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Disclaimer: I am a big Maaneet fan and do not love one over the other. But over the past few days Geet has been getting bashed. So I felt the need to speak out in her favor. I will defend Maan another day since for now he has plenty of defenders. 😉 😆 😆 Please do not bash this post. I am not bashing MSK but just writing from Geet's POV. A request please read the whole post before you react. 😳 I know it is long 😆 😆 😆 but pretty please 😳.
Thanks
Jhan
A wise person said this to me once "Every person is a prisoner of their own experiences"
This wise person also told me the story of the cat who was afraid of milk. This poor cat had always been given scalding hot milk by the person who cared for her 😡. So if she saw milk, she never even bothered to test the temperature. She had burned her tongue so many times, she just wanted to play safe and took to her heels. 😆
Fear is an amazing thing. It can have strong people cowering in corners and weak people doing unimaginable feats 😲. How one reacts to fear is impossible to predict. But one thing is true - when we are afraid we do things we do not normally do. A cat who is usually pretty docile can scratch and even blind a dog who has backed into a corner.
Geet is like that cat. She is scared. Can you blame her?
You don't believe me look at her eyes. She is scared - she is scared of what Maan may make her feel. She is scared of what Maan may make her do. She is scared of what will happen after that if she gives into his determination as she has in the past. Last but not the least she is scared of what will happen to Maan if her brothers catch him. 😭
"Love is what we were born with, fear is what we learned here" - Unknown
Let us look at what she has gone through. She trusted her parents and married the man they selected for her. She trusted the man and he ditched her and stole her money and left her at the airport. She had barely recovered from that when her family whom she loved and admired ditched her in the name of family honor after finding out that she was pregnant. So she had already been betrayed twice in the span of a month. But her spirit was not crushed. She met Maan whom she came to trust with her life because he was always there for her. He stood up for her against his own brother and they built a life together. So when he said those hurtful words, that betrayal was a little too hard for her to take. This was the third time someone close to her was betraying her and this was perhaps the worst because she loved Maan the most.
Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear for the future - Fulton Oursler
Now Geet is afraid to trust again. She is afraid to let anyone in again because she knows that only if she loves someone will they have the power to hurt her. 😭 She is so numb with everything that has happened - the miscarriage and then the break up coming on its heels. 😭
Look at her actions - she is not eating not sleeping. This is clearly the actions of someone who is in a depression. She clearly does not care what happens to her. She loves Maan but at the same time she is fearful of going back to him. He has said some really hurtful things to her this time. Maan made her feel like dirt once during the IP track but that time the situation was different. She needed a job for her baby. This time she had just lost the baby. When he said this, there was nothing to keep her there. She felt that if he did not respect her, she should not stay. As a woman, tell me was she wrong? 😭
I am going to change Friedrich Nietzsche's quote slightly to reflect her point of view "I am not upset that you insulted me, I am upset that from now on I can't believe in you" 😭
Geet has always been a pushover as far as Maan is concerned. She has always let him get away with things another girl would not have. He has been rude to her on umpteen occasions but she was OK with that because she thought it was her fault. Even during the first MU she was just attempting to start life afresh. But he was the one who pursued her and hell bent on destroying her and making her realize her worth. His sole aim was to teach her a lesson and in the path of doing this he almost ended up forcing himself on her. That was the one time Geet put him in his place by slapping him. Technically she should have walked out and left him. But she apologized to him because she is that kind of person. Even after that Maan kept tormenting her for selfish reasons and she almost passed out before he admitted that. Maan has always needed a wake up call.
Maan changed after their marriage (KBM is considered that na 😆) and started caring for her deeply and more importantly demonstrating it. He let her get her own way but in many ways it was as if he was humoring her because he wanted to see her happy - kind of like one humors a child. Do I blame him? Heck no. During the whole phase Geet was acting kinda childish courtesy our CVs. 😆 But all said and done, she was still dependent on him completely. He made her feel secure and Geet trusted him completely with her and their child's welfare.
After the marriage he still said some pretty hurtful things to her for eg. who tells their wife you married me for my money when nothing could be further from the truth. People may argue that he did it for her own good but it hurt her self-respect. In times of crisis, Maan does not see this. He just says whatever comes to his mind and figures he will deal with the consequences later. He knows she will forgive him easily and that she will never leave him. Whenever he gets angry it is always him first, never her. She will always put him first even in her pain and anger. Maan treats her like a possession not an individual when he is angry. He needs to respect her as a person.
