Why these Double standards sai ?

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Why this double standards sai ? From day one u kept on showering virat with ur kind words without thinking how would he feel coz u decided he is wrong which gave u licence to insult Virat.

Now when he said he too will be behave with u d wat u behave , u r bit shocked ? Why ? Or u don't expect him to behave ur way ? U has always tested his patience but u still expects from him not to react & treat u respectfully.

Who r u to teach him how he talks to his mom or Bua , when u urself don't allow anyone teach u , u hardly cares of other person pov but u do want virat to see ur pov.

U can insult virat as much u can but expect virat to treat u nicely.

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Vahi baat jo gayi tauda kutta Tommy sadda kutta kutta.

^^ precisely it's on the lines of "mai karoon toh raasleela , tu kare toh character dheela "

Originally posted by: munnihyderabad

^^ precisely it's on the lines of "mai karoon toh raasleela , tu kare toh character dheela "

I can understand her behaviour with chavan kanjars & irritation with pattar didi coz they purposely instigate her but I don't understand her rude behaviour with virat , she hardly cares what she put virat into or is baar to consequences jante hue kiya hain .

Okay, but the way his family speaks to Sai is that justified? I think she was shocked because his statement meant that he indirectly approved the way his family treats her. Also, she has already told him that she will move to a hostel, but why isn't he letting her? Clearly, the family doesn't get along with her and finds every chance to insult her, so what is the reason for him to make her stay in the family?

Major arguments Sai had with Virat was because of his family or Pakhi. He can not control either of them, but he expects Sai to just take in everything? Okay, fine he can't go against his family, but he could at least tell his BFF to not come in between them. I am not saying or justifying Sai's actions, but just pointing out that her outbursts are a cause of the situations she is faced with.

Originally posted by: by_stander

Okay, but the way his family speaks to Sai is that justified? I think she was shocked because his statement meant that he indirectly approved the way his family treats her. Also, she has already told him that she will move to a hostel, but why isn't he letting her? Clearly, the family doesn't get along with her and finds every chance to insult her, so what is the reason for him to make her stay in the family?

Major arguments Sai had with Virat was because of his family or Pakhi. He can not control either of them, but he expects Sai to just take in everything? Okay, fine he can't go against his family, but he could at least tell his BFF to not come in between them. I am not saying or justifying Sai's actions, but just pointing out that her outbursts are a cause of the situations she is faced with.

She herself don't want to go , if she really wanted she would had went , virat had not tied her with chains .

U really think virat dont control his family , I beg u pardon , last episode only he shutted his family up who were trying to instigate him against sai , ha bas sai or chavan kanjars ki tarah chillake nhi kiya isiliye shayad ignore kar diya apne .

Agree he can't control his family , he also said don't instigate them further why sai turned deaf to it . Vo to nikal jaati hain , who is on receiving end virat, why should he bear something where he is not at fault , sai is CN coz of virat that's why he get targetted . Zimmerdari lene ka matalab ye nhi hota hai ki sai uske liye problem kadi karengi vo bhi knowingly.

Ye humans me hota hain hum jo dusre ke saath karte hume bura nhi lagta , lekin vahi cheez koi dusra humare saath kare to hume bahut bura lagta . Sai shock isiliye thi , chavana ko bhi isiliye sai buri lagti hain.

Sai ki har galti ko hum chavans or Pakhi ke peeche hide nhi kar sakte .

She is stuck in a chakravyuh with Chavan Seniors, Paakhi and Karishma. She has not figured out the right way to deal with them yet.

She tried being calm and explained nicely (like the Pakhi's return & Chilly grinding), but that didnt stop them. Infact that led to her injury. She did joke and fun like the reporting thing, but they still found it in bad taste.

Virat gave her generic advice, but he really needs to spell it out for her and help her out in private on how to handle in spasht words.

He couldn't stand 1 min of taunts that his family was throwing to him and he ended up shouting at Sai. Imagine the plight of poor girl, who has been facing it since beginning with no one to take a stand for her except for Virat. Yes if he is there, he supports her and gets her out of the web.

Problem is that they are too smart and too many, how they taunt Sai in front of Virat vs when he is not around is different. He doesn't even know the things they say to her. Both Virat and Sai are falling victim to these schemers.

Virat thinks they are dil ke ache. She is too young to have seen such scheming within family.

