Do men have choices? - Page 2

Originally posted by: sareg

MCP=Maa ca pyara😉

This is hillarious!! 😆😆😆

Maryam, it is Male Chauvinist Pig 🐷

Maya, great discussion. I believe that unless a physical challenge forces man to sit at home / pop has earned enough to feed for generations / unless one is a ghar jamai is kekta show, I don;t think Indian men actually do have a choice. On the contrary to that, over here, I know many who are willing to be at-home dads. They showed a documentary film last year on ABC about the life of home-maker dads. It is not easy for them even here, but I believe the level of acceptance is much higher. It was funny to see how these at-home dads get together with birds of the same feather and they showed how they shared their emotions and experiences ignoring the risk of sounding gay. It was a different kind of bonding altogether.
One point to note is that everyone's wife treated her husband with utmost respect and I think that would be of great importance in such an arrangement. Loving them and pampering their esteem is the only way to keep the chauvinist pig inside comatose 😉

everyone has a choice so do men, but they wudnt want ppl to think they were uncapable to do jobs, many husbands wudnt want their wives to work so they mite think they hv to go to work because someone has to make money for the home to run properly, also they wudnt want their children growing up seeing that their dad doesnt work and its the mum thats going to work, men think its not socially acceptable to not work and let the woman earn the money. they hv a choice but they mite find it embarrassing or socially wrong.

men sometimes arent as good as looking after kids (not all men) and it is quite important for children to hv time with their mum, so its quite important for mums to be there for their kids, so the women mite actually choose not to work, in that case men hv to work, someone has to!

they shud get to choose, it shud be acceptable in society, at the moment if summat like that happened people wud talk bout it, but i dont think thats right if men dont want to work, that shud be there choice, but i dont men wud actually want that (not all men) no offense to any1

Isn't it hypocrisy and discrimination when we say that men do not have choices because stay at home dads would be unacceptable to society? On one hand we argue that today's women is career oriented, liberated….and then we still argue for the same set norms for men.

I posted this topic after hearing a conversation between a husband and wife who are my dear friends. The wife wants to go to India for 4 months as now they don't have any issues so guy told her that 'it is so easy for you women'. He further said that he would love to enjoy a 4 month vacation too but he can't because he has to work.

Originally posted by: sareg

MCP=Maa ca pyara😉

😆😆😆 That is a good one.

Originally posted by: cool_pooja

Well they can do that if they want but as u said, it wunt be acceptable to the society, the ppl, and the women. Its the nature's rule that man has to earn the money. They cant sit at the house. So the answer is no. The soceity does not give men the choice. N if he does make that choice, he is looked down upon.

When did nature make this rule? So is it also a rule that women should slog at home cooking, cleaning, taking care of kids?

Originally posted by: mythili_Kiran

Nice topic.Without thinking even for a second I say "Men don't have any choice in this issue".They don't even prefer to sit in home and do household activities.I wonder if any man prefers this option and does any woman like such type of people.Atleast in India,we don't find such people.MK

There are many households in India where maids, help is there to do daily chores. In-laws or parents are there to lend support and take care of babies and still women prefer to stay at home because it is her choice. If most of the work is taken care by others then won't men want tot stay at home too. At least shouldn't he be given a choice. Now that times have changed..........

Originally posted by: sweta01

If a man is not working, he will be pressurized to work in order to provide for his family requirements. A woman on the other hand is not pressurized to work.

I know. I understand what you mean. But isn't it hypocrisy that we argue about women getting liberated and making life choices but we still go by set norms for men?

I mean women get to choose whether to stay at home or to go outside and have a career.
As far as I know, its never either or it has always been home AND career. 😆

What if men choose to stay at home and ask women to go have a career? Will it be acceptable to women, to the society?
This is a need on basis situation. However, guilt, envy and feeling of insecurity may be still prevalent among spouses if traditional roles are reversed. But the trend is growing here in US. There are rare but about 98000 Mr. Moms (out of 26.5 Million young fathers) according to this US Census bureau release.

Originally posted by: Maya_M

Isn't it hypocrisy and discrimination when we say that men do not have choices because stay at home dads would be unacceptable to society?

Without a doubt! I pity men in that sense. Right from childhood, they are taught how they would be the bread-earners.
In another post where the topic was how important is MONEY making in a career. I had mentioned the same thing. For a woman, it is much easier to pursue a dream that may not be high paying until all her hair looks grey and most teeth are gone. For a guy, he better quit his dream and even work at Burger king instead to feed the family! 🤢🤢 Most people are hypocrites if they expect the man to earn no matter whether he wants to have a career / not.

Originally posted by: Maya_M

When did nature make this rule? So is it also a rule that women should slog at home cooking, cleaning, taking care of kids?

While we are at it , we might as well ask why women are solely responsible with bearing the child for 9 months...

I feel men and women are both wired differently as we all know and hence gender roles were segregated traditionaly and historicaly but it is changing very fast now... Disintegrated roles although not completely is what most nuclear families have presently. Every person has limitaitons and I can't expect my husband to do what he can't do - like make Tea..😕 . Likewise I don't take my car to the garage for oil change..😃 As for working for living, whoever makes the most money gets to work and the other person gets to be home maker.

I saw something very interesting about lions while on Safari once. Male lions sleep almost 20 hrs a day while the Female lion did hunting , brought the meat to the den to feed her cubs , and watched Male lion take most of the food.

Cest le vie..!!!!