But even in this Geet is at fault because she always forgave too easily. She never made Maan think he needed to work to win her love. Remember the first time after she told him what happened and he goes to the train station to get her back, he went on his knees and she forgave him. So Geet herself in some ways is responsible for letting things get out of hand.
The situations have always been in favor of Maan primarily because of his wealth and his status. He has had his family with him while she has no one. This time the tables have turned. She has a family and a support system and he is all alone. Neither his wealth matters nor his status. Anyway she cares for neither. He has to win her heart as a man who has nothing.
George McDonald said "To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved"
Maan only has his love to make her believe they have a future together.
Maan only has his own actions to make her trust in him and go back with him.
Between the two her trust is going to be harder to gain because deny it as she might, she loves him. But there is a serious problem here.
Unlike the last few times he has hurt her deeply. Geet has always believed she was not good enough for him and his calling her "begairat" and "safed khoon" reinforced that. 😭 This time he went too far and targeted her self respect. He reacted in a knee-jerk fashion and both of them paid the price. And look at the symbolism MSK eating daal-chawal - the food of humble people. So he is eating the humble pie. This was much needed since now both are equals and a relationship between equals is always better than one being more superior than the other. 😃
Maan has realized his mistake and understands the pain he has caused her and is trying to make amends. But if their relationship has to survive some things have to change.
He needs to control his anger
and start respecting her as an individual.
She needs to stop treating him as god
and start treating him as a human being
They need to learn to respect each other
and share their innermost feelings
They will learn to do this slowly,
everything will eventually be fine
Then they can build a relationship
that will withstand the test of time.
Geet will realize that Maan's love is true and she will eventually begin to trust him once she overcomes her fears. This will require a super human effort from MSK because he has to do something he has never done 😲 😲 😲 - BE PATIENT 😆 😆 😆 - this is a virtue this man does not have and he will need to cultivate this 🤣 🤣 🤣. He cannot be hasty else all will be lost. He has to strike a balance - give her the space but at the same time be around her and continue to regain her trust. I am not saying it will be easy but it will not be that hard either. After all which girl will resist MSK for long 😉 and this is our Geet we are talking about she cannot see him in pain either for any length of time. Mark my words - very soon we will see her making Pasta for him chupke chupke 😉 just like he made gol gappe for her 🤣 🤣 🤣 ..... these two are so special they express their love through food 🤣 🤣 🤣
The fruits of labor are the sweetest of all pleasures 😉
- Luc de Vauvenargues
So Maan needs to work hard at trying to convince Geet so that both of them can enjoy the fruits of his hardwork and labor 😆
On a more serious note, we usually value things that we work hard for. Maan has never had to work hard for Geet. So this time he will value her more than he ever did before. He will respect her because he knows that if he is not careful, she has left him once , she can leave him again. So he will do everything in his power to make sure that they stay together. Plus he will learn to control his anger because that is the only way he can stay in her maasi's house and woo her back.
So how does this help Geet? For starters Maan will not die of high BP, heart attack or get ulcers at a young age 🤣 🤣 🤣 . Secondly if today's scenes were any indication, Geet (and Maaneet fans) are going to be happy campers 🤣 🤣 🤣. Thirdly Maan will prove to Geet that he respects her and her thoughts. Fourthly Geet will realize how good she had it, because all said and done, Maan and daadi treated her well - much better than Pammi is treated. 😛
So you see it is a win-win situation for everyone, especially the viewers 🤣 🤣 🤣
Maaneet will emerge from this stronger than before and hopefully with better communication skills than before especially to voice their innermost feelings to each other. They need to realize that they are one entity and hiding things from each other will not be healthy for the relationship. They will build a new relationship based on mutual trust and open lines of communication. 😉 Finally they need to build a bond so strong that no third person can ever come between them. 😃
They never grieved for the baby properly and they need to do that. 😭 I hope they come together to grieve the loss of their child because unless they do that together they cannot move on.
