Do men have choices? - Page 4

Originally posted by: Maya_M

This question is not directed at people following US lifestyle but for those who have maids at home, help to take care of kids and still prefer to be housewives😛. They made their choices and enjoying it.

i think house hold work is much more thn office work. in office u r alloted a work and u have to do that specific work but in house u r sometimes required to do many tasks at the same time. its mainly due to multitask that women keep maids like if u have u pay attention to ur children and ur parents in law and cok food and clean and go shopping in a matter of few hrs whn will u have time for ur self and earlier whn u had joint families the work was divided but in nueclear families one woman has to do all the work so i dnt understand whts wrong personally i think women who cn manage both house and work together r superwomen and i bow to their effort

Originally posted by: sandya_rao7

and i would like to as kone question is it that men do half of the house hold work whn women go out to work and share half of the burden?

Yes, most certainly. If there is no one to help at home and both husband and wife have a career outside then both should share the housework too. I have seen it is very common these days in US at least that cooking & cleaning is done by wife and dishwashing and clothes are done by husband.

I have nothing against women who choose to stay at home to take care of house and kids but I have seen women in my family who have many maids and house help and still prefer to stay at home and all they do is shop and visit as many temples as possible. I am wondering where is the balance?

Originally posted by: sandya_rao7

and i would like to as kone question is it that men do half of the house hold work whn women go out to work and share half of the burden?

It depends upon each man.... some men do, some men dont.... even after telling them sometimes they dont do it.... thats really bad.... and some men without telling also... it is understood that women is working means have to share the workload at home....

ultimately it depends upon luck.... if you are lucky.. u get the one who does help... 😊

Originally posted by: Maya_M

Yes, most certainly. If there is no one to help at home and both husband and wife have a career outside then both should share the housework too. I have seen it is very common these days in US at least that cooking & cleaning is done by wife and dishwashing and clothes are done by husband.

I have nothing against women who choose to stay at home to take care of house and kids but I have seen women in my family who have many maids and house help and still prefer to stay at home and all they do is shop and visit as many temples as possible. I am wondering where is the balance?

pata hai there r certain men who want their wives to loook good presentable and move in society so for that if they have to keep 100 maids they do.i think its purely mutual understanding between husband and wife.

and soceity has made these rules rather men have made these rules that they sld work and protect their family so wht u sow u have to reap.

Originally posted by: sandya_rao7

pata hai there r certain men who want their wives to loook good presentable and move in society so for that if they have to keep 100 maids they do.i think its purely mutual understanding between husband and wife.

and soceity has made these rules rather men have made these rules that they sld work and protect their family so wht u sow u have to reap.

Originally posted by: sandya_rao7

]pata hai there r certain men who want their wives to loook good presentable and move in society so for that if they have to keep 100 maids they do.i think its purely mutual understanding between husband and wife.

and soceity has made these rules rather men have made these rules that they sld work and protect their family so wht u sow u have to reap.

I am not one of those women who blame men for every bad thing or for that matter good happening to women. At least in this case women are educated yet they prefer to be home and are not pressurized to work whereas men can't sit at home because society will mock at them. So that takes me back to my real question? Do men have choices? NO. Because for some things we still believe in set norms and don't welcome a change.

Originally posted by: mermaid_QT

The JOB of this particular wife is to be a DOLL ... 🤢

Trophy wife.😃

Does anyone remember an episode of ELR when Frank & Marie have an argument?

Marie says: I have a mind of my own you know! I can contribute! I'm not just some... trophy wife!"

Frank replies" "You're a trophy wife? What contest in hell did I win?"😆

Originally posted by: Maya_M

I am not one of those women who blame men for every bad thing or for that matter good happening to women. At least in this case women are educated yet they prefer to be home and are not pressurized to work whereas men can't sit at home because society will mock at them. So that takes me back to my real question? Do men have choices? NO. Because for some things we still believe in set norms and don't welcome a change.

exactly! very well-said maya