Whats the priority? Career or Family?

Guess the topic subject is self explanatory...

But still want to put forth my points.. Usually it is considered as a catch 22 situation for women to choose between the career and the family.. There is lot of pressure after the marriage for a women to choose her family before the career... Now with growing tendancy, even the men are facing issues of choosing between career and family..

There maybe certain situations like the deadline for a project completion and at the same time you need to pay attention to your family crisis..

Your wife/husband maybe extremely ill, while you have a client visit at your office..

Your boss pressurizes you to stay while you have a function at your inlaws place and your spouse waiting for you...

There are various compromises we do in life, but what would you compromise when you fall into such situations? Will you choose your career or your family?

I have personally seen people working far away from their family. Husband and wife staying separately at different places.. Will this affect their children and how will it affect their relationship in general?

Your views please....

Nice Topic....

For every situation you have see important wise...

Family crises obviously think what is good at that time...coz some times sitting with family and talking on issues dont help you have to take step and make things work out.

one cant completely say that Family is imp or Career is imp

Like the situation you said Wife is ill..then no doubt family...

but common gathering or normal function at In-laws house or might be in our own house .. then Career...

Remember you will get a job again but family no...

Some may tell you may get a wife again... lekin simply replace feel if mother is ill then what??

i have seen some people give different approach like... if mother is ill, then they will take care and if wife then they tell she will be fine by her own ... and vice versa too..

I will give one situation....

A couple living abroad and working ...you get to hear a news that husband's mother expired by a sudden heart attack.. then they try to go and catch a flight.. but wifes company not giving leave. and husbands comapany understood the situation and gave leave.. then what??? and under in no circumstances you can leave your wife alone and go alone... coz she cant be on her own..then what?😊

i feel for married women, family should come first. 😊

Originally posted by: rockstallion

i feel for married women, family should come first. 😊

Ya Not only women rocky...all feel like that only.......without family ..what career...wat job.....family hey tho sub kuch hey....😊😳

Family, of course, but life is not all black and white. a balance is needed between the two. one of the spouses needs to be there if both can't arrange it. couple should set priorities keeping in mind who has the drive/agression to excel in chosen career and who is looking forward to making the family their focal point. both can work together to ensure over all balance. don't see why u need to let go of one to excel at other 😊 now, if both r driven, there r still ways to find the balance. bottomline, there's no "one approach fits all situations" here. have seen well accomplished people exceling in parenting and people with low drive careerwise totally blowing it off. the reverse is true too. therefore, set ur priorities and find ur balance😊

I don't see why one should have to make a choice. It's all a matter of mutual understanding, prioritising, planning and balancing.

Originally posted by: SholaJoBhadkey

I don't see why one should have to make a choice. It's all a matter of mutual understanding, prioritising, planning and balancing.

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Originally posted by: Gauri_3

Family, of course, but life is not all black and white. a balance is needed between the two. one of the spouses needs to be there if both can't arrange it. couple should set priorities keeping in mind who has the drive/agression to excel in chosen career and who is looking forward to making the family their focal point. both can work together ( as in mutual understanding😆....and yahan planning bhi implicit hai poorey vyakhyaan mein😆) to ensure over all balance. don't see why u need to let go of one to excel at other 😊 now, if both r driven, there r still ways to find the balance. bottomline, there's no "one approach fits all situations" here. have seen well accomplished people exceling in parenting and people with low drive careerwise totally blowing it off. the reverse is true too. therefore, set ur priorities and find ur balance😊

Originally posted by: Gauri_3

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Originally posted by: Gauri_3

Family, of course, but life is not all black and white. a balance is needed between the two. one of the spouses needs to be there if both can't arrange it. couple should set priorities keeping in mind who has the drive/agression to excel in chosen career and who is looking forward to making the family their focal point. both can work together to ensure over all balance. don't see why u need to let go of one to excel at other 😊 now, if both r driven, there r still ways to find the balance. bottomline, there's no "one approach fits all situations" here. have seen well accomplished people exceling in parenting and people with low drive careerwise totally blowing it off. the reverse is true too. therefore, set ur priorities and find ur balance😊

Reply for the part colored in red:

I accept that every situation requires different level of understanding and different priorities...

But now this situation: U cannot leave your kid alone at home.. Kid is suffering from high fever... U have to deliver something that day and you are the team leader... All your friends have failed to help you.. Husband is out of town... You cannot take the kid along with you as its too cold outside... What would you choose??

There are certain situations where you cannot set the priorities and provide the balance... This is what I feel and that time you need to choose between the two...