Finally I will leave you with this "Fear can keep us up all night long, but faith makes one fine pillow" - Unknown
MSK needs to be that pillow for Geet metaphorically, figuratively and literally 😉 ☺️ ........ and lets not pretend here haan MSK will make one fine pillow ☺️
🤣 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
PS: The wise person who told me the story is my dad 😃
Thanks
Jhan
A wise person said this to me once "Every person is a prisoner of their own experiences"
This wise person also told me the story of the cat who was afraid of milk. This poor cat had always been given scalding hot milk by the person who cared for her 😡. So if she saw milk, she never even bothered to test the temperature. She had burned her tongue so many times, she just wanted to play safe and took to her heels. 😆
Fear is an amazing thing. It can have strong people cowering in corners and weak people doing unimaginable feats 😲. How one reacts to fear is impossible to predict. But one thing is true - when we are afraid we do things we do not normally do. A cat who is usually pretty docile can scratch and even blind a dog who has backed into a corner.
Geet is like that cat. She is scared. Can you blame her?
You don't believe me look at her eyes. She is scared - she is scared of what Maan may make her feel. She is scared of what Maan may make her do. She is scared of what will happen after that if she gives into his determination as she has in the past. Last but not the least she is scared of what will happen to Maan if her brothers catch him. 😭
"Love is what we were born with, fear is what we learned here" - Unknown
Let us look at what she has gone through. She trusted her parents and married the man they selected for her. She trusted the man and he ditched her and stole her money and left her at the airport. She had barely recovered from that when her family whom she loved and admired ditched her in the name of family honor after finding out that she was pregnant. So she had already been betrayed twice in the span of a month. But her spirit was not crushed. She met Maan whom she came to trust with her life because he was always there for her. He stood up for her against his own brother and they built a life together. So when he said those hurtful words, that betrayal was a little too hard for her to take. This was the third time someone close to her was betraying her and this was perhaps the worst because she loved Maan the most.
Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear for the future - Fulton Oursler
Now Geet is afraid to trust again. She is afraid to let anyone in again because she knows that only if she loves someone will they have the power to hurt her. 😭 She is so numb with everything that has happened - the miscarriage and then the break up coming on its heels. 😭
Look at her actions - she is not eating not sleeping. This is clearly the actions of someone who is in a depression. She clearly does not care what happens to her. She loves Maan but at the same time she is fearful of going back to him. He has said some really hurtful things to her this time. Maan made her feel like dirt once during the IP track but that time the situation was different. She needed a job for her baby. This time she had just lost the baby. When he said this, there was nothing to keep her there. She felt that if he did not respect her, she should not stay. As a woman, tell me was she wrong? 😭
I am going to change Friedrich Nietzsche's quote slightly to reflect her point of view "I am not upset that you insulted me, I am upset that from now on I can't believe in you" 😭
Geet has always been a pushover as far as Maan is concerned. She has always let him get away with things another girl would not have. He has been rude to her on umpteen occasions but she was OK with that because she thought it was her fault. Even during the first MU she was just attempting to start life afresh. But he was the one who pursued her and hell bent on destroying her and making her realize her worth. His sole aim was to teach her a lesson and in the path of doing this he almost ended up forcing himself on her. That was the one time Geet put him in his place by slapping him. Technically she should have walked out and left him. But she apologized to him because she is that kind of person. Even after that Maan kept tormenting her for selfish reasons and she almost passed out before he admitted that. Maan has always needed a wake up call.
Maan changed after their marriage (KBM is considered that na 😆) and started caring for her deeply and more importantly demonstrating it. He let her get her own way but in many ways it was as if he was humoring her because he wanted to see her happy - kind of like one humors a child. Do I blame him? Heck no. During the whole phase Geet was acting kinda childish courtesy our CVs. 😆 But all said and done, she was still dependent on him completely. He made her feel secure and Geet trusted him completely with her and their child's welfare.
After the marriage he still said some pretty hurtful things to her for eg. who tells their wife you married me for my money when nothing could be further from the truth. People may argue that he did it for her own good but it hurt her self-respect. In times of crisis, Maan does not see this. He just says whatever comes to his mind and figures he will deal with the consequences later. He knows she will forgive him easily and that she will never leave him. Whenever he gets angry it is always him first, never her. She will always put him first even in her pain and anger. Maan treats her like a possession not an individual when he is angry. He needs to respect her as a person.
