It's the same old Sandhya!

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Posted: 13 years ago
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Having fallen in love with Sandhya's character, I admit that what I say next could be a biased thought. But I assure you, I will try my best to be as objective as I can.😊

Now, I realize that you probably are not too happy with Sandhya after today's head-spinning episode, and maybe have even joined Chavi and Meena in placing all the blame on Sandhya. Don't get me wrong; I'm sure those who are blaming Sandhya probably have more valid reasons than those of Chavi and Meena, but my goal here is not to prove whether Sandhya is blameworthy or not. Rather, my point here is to argue that if one analyzes Sandhya's behaviour in today's episode, what she did was not very unexpected.
Yes, I was shocked initially (especially after Saturday's precap 😲), but now that I think about it, I feel that she was in line with her character. One of Sandhya's most obvious traits is her selflessness. As far as I can remember, she has never acted in a selfish manner. If she was selfish, she would've signed the divorce papers and went on to pursue her dream. Heck, if she was selfish, she wouldn't have even dreamed of becoming an IPS officer and dedicating her entire life to serve others!
Now, coming to the current circumstances, from Sandhya's POV, her dream of serving others was actually hurting her family. It had already caused a huge commotion (to say the least) in the morning, putting everyone against her beloved Suraj. The accusation that she is causing a rift between mother and son was emphatically expressed by bhabo, and the "hell kids". At dinner, she was blamed for damaging the mother-daughter relationship and a brother-sister relationship (although she didn't know it, she was even blamed for Meena's gluttony, which didn't even spare the hari mirch 🤔). And how can we forget Bhabo's emotional brainwash, where she literally added oil to Sandhya's burning dreams! She further blamed Sandhya, very sweetly ofcourse, for leading Suraj astray, and for neglecting her "duties". Now, when everyone around you starts blaming you, you are bound to start doubting your innocence. This is what Sandhya did. And her selflessness made sure that her dream, which is troubling others so much, would be at the bottom end of her list of priorities. All she had to do was to go through the SR and everyone's troubles will somehow disappear. (Unfortunately, she didn't take into account that Suraj is also known for his selflessness, and would not let Sandhya sacrifice her dreams, even for his sake; but that's another discussion). Alas, it is not that easy to forget a decade old dream after a single "tel ki maalish" 😉, hence Sandhya's hesitation and her being caught red-handed. So you see, she did what any naive selfless person would do, staying true to her character.
I admit what she did was not fair for Suraj, and that she might be too selfless for her own good; but that's what her character demands. Now, it would've been better if SurYa consummated their marriage soon after 'wo ai ni', so that they could've been in a stronger position to deal with current circumstances; but 'would've, should've, could've' can be a dangerous thing, especially for us audience members who have almost insignificant control over the story of the show.
On a related note, many of us are unhappy with Sandhya's set-up of the potential DBC (i.e. the filminess of it all 😕). Dedicating her teenage years to her studies, I doubt Sandhya had time to fantasize about her SR. As a result, I think all she had to go on was the few old bollywood films she might've watched. This is just my attempt to justify what she did (or what the CVs made her do, to be more precise).😛
Finally (thanks for bearing with me for this long!), as they say, 'be careful what you wish for'. After Saturday's precap, we were all wishing, praying, hoping, that the DBC won't happen. It seems we got our wish! Now that DBC is (wrongly) associated with Sandhya's dream, the chances of it happening are bleaker than ever! 🥺
OK! So after all that, I hope I justified Sandhya's actions, so as to lower the collective blood pressure of the forum members 😛. I am sure there are plenty of holes in my argument, which I urge you all to point out and discuss. I don't even mind being bashed, but just keep Sandhya out of it! 😡
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-SamiR- thumbnail
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Posted: 13 years ago
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omg! after seeing the post on the webpage, it seems I went a litter overboard 😆. I'm too lazy to edit and make it shorter, but if anyone feels it is way too long, please let me know, and I'll be happy to make it shorter. Sorry once again for such a long post
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Posted: 13 years ago
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thanks a ton samiR for this i refrained from commenting about sandy coz somewhere deep inside i somehow understood her but didnt have the flair to put it into words u have done it so well ..thanks again .let me read it again .