She is probably yet to realize that its their plan. Maybe now when Virat shouted at her and she looked at Pakhi, she is finally figuring out what Pakhi is trying to do and maybe that will help her figure out a different way to deal with gang.

She thinks Virat gets her and will support what she is doing coz just the day before he said handle them like you handled Jagdap and Vithal. So she went back dealing with Gang the only way she knows which is being offensive.

So she is probably now confused on why Virat who always has her back is saying such things when his family is at fault and he usually is the one who understands her.

Originally posted by: deepikagupta9

She herself don't want to go , if she really wanted she would had went , virat had not tied her with chains .

U really think virat dont control his family , I beg u pardon , last episode only he shutted his family up who were trying to instigate him against sai , ha bas sai or chavan kanjars ki tarah chillake nhi kiya isiliye shayad ignore kar diya apne .

Agree he can't control his family , he also said don't instigate them further why sai turned deaf to it . Vo to nikal jaati hain , who is on receiving end virat, why should he bear something is has not done . Zimmerdari lene ka matalab ye nhi hota hai ki sai uske liye problem kadi karengi vo bhi knowingly.

Ye humans me hota hain hum jo dusre ke saath karte hume bura nhi lagta , lekin vahi cheez koi dusra humare saath kare to hume bahut bura lagta . Sai shock isiliye thi , chavana ko bhi isiliye sai buri lagti hain.

Sai ki har galti ko hum chavans or Pakhi ke peeche hide nhi kar sakte .

@bold but all the fights are because of Pakhi and his family...LOL... the only time I could think of when she had a fight with Virat that did not include his family and PP is when she got lost on the road and when she refused to show her paperwork before admission. Those were her fault, but never major. They resolved it instantly and the scenes were a typical husband-wife fight.

@red honey, she might not be chained, but the only reason she is not leaving is because she is trying to make it work, but his family is not giving her a second to breathe.

@blue there are many times she walked out of the arguments, but the family still kept bickering about it to Virat in her absence. She tried both, talking back to them and just walking out of it, but the result is the same. I understand Virat's frustration because he is sandwiched between the two. In fact, I sympathize with him completely. He has been bottling up all his emotions and now releasing all of them at once on Sai only and not to his family. I actually find their fights between them very raw and relatable because there is a development in their relationship. They both feel close enough to be able to take out their frustrations on each other, as real couples do. However, as long as he does not insult her in front of his family. I just do not agree with you saying Sai had double standards. She has been transparent from the get-go. She does not hide her emotions, nor her intentions. Yes, her actions are sometimes over the edge, but that is not her fault. She is put into that position.

It is really easy to judge someone when you are not in their shoes. Given the situation that Sai is in I do not think any girl would be able to tolerate the constant backlash she gets from the fam and now Virat. Also, Virat trying to manage the balance between the two sides and not tip-off to one side is what causing more harm than good. He should step back and stop justifying Sai to his family all the time. That is only making Sai look bad to them and adding more stress to him. Sai never asked him to be her lawyer and defend her in the first place. He is adding more load on his "nazuk khandha."

Originally posted by: deepikagupta9

She herself don't want to go , if she really wanted she would had went , virat had not tied her with chains .

U really think virat dont control his family , I beg u pardon , last episode only he shutted his family up who were trying to instigate him against sai , ha bas sai or chavan kanjars ki tarah chillake nhi kiya isiliye shayad ignore kar diya apne .

Agree he can't control his family , he also said don't instigate them further why sai turned deaf to it . Vo to nikal jaati hain , who is on receiving end virat, why should he bear something where he is not at fault , sai is CN coz of virat that's why he get targetted . Zimmerdari lene ka matalab ye nhi hota hai ki sai uske liye problem kadi karengi vo bhi knowingly.

Ye humans me hota hain hum jo dusre ke saath karte hume bura nhi lagta , lekin vahi cheez koi dusra humare saath kare to hume bahut bura lagta . Sai shock isiliye thi , chavana ko bhi isiliye sai buri lagti hain.

Sai ki har galti ko hum chavans or Pakhi ke peeche hide nhi kar sakte .

@Bold- It's pakhi and family that instigate sai, not the other way round. It's not like sai has not attempted much more cooler and calmer tactics of responding to them, but with each time the insults of these chavans get even more extreme against sai. When the family elders have no human decency to talk or treat people, why is an 18 year old being expected to be extremely careful with the way she responds back, even when the chavans only continue hurling abuse irrespective of the tone sai or virat use with them. There is far more pressure and expectations being put on an 18 year old to be tameezdaar and to supposedly "not instigate fights" than those older than her and who are the actual people that instigate the fights by initiating insults and taunts.

