Why cannot a man love more than one wife?

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myviewprem

@myviewprem

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Posted: 8 years ago

#11

Originally posted by: .FemmeFatale.

They had no option, they dare not fight or show their jealously in front of husband because the husband could punish them (physical beating too or abandonment, its not 21st century where you cannot punish even school kids)

I was reading on mughal harem last year and it said that a husband(prince or emperor) had no idea if his wife or cocubbine died and he attend only favourite wives funeral or celebrate their birthdays only. Others were just ignored or greatful that they were his wives(for outside world). Fav wives too if they died in another location husband missed out the funeral as it took days to travel. Its not 21st century you leave all work take holiday and run to be at family side in ill health or tragedy or birthday etc. What if you are in war or travelling far off? Indeed news of death came after weeks or months too.

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myviewprem

@myviewprem

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Posted: 8 years ago

#12

Originally posted by: .FemmeFatale.
That's very unfortunate that children are still are subjected to child labour. be it at their own homes.

Its very common in villages and small towns

Even in city in poor class like maids, labourers daughters take care of siblings and are not sent to school

only boys will be sent that too very few otherwise they also do labour

have you not visited garages young boys work there 8 years to 14 years and hotels young boys work there

and girls after 10-12 are expected to do all house hold work apart from studying even today in poor/middle class families(city included). Only very rich family girls who can afford full time maids are exempt from house hold work in india. Boys can take it free and need not do any house hold work atleast till they complete studies.

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swriter

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Posted: 8 years ago

#13

Yes in history many kings had many wives and they can love their wives equally.

I don't know about how many wives had Chandra Gupta Maurya
But I know one thing that he had two wives.
First one was durdhara and second one was Helena.
Nandani is friction character.
Simple if someone wants to believe or not . it is their problem.
But it is true , Chandra had only one love story . it was durdhara and him.
But many minds and many thoughts.
Every document which is related Chandra Gupta Maurya only tell story of durdhara and Chandra
And some Greek and Indian documents also talk about Helena.
So it is real fact.

So now enjoy ekta's fiction historical love story.

😊

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sashashyam

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Posted: 8 years ago

#14

My dear child, why talk only of soutens? What about the saas, nanads, devranis, jethanis, most of whom they would have disliked? How many wives do you think love their husbands in the romantic sense even today? And vice versa? I feel that all this love business is an imported concept which is nonsense for the most part in this context .

What would have mattered for any wife among many would have been her position in the household, her status, the respect she got from others, and what the prospects of her children were. Not the love - whatever that might mean with a drunkard, or a wife beater, or a dullard, or a mama's boy, or a wastrel - of the husband. Polygamy would have been a source of friction for these reasons far more than because of the need to share the "affections" of the husband.

And once more, the sex ratio, which is almost 50:50, with only a slight excess of women, would automatically have ruled out widespread polygamy. There just would not have been enough women to make that possible.

Shyamala Aunty

Originally posted by: .FemmeFatale.

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sashashyam

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Posted: 8 years ago

#15

Prem,

I came from a solidly middle class family and I never did ANY housework of any kind. I only went to school and college and studied. My mother never asked me to help her in anything to do with the house. It was the same with my girl cousins too. So one cannot generalise about this,

This said, there is nothing wrong in a young person learning housework. I think both boys and girls should be taught to cook and sew and iron clothes.

Plus, I was referring to more wives being a source of household help in a polygamous set up. Not to kids, though what you have said is true in the rural areas.

These days, the keenness to have their kids study and improve their lives is a very strong and growing factor, even in city slums. And the number of children in even poor families is decreasing; the average is now 4 to 5.

The times, they are a changing, as the poet would say.

Shyamala Aunty

Originally posted by: myviewprem

Its very common in villages and small towns

Even in city in poor class like maids, labourers daughters take care of siblings and are not sent to school

only boys will be sent that too very few otherwise they also do labour

have you not visited garages young boys work there 8 years to 14 years and hotels young boys work there

and girls after 10-12 are expected to do all house hold work apart from studying even today in poor/middle class families(city included). Only very rich family girls who can afford full time maids are exempt from house hold work in india. Boys can take it free and need not do any house hold work atleast till they complete studies.

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amina1

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Posted: 8 years ago

#16

Where i live these people have common law union and majority of them do not get married or marry really late yes they have children and diffirent women and men,i could never understand ,its thier culture ,so pologamy is still practiced today and i believe love is respect ,faith believe in each other and i for cannot understand falling in love and i have seen people do all kind of non sense while in 'love'

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Paytonlee

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Posted: 8 years ago

#17

An emperor can love his other wives too but not in ekta world or tv world. I remember how enraged JA fans were when jalal got kids from his other wives too when he promised he wont go to others 😆. Its his responsibility to take care of his other wives needs too but I dont think I can digest to see the male lead's love story with his other wives.

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sashashyam

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Posted: 8 years ago

#18

The part in blue is spot on, Prem. It is sad, but this discrimination is also linked to the concept of girls as paraya dhan, who will go away to someone else's family after marriage, whereas the boy is supposed to be a lifelong support for his parents. It is another matter that he might be no such thing!

Shyamala Aunty

Originally posted by: myviewprem

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riyya6

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Posted: 8 years ago

#19

Originally posted by: sashashyam
The part in blue is spot on, Prem. It is sad, but this discrimination is also linked to the concept of girls as paraya dhan, who will go away to someone else's family after marriage, whereas the boy is supposed to be a lifelong support for his parents. It is another matter that he might be no such thing!

Shyamala Aunty

so sad to read and hear abt All this... All this exist even today ... omg

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Cattywrites

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Posted: 8 years ago

#20

Originally posted by: myviewprem
Why marry so many when you cannot treat all of them equal or give them all rights and love?

I am seriously not liking this turning of other wives as vamps or saints just to show one love story of an emperor.

Instead just show the one wife love story and do not introduce other wives and degrade them or their image in eyes of viewers.

I agree!!

In my opinion, an emperor can't love his 100 wives at one time but that doesn't mean that he should ignore his other wives and frankly I don't think any emperor did this as they used to go to other wives for their own pleasures. So where is love??😔

As a husband, it's his duty to take care of his wife and his every wife has a right on him whether it's for seeking affection, love or physical intimacy.

but I think only one person comes in our life with which we feel that connection. I cannot say that a person can fall in love many times because Love IS NOT temporary. If it changes, then it's not real.

A person can have a relation with many but every relationship is different. He cannot have that same relationship with all his wives.

Having said that, your title says, "Why cannot a man love more than one wife?"

The question which instantly came in my mind after reading this was, "Why cannot a wife/woman love more than one man?"

I don't think any man would accept his wife then. I really really don't understand this thing.

How would an emperor feel if his wife goes to other men for pleasure? But then she's "Characterless". 😳

Huh.. still,nothing much has changed👎🏼👎🏼👎🏼

Thankyou for the pm!!