Why cannot a man love more than one wife? - Page 4

Originally posted by: sashashyam

Riyya dear,

Which world do you live in, sweetheart? There is discrimination against women the world over, and not just in India or the Arab world or in China and Japan. Yes, and rampant sexism as well. Just listen to the latest tapes of Trump talking about women. How degrading it is, is it not? How will such a man treat women who are in his power?

Do you know how difficult it was for western women to even get the vote, which women in India got as a matter of right in 1950, when we adopted our Constitution? Winston Churchill was dead against the vote for women. They used to chain themselves to the railings at 10, Downing Street, in London, the residence of the Prime Minister, at the height of the suffragette movement in the 1920s and 30s, and they were all hauled off to prison. It was only after British women proved their worth during World War II, at home while the men were away fighting, and in the war effort, that they got the vote.

Shyamala Aunty

Shyamala Aunty

so sad to read and hear abt All this... All this exist even today ... omg

for me A person can love only one at a tym,, if his luv change one after another Dan its not luv,, its may be attraction,, or only for physical need,, Luv is something which is belongs to a different strata and above of evrything.(if its true). An Emperor can have thousands wives, and I'm sure he must complete his duty as husband towards them. BT if he has any luv, it can be only for one at a tym. There is a differences BTW luv and duty,, The Emperor u named have more Dan 10 wives,, and am pretty sure dey do der duty as husband properly,, BT Pratap-Ajabdhe, Jodha-akbar, jahangir-noor relationship were more Dan a duty of husband-wife. That's y they named as luv birds in History.

They definitely can focus on love story between the emperor and one of his wives... but for that making others vamps is not fair... they are characters who lived and had their own self respects... either they don't show them more or do not show them... like they did in the JA movie...

My dear Gaushiv.

I must tell you that I was absolutely fascinated by your detailed, at the ground level account of the whole girl vs boy debate. I see that we have moved very far away from Prem's original subject, but this is a very interesting debate that is going on!

I was very happy to know that your parents did not regret the fact that their first born was not a boy. Your mother's reaction was the traditional one, that they needed a boy as social security for their old age. So one can understand it.

I can also understand the reactions of your girl cousins who fitted contentedly into the traditional framework. I absolutely insist that every girl must study up the first graduate degree - BA or B.Sc level - but then not all girls are meant for a career.

However, these days, a steadily increasing number of girls and married women are working in offices, banks, stores etc, even after they have one or two kids, and their families adjust to that and are supportive, with the saas looking after the kids and being happy about the extra income. This is a quiet revolution in the status of women in the family.

To revert to you, your father is a truly wonderful man, and you are lucky to have a parent like him.

I a marking in blue the parts of your post that I liked the best.

Shyamala Aunty

Originally posted by: gaushiv13

Agree with you

But in today's world also the truth is there is discrimination

Ya but in rich or middle class family the girls r given importance even more than boys if they can afford for both

But in poor family if they can afford for only one they prefer boy

I am from middle class family I have not faced anything like that even my father to teach my younger brother if he want to teach him in financially better environment he will ask me because he don't want to make me feel or anytime ask the question that my brother was given more than me as when I was in that standard then we were not that much financially strong So we r able to talk big mouth

But still in my surrounding when I watch my cousin sister being discriminated I ask them why u don't complain your parent then she even talk like my parent r not financially strong I have to go one day but my brother have to take care of himself but I will be taken care by my husband and bla bla

So this is the thinking of society and almost every uneducated girl they r made to think that one day they will be married to nice house and this even happen

My massi daughter was very nice in study she was kept in village and made to do back and then was married in a house with 15 lakh dowry and she is living happily with having two kids and is housewife and she has no complaint although her both brother have done engineering from private college and when you will ask her that your mother has discriminated her response will be no as she has given dowry and my brother education cost and property is equal to that she is not able to understand that if she would have studied then life would have different she doesn't know that there is life for woman or girl beyond husband and children
EVERY girl, whether she works later or not, should at least graduate from college. Otherwise she will be like a cripple all her life, dependent on others for everything. But given this, not all women like the kind of independence a job or a career gets them, with all the decisions and problems it brings along. They are happy in their safe little home, and why not? One cannot have a one size fits all approach.

This is not made story it's reality

Even from boy side it should change as my one other cousin (my BUA daughter )has been given equal treatment even better than her brother as her parent considered her more eligible but now they r having repent to teach their daughter as when they r going to search for groom then the demand is to give dowry and even her salary should be stocked what she has earned

Many other cases like every parent want one boy and one girl to complete family but if they get girl child first time then they will fear for second even will do sex test and abortion but if they get boy first time then without any fear they plan for second child and if it is a girl then also they r happy and if boy then also theyr happy

Even my own case I am first child of my parent my mother was little bit upset and she wanted a second child to be a boy for that she even kept fast although my father case was different he wanted only one baby wether be a girl or a boy but due to my mother in distance and everyone insurance he planned for second Although I have never been discriminated or I have always been loved by all even more than my brother even when he was not born I was so much loved in my family and especially by my parent that I have totally became spoilt not bad girl I mean to say a jiddi girl what I want I demand and I get it type BUT still my question remains MY PARENT HAS NOT DISCRIMINATED BUT WHY AT THE TIME OF BIRTH SHE WANTED FIRST CHILD AS A BOY WHY MY FATHER WANTED ONLY ONE CHILD IF IT IS GIRL BUT IF THERE WAS BOY HE WOULD HAVE HAPPILY AGREED FOR SECOND CHILD BE IT GIRL OR BOY IF THE SECOND CHILD WAS GIRL HE WOULD HAVE BEEN SUPERHAPPY AND IF BOY THEN ALSO NO PROBLEM TYPE BUT IF AFTER ME IF A GIRL HAS BORN THEN ALSO HE WOULD HAVE WELCOMED HER AND AFTER THAT NO CHILD BUT SOMEWHAT HE WOULD HAVE GOT ANGRY ON MY MOTHER WHY THERE CAN BE TWO SONS BUT HE CANT AFFORD TO HAVE TWO DAUGHTER

