Is marriage necessary? - Page 7

guys i dont belive marriage is necassary
i mean that if one person is interested in marriage that person can marry but to make it a rule and to put it like a necessity esp on girls it becomes wrong when u force the girls to marry out of wish and i have seen many cases like that and those gals in later life only suffer it shud depend on the person's wish whether he or she wants to marry or not
so i conclude taht according to my opinion marriage isn't necessary
griffy

Story goes to the time around the first Human's on this planet

There was this tribe where the guys would marry girls and after a while when they came across a more beautiful woman they would ditch the current women. The Head of the community had a daughter and was very concerned about his daughter. So he put this condition whoever marries my daughter will get to rule the community, but he will have to stay with his daughter and he formed a contract that stated the same. This contract in their native term was called as Marriage

Later all the influential people in that community really liked their idea and started adopting it, slowly but surely this concept of marriage got wildly popular

Seeing the benefits, even the neighbouring tribes adopted this policy, After a few generations, It became such an accepted norm, nobody could get to be with the man or woman they wanted without a marriage. Later they invented religion, Offcourse their gods had to be in this holy alliance, or else how can they be Gods?

The people who wrote the scriptures were wise "men" and needed to go home to a family, so they thought up a logic to justify the marriage

Later different religions cropped up and then they started limiting marriages within the religions itself

And you know the rest of the story 😉

Originally posted by: egghatcher

so my dear shadi pundit

which tribe ubvebted divorce and on what pretext?😛

Come-on People who wrote our scriptures even wrote means to get around a shaap, you think they would forget about this 1000lb gorilla😉 in the room?

Those were some thoughtful people😆

Is marriage necessary...hmmm a question for those who have been married for a long time or those who are comtemplating it in the near future.

In North America why the younger generation prefers a Live-in relationship to a marriage is :

In a live-in relationship, if there is a break up the guy loses 50% share of the material assets . He still has another 50% to start life afresh.

However if a married guy breaks up, he loses 100% of his material assets thus leaving him totally broke...😆😆😆

Originally posted by: sareg

Come-on People who wrote our scriptures even wrote means to get around a shaap, you think they would forget about this 1000lb gorilla😉 in the room?

Those were some thoughtful people😆

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Ahem ahem.... whom are you calling gorilla now sareg? 😆

I AM AGREE WITH PUNJINI ..buh to increase da pollulation lo...its gud nuff 😆

Falling in loe and going on dates is fine, but when the topic of getting married espeacially "Indian" marriages, where many men are narrow minded and many women are jelous, I don't tink is right. Yeh marriage may be important, but in early age, marriage should be understood and maturally acknowledged. When both (male and female) have different priroties such as education, career, love, family, kids, and etc that should be considered seriously before tying the knot. If example, women want to be career oriented and the hubby doesn't like that, than no use getting married.

Also marriage isn't like committment any more, because nowadays there are more divorces and affairs going on that anything. So why waste urs and some else's life, is one is not matuare enough to handle such critical relationships.

Get to know yourself and your dreams first 😉

Originally posted by: mkzara

A while ago Buffie and I had a debate in which we digressed from the original topic into whether or not marriage was necessary and i wanted to talk about that. I know quite a few people who are in comitted relationships and dont believe in marriage. These people believe in spending their lives with each other and are in love with each other but dont believe in marriage. Since they are in committed relationships, i feel that marriage is not necessary. Marriage is considered to be a strong commitment, in which two people love each other, care for each other and stick with each other in the good and the bad. Now if someone has all that then marriage is simply a piece of paper which has no real significance and only exists to make the government aware of your commitment to each other.

Has the institution of marriage become a concept that does not apply in todays times? You mentioned you knew couples who were in monagmous live in relationships and had no desire of getting married because that was toooo strong a commitment. My response as a young women would be to say...if you are in love with me I am worth it and yes I demand that strong of a commitment of marriage. And I wouldn't settle for less. Also if I had children I think marriage solidifies the concept of a family unit. Decsions are made for the family not individuals. That's my personal opinion.

As far as marriage being a simple piece of paper, I think you are trivializing and simplfying it. If you are a couple who lives together and have a long term relationship and do not have desire of getting married because you feel it is more contractual. I would say they have commitment issues. There is level of commitment in the relationship that both partners do not want to take. Like Oprah (15 year relationship no marriage) you want a level of independence and autonomy. You want to the option of being able to walk away free and clear.

Though divorce may be common place among my current generation, most of us grew up in families where institution of marriage is still common place. The idea of marriage is not a novelty. Even if we took out the concept of marriage. Society still favors those in commited monagmous relationships - it looks well on the person as if you are willing to take on the responsibility.

hahaha i suppose it becomes necessary if you really want the other person and the only way she'll let that happen is if u go thru the ceremony. remember the filmi "shaadi ke baad" line? 😉 😆

seriously, i dont think it's the roti kapda makaan kind of necessity but if u can have a good marriage then there's nothing like it. and if u cant live up to the responsibilities and commitment, then u're better off not wrecking up lives by getting married.

Originally posted by: chatbuster

seriously, i dont think it's the roti kapda makaan kind of necessity but if u can have a good marriage then there's nothing like it. and if u cant live up to the responsibilities and commitment, then u're better off not wrecking up lives by getting married.

Chalo Rahul too here..... Good 😆😆

I agree to that part of your view.... Very well said and 100% correct 👏