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Posted: 13 years ago
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Somewher i connected to her character 😊 , she is Not a Changed Sandhya , she has been same old Sandhya who sacrifised her dream for her Brother Job Ambition in US , And once Again She has Prooved she is still same by sacrificing her Dream for her Family Wish.

and yes as You said its a decade old Dream , could not be Erased completely by Bhabo by Sweet and Sword of Oil Maalish 😊

Thanks for Post - Sandhya Being on the Line of selflessness once Again for Rathis Dreams
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Posted: 13 years ago
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My question is...if sandy went thru all this brain-storming to decorate this n that way...why she didn't even spend a sec to think how sooraj will react seeing her in that avatar..that also on the same day when the pot-breaking,head-cracking aangan drama took place and also that lovely family dinner!
How cud she thot Sooraj wud believe whatever her excuse is..n he wud get ready for DBC!
She miserably failed to understand him...and sandy's complete concern is for bhabo only..sooraj always comes second to her..thats what hurting me...its 'diya aur baati hum'..not 'bhabo aur baati'
Am not bashing sandy either...am blaming cvs only for messing it up!..(typed in half sleep mode..dont even know i made sense or not...
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Posted: 13 years ago
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I agree with you Samiji everybody in this serial is a victim of circumstances, be it Bhabo ,Suraj or Sandhya. Fate has played a cruel game with them. The only good thing about the whole affair was Suraj and Sandhya found each other and they are true soul mates IN EVERY SENSE OF THE WORD. Sandhya is not wrong from her point of view as she has lived all her life with only thing in mind and that is to join the IPS. Romance is not in her scheme of things. Bhabo is not wrong as from the outset she never wanted an educated Beendani. Suraj torn between these two women is the one to suffer the maximum. Neither has he got a wife who is good in house management nor is she interested in the physical side of relationship. Ultimately all are unhappy with the situation. My take on the solution would be that they should show the SR with the full happy approval of Sandhya and after that they can show her pursuing her dreams with the support of Suraj. She should not be shown coming to the bedroom as a sacrificial goat accepting to be slaughtered. The physical side of the marriage and her pursuit of dreams can go side by side. Extending the family can wait. This way both are shown to be happy and if they are happy we are in the seventh heaven of delight. Situations may not be to our liking but we can try to make the best of it. Life any way is full of compromises, why not in the serial than.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Thank you for trying to cool us down Samir. I am more mad at Cvs than at anyone else. SurYa relationship had been developing so nicely. What was the need for turning Sandy into a Cyborg again? I think they ran out of every logical reason to delay DBC and think they have hit the jackpot with this one. But this will bring viewer morale severely down along with their precious trps.


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Posted: 13 years ago
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Sigh! Feeling so happy that someone is bringing out Sandhya's state of mind. I myself very close to Sandhya's character or even I'd say I'm possess more than 90% of traits of her persona. One can't expect her to behave normally after whatever trauma she's going through. We say that SurYa is divine - eternal couple n if we go with that then DBC for them is union of two souls not just enjoyment or matter of produce a kid.

It was clearly visible that Sooraj was pretending to do all so that he can bring out truth from Sandhya. I still believe that majority of here is over reacting.

What I'm observing about upcoming track is that SurYa will be in big trouble from both end. Rathi House Meena and From Sandhya's maternal side her brother. I hope hope my instinct prove me wrong but I think Ankur will again go selfish and use Sooraj's given money for his own family rather than behind Sandhya.

SurYA conversation is half left thus I'll reserve my opinion on who's right or wrong until today's episode get over.
Edited by ami_dabh - 13 years ago
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Still I dont understand her...!!! Her dream got suddenly broken by bhabo...!!! I doubt that...!!! She was trying to forget her dream from the moment she knew about Suraj's truth that he is a halwai...!! May be even b4 that...!!! Cause she wrote a apology letter to her father in her wedding day that she wont be able to fulfill their dream...!!! If u r saying that bhabo's tel malish advice was big trauma for her I strongly disagree with you... She has gone through worst b4...!!! When she found out about her brother's lie, when her in laws found out about her educational background, when bhabo questioned about her relation with Suraj in front of everyone, maasa'a insult, Suraj's changes behavior... Every time she acted so matured n with patience... She cant be too in shock n hurt to create this whole drama today specially without caring about Suraj's feelings.!!! Even if she wanted to sacrifice her dream n wanted to fulfil bhabo's wish why she suddenly changed herself where Suraj can suspect her...!! If it was him, he will never let Sandhya know about his sacrifice...!!! Like she had no idea when Suraj wanted her to leave him for her happiness...!!!
I think cvs r trying to show that she is still not in love with Suraj a wife should be in...!!! Specially for a husband like him...!!!
She acted sooo not like her ... And specially cvs destroyed their comfortless n easiness they were developing slowly... They will again act now like b4 hesitant n shy...!!!
Edited by ayeshi_101 - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Exactly. Be careful what you wish for is what the CVs are twisting on for us , when we wanted DBC they made us unwish it ,now lets see how they are going to handle this as we are just loyal audiences and have no say in how this transforms

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