Derisive Pleasure

Derisive, a word that carries with it an undertone of detestable attitude, towards all that is to be valued…

If one wondered and believed that a deep sense of inferiority is what stems the complex of superiority, that camouflages the low self esteem, then it does come as a rude surprise to realize, that a secure sense of belonging and absolute attention and disregard for the follies from the family, can also breed a sense of superiority of being morally right and the otherwise normal confidence bordering on an overdose.

Often people blessed with affections from near and dear and of those, who look upon them as Angel's incarnate, tend to develop an insatiable urge to prove to themselves that what they have got is indeed what they deserved and rightly so...and consider it an achievement and the affections and the adulation is more of a surrender to the moral goodness of their nature and hearts ... which breeds a certain arrogance towards the same...

If there is ever a sense, that drives us mortals, to experience dizzying manic happiness, bordering on insanity, it is the feeling of being wanted… and the craving for the same…

If one was blessed with the affections of another, one would be tempted to only find out for themselves to what extent would the other go to prove his or her affections for them, while they revel in the ecstasy of feeling wanted and craved for as the other struggles to prove their affections for them. There is a derisive pleasure that is derived out of these actions, to watch the other break and pine for them and deriving pleasure that they have driven the other to the limits of their existence and their affections, while they nurse their inflated sense of pride and ego, that they are so wanted and craved for, fuelling the their hollow sense of pride.

It does make one wonder then, fuelled by the desire to fan the hollow sense of pride, one does disregard , and look down in disdain , at the very the sense , that holds the ties of all human bonds; A sense of respect towards the other, and towards one's ownself.

Ridhima seems to fall into the category of those unfortunate few and Armaan unwillingly seems to fall prey... out of his own affections towards the woman.

-Sareeta

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Oh man such a meaning ful post n it is totally outlining armaan n ridhima's character.......

Ridhima has definitely made armaan her prey.......... poor armaan is totally in love with her n everytime he is left heart broken.... which gives ridhima an internal satisfaction seeing armaan craving for her...

Ridhima def have many ppl who love her to death.......like her father,mother,nani n so on.......she is really in pride of being wanted now.... her pride has made her blind........that she is not able to see armaan n his genuine feelings for her.......

Everytime armaan craves for her n she is just too arrogant abt this....... but now she shud crave for armaan's love n affection..........n armaan shud ignore her literally....... 😕

So many times armaan has proved his love for her.......but she seems to overlook all his efforts n just continue to be in her pride....... 😕

Well i want armaan's character to be more firm after BB match......... but somewhere dep inside my heart i noe creatives will make armaan forgive ridz as soon as she will start realizing her love........... 😕

waie even armaannoticed her crave for attention n did mentioned abt it in that last episode..........that scene rocked👏

SORRY I M NOT A GUD WRITER😕

👏 👏 gud post di 😉

👏 I dont know what else to say...BEAUTIFULL even though i dont know you BUt i want to give you a HUG 🤗

Sareeta, a very incisive post indeed! 👏 👏

It's put me in somewhat of a sombre mood now...dunno why...When I see Riddhima now, for some reason...I'm unable to get past the "gussa aya kya" expression on her face, as well as the "tum mujhe kiss karna chahte the" arrogance that she showed in the last epi...

When I read posts like this one, or Aarti's fall from grace...I get a much deeper understanding of Ridz's character, so thank you for that guys! I know I'm not really making any relevant point about this post here right now...so please do forgive me for that.

One thought that came to me while reading random posts was...how important is a love confession for Ridz at this point? Would that be the only thing that would make her have faith in A?...cuz so far he hasn't progressed past "main tumse kucch kehna chahta hoon" and "tum mere liye kuch feel karti ho?"...

I realize I'm kinda totally going off topic here cuz this topic is about Riddhima's flaws like her inflated pride and ego...but I just had the random thought, so decided to express it.

Cuz I'm trying to think forward now, not that I'm good at second guessing the creatives at all...but how in the world will they bring about a turnaround for Riddhima?? Is the expression of love in words really that important?? I guess it does depend on each person individually...but in this situation especially...would it have made any kind of difference if Armaan had expressed his love by now? Or would Riddhima have laughed it off, or ridiculed it like he's expecting her to??

I apologize for rambling as usual 😳

@ sareeta...before i depart for just a while...i must say this...liar liar pants on fire!!!!!! where's this block you talk about??? in fact you have out done yourself on this one!!!! even attempted something different from your style. it has traces of some analytical brilliance that steers clear away from the otherwise dreamy quality of your posts!!!

next time you lie to me, am gonna put you on my lap and whack you with a hair brush....

Sareeta...brilliant!! And like I said in my PM just so much food for thought...looks like u hve made up ur mind to give us another 'Surreal'...

Will respond later like promised...gotta run now!!

Originally posted by: mehak_kapoor

👏 show me ur cheeks, i will plant a kissie........... n here is a hug for u 🤗 Awww... Mehkie...*shows a cheek... smiling* *blows a kiss in the air towards Mehkie..and a warm bear hug too*

Oh man such a meaning ful post n it is totally outlining armaan n ridhima's character....... Thank you soooooo much...!!!