But even in this Geet is at fault because she always forgave too easily. She never made Maan think he needed to work to win her love. Remember the first time after she told him what happened and he goes to the train station to get her back, he went on his knees and she forgave him. So Geet herself in some ways is responsible for letting things get out of hand.
The situations have always been in favor of Maan primarily because of his wealth and his status. He has had his family with him while she has no one. This time the tables have turned. She has a family and a support system and he is all alone. Neither his wealth matters nor his status. Anyway she cares for neither. He has to win her heart as a man who has nothing.
George McDonald said "To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved"
Maan only has his love to make her believe they have a future together.
Maan only has his own actions to make her trust in him and go back with him.
Between the two her trust is going to be harder to gain because deny it as she might, she loves him. But there is a serious problem here.
Unlike the last few times he has hurt her deeply. Geet has always believed she was not good enough for him and his calling her "begairat" and "safed khoon" reinforced that. 😭 This time he went too far and targeted her self respect. He reacted in a knee-jerk fashion and both of them paid the price. And look at the symbolism MSK eating daal-chawal - the food of humble people. So he is eating the humble pie. This was much needed since now both are equals and a relationship between equals is always better than one being more superior than the other. 😃
Maan has realized his mistake and understands the pain he has caused her and is trying to make amends. But if their relationship has to survive some things have to change.
He needs to control his anger
and start respecting her as an individual.
She needs to stop treating him as god
and start treating him as a human being
They need to learn to respect each other
and share their innermost feelings
They will learn to do this slowly,
everything will eventually be fine
Then they can build a relationship
that will withstand the test of time.
Geet will realize that Maan's love is true and she will eventually begin to trust him once she overcomes her fears. This will require a super human effort from MSK because he has to do something he has never done 😲 😲 😲 - BE PATIENT 😆 😆 😆 - this is a virtue this man does not have and he will need to cultivate this 🤣 🤣 🤣. He cannot be hasty else all will be lost. He has to strike a balance - give her the space but at the same time be around her and continue to regain her trust. I am not saying it will be easy but it will not be that hard either. After all which girl will resist MSK for long 😉 and this is our Geet we are talking about she cannot see him in pain either for any length of time. Mark my words - very soon we will see her making Pasta for him chupke chupke 😉 just like he made gol gappe for her 🤣 🤣 🤣 ..... these two are so special they express their love through food 🤣 🤣 🤣
The fruits of labor are the sweetest of all pleasures 😉
- Luc de Vauvenargues
So Maan needs to work hard at trying to convince Geet so that both of them can enjoy the fruits of his hardwork and labor 😆
On a more serious note, we usually value things that we work hard for. Maan has never had to work hard for Geet. So this time he will value her more than he ever did before. He will respect her because he knows that if he is not careful, she has left him once , she can leave him again. So he will do everything in his power to make sure that they stay together. Plus he will learn to control his anger because that is the only way he can stay in her maasi's house and woo her back.
So how does this help Geet? For starters Maan will not die of high BP, heart attack or get ulcers at a young age 🤣 🤣 🤣 . Secondly if today's scenes were any indication, Geet (and Maaneet fans) are going to be happy campers 🤣 🤣 🤣. Thirdly Maan will prove to Geet that he respects her and her thoughts. Fourthly Geet will realize how good she had it, because all said and done, Maan and daadi treated her well - much better than Pammi is treated. 😛
So you see it is a win-win situation for everyone, especially the viewers 🤣 🤣 🤣
Maaneet will emerge from this stronger than before and hopefully with better communication skills than before especially to voice their innermost feelings to each other. They need to realize that they are one entity and hiding things from each other will not be healthy for the relationship. They will build a new relationship based on mutual trust and open lines of communication. 😉 Finally they need to build a bond so strong that no third person can ever come between them. 😃
They never grieved for the baby properly and they need to do that. 😭 I hope they come together to grieve the loss of their child because unless they do that together they cannot move on.
Finally I will leave you with this "Fear can keep us up all night long, but faith makes one fine pillow" - Unknown
MSK needs to be that pillow for Geet metaphorically, figuratively and literally 😉 ☺️ ........ and lets not pretend here haan MSK will make one fine pillow ☺️
🤣 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
PS: The wise person who told me the story is my dad 😃
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