Why cannot a man love more than one wife?

myviewprem

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Posted: 8 years ago

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Originally posted by: sashashyam
The part in blue is spot on, Prem. It is sad, but this discrimination is also linked to the concept of girls as paraya dhan, who will go away to someone else's family after marriage, whereas the boy is supposed to be a lifelong support for his parents. It is another matter that he might be no such thing!

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Yes aunty you are spot on

See boys study is invested in as parents think boys will earn and give to parents and take care odf parents

Daughters will marry and go away so why spend more? And i have seen many very rich families who can afford think like this.

But nowadays its usually daughters who take care of parents in old age and finance them in difficult situations, sons usually after marriage think only of wife and their kids. Girls usually are emotional and cannot break the bond with parents as easily as a son does(in case of a conflict bet wife and parents)

Even a highly patriachial north that discrimates heavily on girls depends on daughters in old age

Even in indian society if someone is unwell or bedridden a daughter, sister or mother or wife takes leave and takes care of the person not a son, brother, father or husband. A wife leaves her job when her husband is transferred no matter how big the job is.

http://www.firstpost.com/living/parent-care-how-a-daughter-is-now-the-new-son-93669.html

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Originally posted by: riyya6
so sad to read and hear abt All this... All this exist even today ... omg

Please read below report

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/India-deadliest-place-in-world-for-girl-child/articleshow/11707102.cms

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Originally posted by: sharmacatty

In my opinion, an emperor can't love his 100 wives at one time but that doesn't mean that he should ignore his other wives and frankly I don't think any emperor did this as they used to go to other wives for their own pleasures. So where is love??😔

As a husband, it's his duty to take care of his wife and his every wife has a right on him whether it's for seeking affection, love or physical intimacy.

but I think only one person comes in our life with which we feel that connection. I cannot say that a person can fall in love many times because Love IS NOT temporary. If it changes, then it's not real.
A person can have a relation with many but every relationship is different. He cannot have that same relationship with all his wives.
Having said that, your title says, "Why cannot a man love more than one wife?"

The question which instantly came in my mind after reading this was, "Why cannot a wife/woman love more than one man?"

I don't think any man would accept his wife then. I really really don't understand this thing.

How would an emperor feel if his wife goes to other men for pleasure? But then she's "Characterless". 😳
Huh.. still,nothing much has changed👎🏼👎🏼👎🏼

Thankyou for the pm!!

That depends on the culture

In india(and asia and africa) women cannot marry multiple times - one marriage and its end(even if widowed)

Also a very rich and powerful lady can marry many times in india too(society will not dare boycott her)

In US/Europe people are more liberal and women can marry many men(after divorce of course)

Like Elizabeth taylor had married 9 times in 1950-60s only

Of course when it comes to royalty it becomes complicated

If a wife of emperor(or king) leaves him and marries another it sends multiple messages that a king cannot handle his own wife or house how will he manage an empire

But if you read about harem right, an emperor has many wives and cocubbines and after spending few days with an wife emperor usually moved on, so what do these young wives do for rest life? So harem had affairs etc going on. As per harem chronicles Jaharana and Roshanara had lovers smuggled inside their apartments. Not all wives but a few definetly had affairs. Now Akbar in his late 50s married princess who were young 14-15 for political reasons what do they do? Because Akbar died at 64 years, so those wife will be 18-20 years etc they will just spend life in loneliness and celibacy (no kids too to pass time)

Same for politicians all over world (very rarely a politician will not divorce wife no matter what his philandering ways) because they have an image to maintain

Like john kennedy, bill clinton etc had multiple affairs but wives never divorced them for political reasons(they will lose president job or next election) so they stick on to husbands.

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amina1

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Originally posted by: myviewprem

Yes aunty you are spot on

See boys study is invested in as parents think boys will earn and give to parents and take care odf parents

Daughters will marry and go away so why spend more? And i have seen many very rich families who can afford think like this.

But nowadays its usually daughters who take care of parents in old age and finance them in difficult situations, sons usually after marriage think only of wife and their kids. Girls usually are emotional and cannot break the bond with parents as easily as a son does(in case of a conflict bet wife and parents)

Even a highly patriachial north that discrimates heavily on girls depends on daughters in old age

Even in indian society if someone is unwell or bedridden a daughter, sister or mother or wife takes leave and takes care of the person not a son, brother, father or husband. A wife leaves her job when her husband is transferred no matter how big the job is.

http://www.firstpost.com/living/parent-care-how-a-daughter-is-now-the-new-son-93669.html

Well prem in our society thats how boys are raised and a girl suppose to take care of her family be it her or her husbands,its not that boys dont take care of theire families but are burdened by financial responsibility at time i have noticed a son brother husband is nothingbut a bank account, to me both son daughter should be treated same but its not the case,if he take care of his mom hes labled as mamas boy and he take care of his wife and kids hes joru ka gulam i have seen mothers favour theyre daughters over their son,and vice versa,we live in a hypocrite society pick and chhose what we fancy

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Originally posted by: amina1

Yes aunty you are spot on

See boys study is invested in as parents think boys will earn and give to parents and take care odf parents

Daughters will marry and go away so why spend more? And i have seen many very rich families who can afford think like this.

