Is marriage necessary? - Page 10

Originally posted by: Bhaskar.T

So what is the guarantee that you will get the right partner???

Originally posted by: Ms. Bholi Bhali

are we looking at marriages in general or in north america only???

if north america, then no comments. here ppl don't walk through their lives but they run through it. and their life style is not an ideal one either. they are brought up, in a day care, live on take out, and then start working at the age of 16. their lives are quiet ........... not right. they look for love and affection, most of them are neglacted. they become independent at a very small age.

But isn't this the plight of the new generation kids as well in India? Nuclear family, mom n dad working, kid in dayhome/daycare and the regular running. Where is the extra love and affection.

Most kids in North America have to work to provide for their tutions especially those in proffessional courses to pay off their student loans regardless of whether they are asian or white. I agree we get moral support from our parents , financial too but we also like our freedom and being self reliant.

The divorce rates in India / asia is no less now,especially in the present age. There is no guarantee to anything. Everything comes at a price.Life is a gamble.u win some u lose some...

marriage is a committment between two ppl and strong bond which we cant break it marriage easily... It doesnt depend on ur gud time or bad time with ur partner.. no matter it's love-marriage or arranged marriage..

I think marriage is necessary for everyone..

Originally posted by: cheri

without marriages how will we find hot jodiz??..

oh ya we got ekta shows 😆

cheriiiiii tumhe to main kya kahuuuuu😆

Originally posted by: Ms. Bholi Bhali

that is life!!! ............ not the fault of marriage. it is ur fate!!!

and it is how u take those issues. it is upto u and ur partner how u go through the journey of marriage. it depends on each person. not all are same. some are born frustrated, some are not.

what abt ppl who r not allow to choose their right partner?😆😉 arranged marriage- some parents doesnt care for their children' desire? I've seen some parents who want their children to marry 2 their choice of girl/boy.🤢

oh well I'm okay.. my family has given me right to reject or accept their choice😉😵

Originally posted by: adi_0112

But isn't this the plight of the new generation kids as well in India? Nuclear family, mom n dad working, kid in dayhome/daycare and the regular running. Where is the extra love and affection.

Most kids in North America have to work to provide for their tutions especially those in proffessional courses to pay off their student loans regardless of whether they are asian or white. I agree we get moral support from our parents , financial too but we also like our freedom and being self reliant.

The divorce rates in India / asia is no less now,especially in the present age. There is no guarantee to anything. Everything comes at a price.Life is a gamble.u win some u lose some...

No Adi I don't agree with you here. What you are talking about is maybe hardly 25-30%. Rest is still the same.

And freedom??? At what cost?? I would prefer staying with my parents the whole time with full curb on this freedom. And in India now a days parents don't put the same curb as you could see happening maybe 20yrs back. It is a combination of Freedom and Nuclear family. One more thing.... you don't need to have full freedom to become self reliant.

Yes there is no guarantee these days I fully agree. And going for marriage or not depends upon if you want to take the risk or not. My take... better not 😆

Originally posted by: punjini

Well certainly, there are no iron-clad guarantees. No partnerships are formed with guarantees that they will work - the only thing one can do is to do as much research and thinking as possible before the deed is done and then hope for the best. Most important is the will to make the partnership work.

But tell me... will one sided will work? It needs to be both sided. So just because I have the will to make it work I go for it makes any sense???? I don't think so. It becomes more of a gamble. And in my opinion better to gamble money than your life.

Take your time to find the "right" partner. Apply as many "real life" tests as you can (without the other one finding out 😆). Test whether the partner values the same things in life as you do. Find out his/her religious leanings. Test the flexibility of the person. Irritate the person as much as you can and see if he/she tolerates you. Imagine how the partner will look like at the age of sixty (look at his/her mother or father to get clues) and whether you will like to be with the person. There are a 100 ways to test compatability.

Don't you think thats the biggest risk you are asking to take.😆 Because if her/his tolerance level is less.... he may not do anything but if it's she anything can happen from slap to sandal.😆

But jokes apart I feel it is not possible to test compatibility unless you start actually living together or in a way you can say after marriage. But then all's done..... Any problem after this means looking for that back door maybe.... or store room maybe....

Once you find someone who passes all the tests, go ahead and take the plunge. Remember, if a couple WANTS a marriage to work, no force on earth can stop them. It's all in the will (and I don't mean will as in vasiyat!)

👏

Good one..........

Originally posted by: egghatcher

😛u ought to see the marlon brando flick queimada

conforms in-toto to your philosophy😛

umm lolzzzzzz😕 what do u mean bu that