Is marriage necessary? - Page 8

Originally posted by: chatbuster

and if u cant live up to the responsibilities and commitment, then u're better off not wrecking up lives by getting married.

Agree 100%. Marriage is all about commitment and total responsibility and the magical word compatibility.

In a job if there is dispute you can always switch to another one...in a marriage you are stuck forever...😕

Its just not your life alone that gets wrecked up then it is two lives, two associated families and if there is a kid in between God help the situation....

The picture is so frightening...that.....better to keep away....😊

Originally posted by: adi_0112

Agree 100%. Marriage is all about commitment and total responsibility and the magical word compatibility.

In a job if there is dispute you can always switch to another one...in a marriage you are stuck forever...😕

Its just not your life alone that gets wrecked up then it is two lives, two associated families and if there is a kid in between God help the situation....

The picture is so frightening...that.....better to keep away....😊

Don't like the scary picture presented here!
Choose your partner carefully and there is no reason why you should feel like you are stuck forever.

Yup. marriage is necessary.

it is not only about responsiblity attached to marriage. there are loads and loads of things other then that. God made Man and Woman for eachother. weather u can take the responiblity or not, u still need that ONE man or woman in life, which u can turn too, and who can understand u. i know parents hain, siblings hain, friends hain. but they also have their own life. so why not have someone who will be part of ur life?

responsibilty lehnye saye aati hai. durr khare ho kar shur machanye saye nahian aagi. jaab river main dive lagaye gaye tabhi swiming aaye gi na. same way. jaab shaadi karegaye tabhi saab kuch khudh ba khudh aajye ga.

it is better to marry one, then to date ten dozen. and waste a great feeling of love.
by not marrying, we will suppress the feelings and emotions, which will come out in other way, mostly wrong. so why not take the right step??

Originally posted by: Ms. Bholi Bhali

Yup. marriage is necessary.

it is not only about responsiblity attached to marriage. there are loads and loads of things other then that. God made Man and Woman for eachother. weather u can take the responiblity or not, u still need that ONE man or woman in life, which u can turn too, and who can understand u. i know parents hain, siblings hain, friends hain. but they also have their own life. so why not have someone who will be part of ur life?

responsibilty lehnye saye aati hai. durr khare ho kar shur machanye saye nahian aagi. jaab river main dive lagaye gaye tabhi swiming aaye gi na. same way. jaab shaadi karegaye tabhi saab kuch khudh ba khudh aajye ga.

it is better to marry one, then to date ten dozen. and waste a great feeling of love.
by not marrying, we will suppress the feelings and emotions, which will come out in other way, mostly wrong. so why not take the right step??

haha. still gotta be careful before u take that dive. there cld be rocks under the surface that u cld hit ur head against. what the dive will certainly accomplish is one of two things- either u're going to learn to swim or you'll drown. both are possibilities. the odds depend on your natural talents/ personality.

actually, a marriage takes u thru the entire gamut of emotions- from the beginning stages of romance to the later stages of companionship. it does make for a full life in that sense, though it need not always be the happiest course for everyone. on the other hand, the dozens-of-dates lifestyle you mentioned keeps one firmly in the beginning stages of attachment. i'd still say that this might be the best course for people who dont know how to live up to their commitment or are the straying casanova types.

well, woh tu u have to be careful even if u want to become a gardener......... u have to becareful if u don't pick any thorns!!!
if U choose the right partner, then you will never drown!!! choice is urs.......... and if u can't choose the right person, then it is not the fault of marriage but of u.

huh, how can dozen dates teach commitment with one??? in marriage u have to commit with one person. not many of similar kind. dating like that, will only make u a player........ not a responsible person!

Like some one in this thread said, with cohabitation, there's always a back door.

And to add, that back door doesnt need a key to be unlocked. No hassles, when its time to use it? Maybe. 😉

Jojo

Originally posted by: Ms. Bholi Bhali

well, woh tu u have to be careful even if u want to become a gardener......... u have to becareful if u don't pick any thorns!!!
if U choose the right partner, then you will never drown!!! choice is urs.......... and if u can't choose the right person, then it is not the fault of marriage but of u.

huh, how can dozen dates teach commitment with one??? in marriage u have to commit with one person. not many of similar kind. dating like that, will only make u a player........ not a responsible person!

yaar, u're assuming that that nice filmi dive into the river has a happy ending. great if the script goes that way. but there are also enuff instances of good well-intentioned people who get married only to split up later. these instances show up the non-filmi world of practical realities. basically u cant be careful enuff. after all, life does throw up a lot of unforeseen situations and even if u lived with someone for eons u cant be certain a priori how they'll handle these.

as for the second point, but sorry i think u r misreading my post...

basically, u're assuming away the problem by talking of "right partner" as the only possibility.

if u dive into the water, thinking u will drown, then u will drown forsure, even if there are chances that u might swim till the end. its not filmi. its real life, there is nothing stright. u have to learn it.

jis tarha, aap keh rahye hain, uss tarha tu we should not do anything in life, just sit at home. risk tu lehna parhta hai. chaiye woh marriage hi ho.


ok sorry, ya read it again. sorry for that

Originally posted by: chatbuster

basically, u're assuming away the problem by talking of "right partner" as the only possibility.

doesn't the choice of right partner solve more then half the problems???

Originally posted by: Ms. Bholi Bhali

if u dive into the water, thinking u will drown, then u will drown forsure, even if there are chances that u might swim till the end. its not filmi. its real life, there is nothing stright. u have to learn it.

jis tarha, aap keh rahye hain, uss tarha tu we should not do anything in life, just sit at home. risk tu lehna parhta hai. chaiye woh marriage hi ho.


ok sorry, ya read it again. sorry for that

haha. good. now we can boil this down into following terms- risk taking/ risk aversion. well, what risks to take and how much to take generally depends on one's preferences, personality and circumstances. to take risks when one is ill-equipped or ill-prepared to do so is rather fool-hardy, wat say?😊