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i don't know why i expected anything different. Atleast one person to see my point of view. he is a kid and i am the victim aunt. I can't bring myself to tell anyone because I don't want to see him in trouble.

I can't hate him

Originally posted by: punjabi#1

i don't know why i expected anything different. Atleast one person to see my point of view. he is a kid and i am the victim aunt. I can't bring myself to tell anyone because I don't want to see him in trouble.

I can't hate him

Why not? He's human too, not any superman who can make your life blossom. In fact, he'll be a threat to society. Now if you allow that and if you think that your principles are correct, then go ahead.

*Edited* (in search of words)

Originally posted by: punjabi#1

i don't know why i expected anything different. Atleast one person to see my point of view. he is a kid and i am the victim aunt. I can't bring myself to tell anyone because I don't want to see him in trouble.

I can't hate him

Is this a thing of past? Are there any missing pieces here? Are you at fault too? Why are you feeling sympathetic to him? Was it some sort of an attempt of sexual exploration on his behalf which you allowed? Please give the details.

Originally posted by: finicky2010

Is this a thing of past? Are there any missing pieces here? Are you at fault too? Why are you feeling sympathetic to him? Was it some sort of an attempt of sexual exploration on his behalf which you allowed? Please give the details.

I hope, you know what rape is before you say he is a rapist. If you do and you still claim him to be a rapist, I can't vision how you can have soft corner for him unless you are that kid..

exactly...I was wondering abt all this too but was not sure how to ask her...

it happened last month when i was visiting india. i said molestation, not rape.

I can't seem to hate him because my cousin (his mom is no more) and he had a tough childhood. He has 5 masi's and i am one of them. My dad pays for his education, cloths and paid for his first motorcycle....so i am constantly getting updates on him from my family. I have been back before and he had always treated me with respect/love but never as a masi more of as a friend. He is taller than me and feels weird calling me masi. This time I went back there was a wedding and he knows i don't feel comfortable around so many people i don't know. He was by my side always introducing me to people, rescuing me from people when i didn't want to talk. Fetching me food and drinks and just being there for me. He would defend me when someone teased me, his poor brother got beat up alot. Like he was so sweet to me before this stupid act and even afterwards. I was distant from him after what he did but he still made sure I was taken care of from afar. It happened the night of the wedding...

I think he just screwed up. i don't know. There are 5 of us of same age and they spend more time with him then I, they live in india. I don't think he does this as a normal thing or someone would have spoken out by now. I don't live there...i don't want to ruin my life and his.

Originally posted by: finicky2010

Is this a thing of past? Are there any missing pieces here? Are you at fault too? Why are you feeling sympathetic to him?Was it some sort ofan attemptof sexual exploration on his behalf which you allowed? Please give the details.

I hope, you know what rape is before you say he is a rapist. If you do and you still claim him to be a rapist, I can't vision how you can have soft corner for him unless you are that kid..

What you said makes sense, however we must not make any such assumptions, as this have the potential to further break down the victim. I'm not sure if we should even advice her, as anything wrong we say may take her in the wrong direction. Even I am stumped here.

Originally posted by: PhoeniXof_Hades

What you said makes sense, however we must not make any such assumptions, as this have the potential to further break down the victim. I'm not sure if we should even advice her, as anything wrong we say may take her in the wrong direction. Even I am stumped here.

I understand.

Originally posted by: punjabi#1

it happened last month when i was visiting india. i said molestation, not rape.



I can't seem to hate him because my cousin (his mom is no more) and he had a tough childhood. He has 5 masi's and i am one of them. My dad pays for his education, cloths and paid for his first motorcycle....so i am constantly getting updates on him from my family. I have been back before and he had always treated me with respect/love but never as a masi more of as a friend. He is taller than me and feels weird calling me masi. This time I went back there was a wedding and he knows i don't feel comfortable around so many people i don't know. He was by my side always introducing me to people, rescuing me from people when i didn't want to talk. Fetching me food and drinks and just being there for me. He would defend me when someone teased me, his poor brother got beat up alot. Like he was so sweet to me before this stupid act and even afterwards. I was distant from him after what he did but he still made sure I was taken care of from afar. It happened the night of the wedding...



I think he just screwed up. i don't know. There are 5 of us of same age and they spend more time with him then I, they live in india. I don't think he does this as a normal thing or someone would have spoken out by now. I don't live there...i don't want to ruin my life and his.

Thanks for the information, however it still isn't possible to comprehend anything from here, and I'm sure you can understand that. We sure need to know more, but I don't think the discussion is really applicable for this place, besides, I doubt if you will want to go any further.



Just three question without meaning to offend (ignore these if you don't want to answer) - do you drink or addicted to anything? Do you have a clear account of what happened then, or does it come of as hazy? Did you have a face to face confrontation with him after this incident? (If no, I would strongly suggest you to. This is very essential irrespective of how you both feel).

hmm i think all molesters are dirt bags and should be sent to hell.