molestation - Page 7

Originally posted by: punjabi#1

Also if the molester is underage family you are ruining their future.

Originally posted by: debayon

Plz ignore my comment if you don't like it. Perhaps you have a guilty conscience.

i don't have nothing to hide or a need to defend myself because i did nothing wrong. So that being said I see no need to ignore your comment. Wouldn't you if you were in my place feel guilty? For heavensakes he was my nephew. of course i am gonna wonder if i some how caused this to happen and feel guilty. damn

Originally posted by: punjabi#1

i don't have nothing to hide or a need to defend myself because i did nothing wrong. So that being said I see no need to ignore your comment. Wouldn't you if you were in my place feel guilty? For heavensakes he was my nephew. of course i am gonna wonder if i some how caused this to happen and feel guilty. damn

Of course, I totally agree with you but rape is rape, molestation is molestation, it does not vary by class, race, religion or whatever factor.

Originally posted by: debayon

Plz ignore my comment if you don't like it. Perhaps you have a guilty conscience.

Was that directed at me?

Originally posted by: PhoeniXof_Hades

Was that directed at me?

What makes you think that? No, it wasn't.

Originally posted by: punjabi#1

i don't have nothing to hide or a need to defend myself because i did nothing wrong. So that being said I see no need to ignore your comment. Wouldn't you if you were in my place feel guilty? For heavensakes he was my nephew. of course i am gonna wonder if i some how caused this to happen and feel guilty. damn

Originally posted by: debayon

of you forgive a rapist, whose minor, he's gonna ruin even more people's lives, who knows, you maybe a victim someday(unless you're a guy, of course). Maybe, he may even start stealing banks or become a hitman. Then what?

Why cant a guy be a rape victim?

Guys can be raped by other guys or girls.

Originally posted by: punjabi#1

I am not gonna see a counslor. I am not going crazy over this. I ain't gonna talk to family because I don't want to see anyone upset and ruin family relationships. Plus, I doubt anybody would believe me to be honest. I was just visiting and my cousins that live there have never had an issue. So people might ask why me? and i don't have an answer to that.

Since it was molestation, nothing would really happen in courts.
I do think it will unnecessarily create problems though.

If your over it, i don't think you need to talk to someone.
But maybe you can tell your parents or something?
It would be really awkward though...i really dont know what i would do in your situation.

People make mistakes...if it really was a "mistake" on his part then you know...maybe he regrets it?

But if it was on purpose & intentional, no regrets...dont talk to him & consider telling someone.

Originally posted by: Jess.

Since it was molestation, nothing would really happen in courts.
I do think it will unnecessarily create problems though.

If your over it, i don't think you need to talk to someone.
But maybe you can tell your parents or something?
It would be really awkward though...i really dont know what i would do in your situation.

People make mistakes...if it really was a "mistake" on his part then you know...maybe he regrets it?

But if it was on purpose & intentional, no regrets...dont talk to him & consider telling someone.

finally a reasonable response, something i could agree to and feel a little better and not totally guilty.

Molestation of anyone disturbs me to no ends. If you are not mature\powerful enough to do anything about it, at least you can change how you think about it, that will stop your guilt trips. Stop blaming yourself, that it was your fault or that you led to it.