But nowadays its usually daughters who take care of parents in old age and finance them in difficult situations, sons usually after marriage think only of wife and their kids. Girls usually are emotional and cannot break the bond with parents as easily as a son does(in case of a conflict bet wife and parents)

Even a highly patriachial north that discrimates heavily on girls depends on daughters in old age

Even in indian society if someone is unwell or bedridden a daughter, sister or mother or wife takes leave and takes care of the person not a son, brother, father or husband. A wife leaves her job when her husband is transferred no matter how big the job is.

http://www.firstpost.com/living/parent-care-how-a-daughter-is-now-the-new-son-93669.html

Well prem in our society thats how boys are raised and a girl suppose to take care of her family be it her or her husbands,its not that boys dont take care of theire families but are burdened by financial responsibility at time i have noticed a son brother husband is nothingbut a bank account, to me both son daughter should be treated same but its not the case,if he take care of his mom hes labled as mamas boy and he take care of his wife and kids hes joru ka gulam i have seen mothers favour theyre daughters over their son,and vice versa,we live in a hypocrite society pick and chhose what we fancy

Amina that has changed now

many daughters work you see, so its easier for sons to just leave parents at sisters responsibility both financially and physically

What i am saying is although son education gets more preference and daughters are not allowed to pursue their dreams by parents finally in old age they are financially and physically dependent on a daughter(majority, i do not say all sons abondon parents but majority work in other locations, country or have issues at home and leave parents to daughters care)

30 years back not many daughters worked, so no matter what financially parents depended on son but not anymore many girls are in workforce so easy for them to financially take care of parents

Still in india property hardly is given to daughters(exclude dowry etc) no matter how a son treats parents the property usually goes to son or largest part goes to son

So as daughters a girl is discriminated more - no education, no property etc but responsibility of parents on her (both financial and physical etc)

Even if parent is staying with son when they are in hospital etc usually daughters are taking care in hospital more time, sons are busy in work etc do not take leave to take care of parents.

If a son was discrimanted by parents from birth will he bother to take responsibility of parents in old age(both financial and physical care) never but a daughter will do it.

Daughter in laws feel in laws discriminate against them, but daughters get discriminated from birth yet do not take revenge on parents in old age and in time of need. Every daughter in law is a daughter too, but a son will never forgive if parents do any discrimination against him(even simple ones) and will look for opportunity to show parents that.

Example in history: Jodha was married to Akbar to save amer from mughal invasion, but she never took any revenge on ameris and always favoured them and helped them grow(so did many princess of the time) That is what i mean

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Originally posted by: amina1

Yes aunty you are spot on

See boys study is invested in as parents think boys will earn and give to parents and take care odf parents

Daughters will marry and go away so why spend more? And i have seen many very rich families who can afford think like this.

But nowadays its usually daughters who take care of parents in old age and finance them in difficult situations, sons usually after marriage think only of wife and their kids. Girls usually are emotional and cannot break the bond with parents as easily as a son does(in case of a conflict bet wife and parents)

Even a highly patriachial north that discrimates heavily on girls depends on daughters in old age

Even in indian society if someone is unwell or bedridden a daughter, sister or mother or wife takes leave and takes care of the person not a son, brother, father or husband. A wife leaves her job when her husband is transferred no matter how big the job is.

http://www.firstpost.com/living/parent-care-how-a-daughter-is-now-the-new-son-93669.html

Well prem in our society thats how boys are raised and a girl suppose to take care of her family be it her or her husbands,its not that boys dont take care of theire families but are burdened by financial responsibility at time i have noticed a son brother husband is nothingbut a bank account, to me both son daughter should be treated same but its not the case,if he take care of his mom hes labled as mamas boy and he take care of his wife and kids hes joru ka gulam i have seen mothers favour theyre daughters over their son,and vice versa,we live in a hypocrite society pick and chhose what we fancy

It's a interesting case

And we the person who r able to oppose because we r lucky enough to have been given equal rights by our parent

And I always give gyan to my cousin sister that you should question your parent but they always say that our parent is doing right because they have been raised with this value and from childhood age she faces this discrimination and daily Infront of their eyes they have seen their mother sisters treated like that that their thinking become same

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Originally posted by: gaushiv13

It's a interesting case

And we the person who r able to oppose because we r lucky enough to have been given equal rights by our parent

And I always give gyan to my cousin sister that you should question your parent but they always say that our parent is doing right because they have been raised with this value and from childhood age she faces this discrimination and daily Infront of their eyes they have seen their mother sisters treated like that that their thinking become same

Yes its a society issue not parental issue usually

I know in few society if daughter study more she do not get boys for marriage

In india its preferred daughter in law(or wife) should study less than son and earn less than son usually else it becomes ego and prestige issue

Parents must change and not do what their parents did to them to their daughters(more of revenge for their parents act) the cycle must stop somewhere

A mother/mother in law has faced discrimination and she continues this with their daughter/daughter in law, it gives her some kind of peace many be that authority to decide a girls fate(just like their mother) its basic psychology

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Hi,
Interesting post .well im my opinion yes you are right...indeed monogamy evolved as a result of continous cultural evolution from sexual promiscuity to polygyny or polyandry.
I agree.
But here we are watching a daily soap.. in particular cant fancy an idea of one man and many women trying to crave for his attention.
It was a fact of polygamy as women in harem used to conspire to get the attention of king or resort to various antics ...but it can be digested in a documentary.
But here im trying to watch a soap based upon a said love story.
If i sign in for a love story then only the multiple romance thing becomes erratic.
We are told it is love story of chandra nandini...and then it becomes very tough to watch polygamy and a love story combined.
Had this been the story of chandragupta alone i would have watched all his wives as they were not the main highlight.
As regards making some women look bad and villainous yes it may be wrong but how will the story progress if all is well ..
The only logical thing is to keep history away from this.
Yes a man can love many women but if it is a love story...it has to be a one man and one woman affair.
I think this is the signature line of show.

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