickening

why do women do all the house work ??

Wtf are the men doing?