Whats the priority? Career or Family? - Page 8

Originally posted by: Gauri_3

😆😆 naheen yaar. nothing but absolutly the best lawyer is required to ensure great severance package here...from the current career😉 woh kya hai na, CB key mashwarey key baad zara career track change karney ka mood hua hai😛😆

Pehle yeh to bataon ki notice kitni dogi? 2 weeks yah 6 months..😉

Originally posted by: lighthouse

Now you are onto something..Btw who is making anyone feel guilty but the guilty themselves huh..😊 Women who can manage both kids and career physically, emotionaly and financialy ok aren't the ones feeling guilty imo..😛 I believe if your morals or guilt make you dreary then believe them and reprioritise your life. I think most will agree having a family without having a career may not be the best possible scenario for them but having a career without having a family when it is all said and done isn't the best place to be. imo..

No Lighty, I am not on to anything here. it was just a general observation. the women who manage both well don't just work two shifts - home and career. they also work the third shift....analyzing what exactly they r doing and how cld they perfect it even more. a little bit of guilt keeps them improving and managing both better...imo.

having a career after having a family is not as easy as u r making it sound. if it was, we would have seen lot more opting for it rather than a handful of women....and by career, i do mean a professional career.

other fact is that the guilt, at times, is not self created but is actually forced on them from those who either don't work or don't have kids or are not females....in short, the ones who r not in a working mom's shoes😊

now, i have aired my views on how to manage both and avoiding choosing one over the other...provided u want both...in the very beginning of this thread. I am not the one saying it's undoable but if u read all the responses on this thread...u'll see where i was bringing in that guilt/justification/judgement angle from😊

Originally posted by: lighthouse

Pehle yeh to bataon ki notice kitni dogi? 2 weeks yah 6 months..😉

🤣 woh bhi poochhna hai apney lawyer sey😆😆 keeping the audience in mind - maa bimar, saas bimar, batcha gareeb won't do here na😆

Originally posted by: Gauri_3

having a career after having a family is not as easy as u r making it sound. if it was, we would have seen lot more opting for it rather than a handful of women....and by career, i do mean a professional career.

What I am saying is that it is doable more so then people like to admit.. most people I know change their career field at least once due to burnout , boredom what have you unless one is so comfy in their job with benefits that it becomes counterproductive for them to take a risk and make a move. I know so many women physicians who have never practised after having kids..!!! because by the time they graduate and get married in their late 20's early 30's and have kids , they are almost 40 and have developed interest in another field .. look if one is passionate about being an IT person or accountant or whatever in their early 20's , doesn't mean they will have the same passion it in 1 or 2 decades later. the key is when one is ready for a career even at later stage in life , there are plenty of oppurtunites and it is easier with the insight and wisdom of being older and not naive about certain things.

Originally posted by: lighthouse

What I am saying is that it is doable more so then people like to admit.. most people I know change their career field at least once due to burnout , boredom what have you unless one is so comfy in their job with benefits that it becomes counterproductive for them to take a risk and make a move. I know so many women physicians who have never practised after having kids..!!! because by the time they graduate and get married in their late 20's early 30's and have kids , they are almost 40 and have developed interest in another field .. look if one is passionate about being an IT person or accountant or whatever in their early 20's , doesn't mean they will have the same passion it in 1 or 2 decades later. the key is when one is ready for a career even at later stage in life , there are plenty of oppurtunites and it is easier with the insight and wisdom of being older and not naive about certain things.

the debate topic is which one will u give priority to in case you have both - a career and a young family.😊

as far as building a career after raising a family - well, it all depends on what stage u decide to do that. I have yet to see more than a handful of women who have gone or are going to school pursuing a professional degree after getting married and having kids. Nothing is undoable...even balancing both career and family.....but is it really as easy as u r making it sound...NOPE😊

with that, lets circle back to the debate topic....what would u choose when cornered...and my response is that u shd not be forced to choose one over the other if u want both. the extreme examples given by some in the very beginning of this thread can all be tackled and really do not happen all that often.