Ridhima has definitely made armaan her prey.......... poor armaan is totally in love with her n everytime he is left heart broken.... which gives ridhima an internal satisfaction seeing armaan craving for her... Yes... it does... and as sense of wanting to feel wanted exists in all of us... but when that sense undermines the sense of respect for the other... it has a dark , disdainful air to it... jus as Ridhima's and boy we've witnessed it for oursleves in the past few episodes...

Ridhima def have many ppl who love her to death.......like her father,mother,nani n so on.......she is really in pride of being wanted now.... her pride has made her blind........that she is not able to see armaan n his genuine feelings for her....... And not jus Armaan... she jus cannot see anyone beyond herself... the morbid air of Pride has clouded all her sense of rationale ....

Everytime armaan craves for her n she is just too arrogant abt this....... but now she shud crave for armaan's love n affection..........n armaan shud ignore her literally....... 😕 One yes, that Armaan should jus go his way, and another... Ridhima needs to hear the bitter truth ... for herself from a third person... who will give it like a blow... it should be a bolt out of the blue for her to realize what she is all about... someone who doesnt have any feelings for her.. and yet .. someone she would least expect would revolt... and question her and her sense of morality!

So many times armaan has proved his love for her.......but she seems to overlook all his efforts n just continue to be in her pride....... 😕 Well jus as my fav char Lady Drewitt from the book demands , subversiveness from those around her... but yet despises those who succumb and are subversive... Ironical..!

Well i want armaan's character to be more firm after BB match......... but somewhere dep inside my heart i noe creatives will make armaan forgive ridz as soon as she will start realizing her love........... 😕 Oh I have my faith in the Creatives and so far the way his character has been sketched... its clear... he isnt walking that path... and he wouldhave valid justifications in terms of his character... for every action of his , jus as Ridhima 's does for her deplorable acts!

waie even armaan noticed her crave for attention n did mentioned abt it in that last episode..........that scene rocked👏Oh yes,... and thatz what has brought this entire discussion and also... with the fact re-inforced by the characters themselves in the show... we surely know what to expect!

SORRY I M NOT A GUD WRITER😕 Says who darlin.... itna likhne ke baad teri ye majaal to say you are not a good writer... you've expressed your points well and that what matters!

👏 👏 gud post di 😉 Thank you soooooo much Mehkie!😉

Originally posted by: KKAA

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*bows to applause* Thank you sooooooo much!!! Awww.... well we do know each other now!! *hugs back!*

Would be really glad if you could chip in too!!! 😉

That is a post provoking a lot of thought indeed. Congratulations!! Loved it.

There are people who derive a saradonic pleasure out of pushing the other person to the limit, just to see to what extent the other person will go to prove his/her affection towards them. This even when the said person has no affection for that individual but derives a pleasure out of the fact that there is someone who finds them important enough or dear enough to do it for them and they get a high out of it and fall more in love with themselves if that is possible!! Oh dear!!! Talk about ego massage.

There are some others I have come across who have this urge to place the most impossible tasks before the person who loves them again and again and want them to do it in spite of all odds and prove that they love them. If you don't do what is asked of you unquestioningly, then you dont love them enough. Doesnt matter they wont do anything for you. They expect 110% out of you but will not give you 10% but expect you to understand and still love them. This has intrigued me greatly. I have wondered and failed to arrive to a conclusion as to what drives these people and why they are so demanding. Would like someone who has an idea to share their views on this.

It gets tiring after a while for an individual to prove time and again what he feels for another, and to have always go out on a limb to do so. Frankly speaking, there is no end to it. The minute you do something and the pride or the "insecurity" of the other is reassured, they will always think of something more difficult or more demanding for you to do for them. They will always keep you on tenterhooks. You can never never satisfy them. Sometimes by the time one begins to understand, one would have been drained substantially off one's energy, patience, and spirit. It is a huge huge drain emotionally and spiritually living with such people. They never stop feeding off your spirit. It is like surrendering your soul to them. Of course I am speaking here of the people who are extremely demanding and cant see beyond themselves not the normal ordinary people who sometimes do test their loved ones but they dont go beyond limits.

And then the shocking thing as you rightly put it is after all this they will happily come back and mock at you for being so willing. They dont even respect you for what you did but deride you for it secretly for that is part of the pleasure dont you see. Push you to the limits and then secretly laugh at you while you go about it for having been able to do that to you. They love the fact that you are putty in their hands and they can do what they want with you. Disgusting isnt it.

Anyone with a modicum of decency or love for another individual wouldnt do such things. If you love someone, the basic requirement is to be able to respect that person for what he is and how he makes you feel and what you discover together about each other and not about submission of one soul to another soul to be dealt with at the whims and fancies of the other soul.

Moral superiority is a very difficult thing to take. I have uncomfortable visions of those highly devout, "noble", "well-meaning" "charitable" ladies who go around doing social work or "social upliftment" or "charity" "saving people's souls". They give me the shivers. They never let the benefactor forget for a moment how "grateful" they should be to be at the receiving end of their "kindness". They dont lose a single opportunity to pull people down sitting and surveying them from their moral high horses while unfortunately they have the dirtiest minds and blackest heart around and the motivation which drives them to charity is not kindess or altruistic spirit but the opportunity of having people in their clutches virtually made fun of and grimacing all because they happened to be born less privileged.

Oh dear didnt realize i rambled on so much. But just had to get it all out.