So much expectations from the young to be tameezdaar, but elders and their selective favourites can talk however they like without being reprimanded in the same manner as the youngest, which is what's happening here, where the youngest of them all is being ganged up on and insulted left-right-centre by all those older then her, and just because she does not let them get away with such behaviour of theirs they throw the "respect your elders you badtameez" card.

Even when sai is going about her business and is quiet, they throw an insult and taunt her way for no reason. They even disrespect her cooking efforts just to humiliate her, the way ninad did the first day she cooked them breakfast. Then they moan that she does no housework.

It's just the matter that virat knows he can not raise his voice at his family but he knows he can raise it at sai, whilst with pakhi also he does not scream at her like he allows himself to do with sai, when with pakhi he has no excuse of her being a family elder to justify him not raising his voice at her when she targets sai right in front of him or when pakhi crosses lines. Oh yes because with pakhi he has that whole vaada, due to which he refuses to tell pakhi to stop interfering in the matters and bedroom of his and his wife, because if he did that then pakhi there and then would have no way to be able to continue to interfere between them and do whatever she wants against sai only because virat refuses to actually raise his voice or tell her off for crossing limits like he does to sai.

Originally posted by: by_stander

@bold but all the fights are because of Pakhi and his family...LOL... the only time I could think of when she had a fight with Virat that did not include his family and PP is when she got lost on the road and when she refused to show her paperwork before admission. Those were her fault, but never major. They resolved it instantly and the scenes were a typical husband-wife fight.

@red honey, she might not be chained, but the only reason she is not leaving is because she is trying to make it work, but his family is not giving her a second to breathe.

@blue there are many times she walked out of the arguments, but the family still kept bickering about it to Virat in her absence. She tried both, talking back to them and just walking out of it, but the result is the same. I understand Virat's frustration because he is sandwiched between the two. In fact, I sympathize with him completely. He has been bottling up all his emotions and now releasing all of them at once on Sai only and not to his family. I actually find their fights between them very raw and relatable because there is a development in their relationship. They both feel close enough to be able to take out their frustrations on each other, as real couples do. However, as long as he does not insult her in front of his family. I just do not agree with you saying Sai had double standards. She has been transparent from the get-go. She does not hide her emotions, nor her intentions. Yes, her actions are sometimes over the edge, but that is not her fault. She is put into that position.

It is really easy to judge someone when you are not in their shoes. Given the situation that Sai is in I do not think any girl would be able to tolerate the constant backlash she gets from the fam and now Virat. Also, Virat trying to manage the balance between the two sides and not tip-off to one side is what causing more harm than good. He should step back and stop justifying Sai to his family all the time. That is only making Sai look bad to them and adding more stress to him. Sai never asked him to be her lawyer and defend her in the first place. He is adding more load on his "nazuk khandha."

@Bold-Exactly! Isn't it virat who himself constantly in contrast to his silly deal dialogues, keeps telling sai such type of dialogues that convey clearly that he wants sai to carry out bahu responsibilities, be accepted by his family etc then also say to her she doesn't need to leave when she herself says she will go shift to a hostel? He himself wants sai to stay by repeatedly saying dialogues that contradict the whole deal waali shaadi situation.

When he is on good terms with sai he inserts sai into the family by wanting her to be respected by them, by wanting her to carry out bahu responsibilities etc, but when he gets mad at her he throws the deal waali card and shows her place to her by telling her not to interfere in his family. He isn't chaining her intentionally, but he is pushing her to accept his family rather than entertaining her ideas of moving out of the house because he does not want her to leave.

main ithna jaanti hoon ki sai ki jagah mein hoti chavan niwas mein tho main paagal hojaati 🤪

i think sai's reaction was that because she didnt expect virat to suddenly say something like that. iska koyi deep waali meaning nay hai.

generally when we see people doing something we don't expect them to do then shock waali reaction tho aati hi hai.

and upar have u seen kaku and gang's reaction it was like abhi sab cheerleaders waali frocks pehnke virat ko encourage karenge, saying come on virat ek mukka maaro, meri taraf se dho maari, ek pet mein maarna, aur sar pe tapli dena' 🤣