ANSWER IN MY VIEW BECAUSE DUE TO SOCIETY MY FATHER THOUGHTS R LIKE THAT BECAUSE TO GIVE TWO DAUGHTER A WELL TO DO LIFE HE HAS TO HAVE WITH HIS ALOT MONEY FOR DOWRY he had planned from before for the money as we r not that much rich that time that time my father earned not much to give nice upbringing to two children BECAUSE HOW MUCH U READ IF YOU WANT A NICE FAMILY TO BE MARRIED YOU HAVE TO GIVE DAUGHTER WELL AND MY MOTHER SHE REPRESENTED COMMON MOTHER HER REASON WAS SIMPLE THAT SHE WANT A SON REASON SHE EVEN DONT KNOW BUT MAINLY DOWRY

Although I can assure u one thing that I have never faced any kind of dicpscrimination but I have viewed alot around me because I am from a common family background and that's why I am always feel proud of myself that I have got such parents and not been assigned fate like my cousin or neighborhood friends

Originally posted by: sashashyam

Riyya dear,

Which world do you live in, sweetheart? There is discrimination against women the world over, and not just in India or the Arab world or in China and Japan. Yes, and rampant sexism as well. Just listen to the latest tapes of Trump talking about women. How degrading it is, is it not? How will such a man treat women who are in his power?

Do you know how difficult it was for western women to even get the vote, which women in India got as a matter of right in 1950, when we adopted our Constitution? Winston Churchill was dead against the vote for women. They used to chain themselves to the railings at 10, Downing Street, in London, the residence of the Prime Minister, at the height of the suffragette movement in the 1920s and 30s, and they were all hauled off to prison. It was only after British women proved their worth during World War II, at home while the men were away fighting, and in the war effort, that they got the vote.

Shyamala Aunty

Originally posted by: pakhiv.

Hi,
Interesting post .well im my opinion yes you are right...indeed monogamy evolved as a result of continous cultural evolution from sexual promiscuity to polygyny or polyandry.
I agree.
But here we are watching a daily soap.. in particular cant fancy an idea of one man and many women trying to crave for his attention.
It was a fact of polygamy as women in harem used to conspire to get the attention of king or resort to various antics ...but it can be digested in a documentary.
But here im trying to watch a soap based upon a said love story.
If i sign in for a love story then only the multiple romance thing becomes erratic.
We are told it is love story of chandra nandini...and then it becomes very tough to watch polygamy and a love story combined.
Had this been the story of chandragupta alone i would have watched all his wives as they were not the main highlight.
As regards making some women look bad and villainous yes it may be wrong but how will the story progress if all is well ..
The only logical thing is to keep history away from this.
Yes a man can love many women but if it is a love story...it has to be a one man and one woman affair.
I think this is the signature line of show.

But i would prefer if dhuradhara and helena were not part of serial at all

Answer is simple.. Love happens only once in life. And the one who gets that are considered very lucky.

Originally posted by: sashashyam

Riyya dear,

Which world do you live in, sweetheart? There is discrimination against women the world over, and not just in India or the Arab world or in China and Japan. Yes, and rampant sexism as well. Just listen to the latest tapes of Trump talking about women. How degrading it is, is it not? How will such a man treat women who are in his power?

Do you know how difficult it was for western women to even get the vote, which women in India got as a matter of right in 1950, when we adopted our Constitution? Winston Churchill was dead against the vote for women. They used to chain themselves to the railings at 10, Downing Street, in London, the residence of the Prime Minister, at the height of the suffragette movement in the 1920s and 30s, and they were all hauled off to prison. It was only after British women proved their worth during World War II, at home while the men were away fighting, and in the war effort, that they got the vote.

Shyamala Aunty

Shyamala Aunty

so sad to read and hear abt All this... All this exist even today ... omg

I would say this is thanks to women rulers like razia sultan, rani lakshmi bai, chand bibi and nur jahan etc they had proved that they are no less than any man in ruling or freedom fighters like vijaylakshmi pandit etc who went out anf caed police lathi and jail with same braveness as men freedom fighters

Originally posted by: gaushiv13

Originally posted by: shilpishona

for me A person can love only one at a tym,, if his luv change one after another Dan its not luv,, its may be attraction,, or only for physical need,, Luv is something which is belongs to a different strata and above of evrything.(if its true). An Emperor can have thousands wives, and I'm sure he must complete his duty as husband towards them. BT if he has any luv, it can be only for one at a tym. There is a differences BTW luv and duty,, The Emperor u named have more Dan 10 wives,, and am pretty sure dey do der duty as husband properly,, BT Pratap-Ajabdhe, Jodha-akbar, jahangir-noor relationship were more Dan a duty of husband-wife. That's y they named as luv birds in History.