Some parents choose to be stay at home moms/dads to take care of their children. Other parents choose to balance family and career.
Some parents work in shifts to care for children. Some parents rely on family and neighbors. Some parents drop their kids off at daycare. Some parent hire live-in help.
Some parents send their kids to public school. Some parents send their kids to private school. Some even send their kids to boarding school.
Some parents are helicopter parents hovering over their children all the time. Other parents give their kids a lot more space.
Some parents run a connected household giving young kids access to electronics, game consoles, and cell-phones. Some parents run a disconnected household where access to these things is very limited.
Some parents see their kids every day. Parents like diplomats, military personnel, truck drivers, shipping line employees etc may not see their parents for months.
Some parents spend a lot on their kids, they pay for college, maybe even buy their first car/house etc. Some parents either cannot afford to spend so much on their kids or want to instill self-reliance.
Most parents love their children unconditionally. Most parents feel a deep sense of duty towards their children. They do their best to do what is right. There is no one size fits all strategy. Each parent displays their love and duty in their own way. Yes, there are a few bad negligent parents but every parent who drops their kid off to daycare, sends them to boarding school, or doesn't see them for a whole year is not a horrible person.
Similarly, when it comes to caring for parents, having parents live with you is not the only solution. There are also many silly arbitrary rules that are socially ingrained in Indian society. Sons are responsible for their parents since daughters are given away. The oldest child should step up and take responsibility. There is no one size fits all strategy. Each family is different. Their economic conditions and lifestyles are different. Where they live is different. Sometimes parents stay with one of the kids. Sometimes they rotate between kids. Sometimes parents are able to live independently on their own for a long time. Sometimes parents plan to go into retirement communities. And sometimes kids do put parents in an old age home.
Most children love their parents unconditionally. Most children do feel a deep sense of duty towards their parents. Most children do try their best to do whats right. While there are a few bad negligent kids, society needs to stop judging and assuming that every kid who put their parent in an old age home is an ungrateful brute who has shunned all responsibilities.
Maybe walk in their shoes first. What is their life situation? What was their thought process before making that decision? Only after understanding someone's situation and thought process can you be in a place to judge if their act was selfish or the best possible choice they could make.
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