are actresses who commit suicide making it acceptable?|VB Note p.14 - Page 12

Originally posted by: .GulabiAnkhey.

Depression eats you up. You dont even realize how your behavior show up to people. My teachers complained to my family members that all i did in my class was sit and think of nothing in particular .. extremely blank. I have been targeted by a boy whom i rejected. He eventually asked his several 'female friends' to morph up my pictures and had them sent to my family members stating that i spent night with him and he was the one who captured these pic (which obviously were morphed so damn realistically) . My friends suddenly wanted to ditch me up because my case was now such an awesome scandal in my college. My family and friends taunted me throughout and my grades fell from A to D .. My oh so sweet relatives had loveliest stories and gossips to tell their friends now. I lost alot of weight and looked like a walking zombie with absolutely no glow on my face. I was blamed for each and everythif anf that led me to depression. I have tried commiting suicide so many times but each and every time i tried suicide ..something stopped.. i wanted to.prove each and every one wrong but depression doesnt let you... the pain and tje feeling of lonliness is too much to bear with .. It wont let you share your feelings with someone because the only thought you have is that you are lonely..no one cares about you. Suicide is definitly the only option left for some people in this case... Some people do come out of this and some dont. Judging a depression patient is absolutely heartless. Fortunetly ...there were some close friends who helped me out... and i am out of it. Depression cases should be given awarness .. its funny when i still share it with some people .. they all just reply " Stop it! I am sure you are lying.. it wont be too strong.. stop.thinkinf about it...you"re fine now.. ' some people do take depression seriously. With help of some close friends whom i was able to share that i was suffering from depression ..i am.out of it and recently i recieved Gold medal for topping in my batch. Please dont judge people with depression. They have no idea what they are doing...

Originally posted by: Faberica

@.GulabiAnkhey. @-cuteee.tigress @colossial2015

It was truly courageous of you all to share your story. I salute your bravery.👏

OT:

I had a cousin sister. She was very graceful, had thick, luscious, long hair, perfect features, beautiful smile and a heart so kind and warm. But nobody could see this beyond her dark skin. Whole life she was taunted for her dark skin. Every time I visited my uncle's house I could see distress on her parent's face. They always worried about her marriage and the dowry required to get her married. But I guess she learned to live with this. Then she fell in love with a fair, handsome guy and both eloped. My mama-mami and her in laws later accepted them and was happy about it.

But then the relatives and neighbors of the guy started disdaining for her dark skin, filling all the negativity into her in laws mind. His friends mocked her. They were jealous how could she, a dark skinned girl can get such a fair and good looking guy. Her in-laws started treating her badly, they started asking for dowry. My cousin went into depression and couldn't take it, she took sleeping pills but was saved at the right time. Seeing her condition my uncle with the help of my mother gave them the dowry they asked for. But still they couldn't accept their dark daughter in law. She left their house and started to live with her parents. But here too she didn't gain any sympathy. Instead of giving support and comfort my relatives would scoff and taunt her.

Then one day her husband came to meet her, don't know what they talked about but after he left she took her life by setting herself on fire. She was taken to hospital and after battling for 12 hours she took her last breath. While taking to hospital she was begging my mama to let her die, she didn't have the will to live anymore. Her internal pain was more than her outside pain.

@TM: Do you know how much it pains when your skin is on fire? Do you think any weak person will go through this?

It still hurts me when I think about her and how I couldn't do anything. I was young at that time and miles away from her. When you see someone going through depression instead of judging please help them, empathize with them, give them all the support they require. People still are not aware what depression is and that it is curable. Government should come forward, acknowledge and take some steps. They should start awareness campaign like they did for polio, open mental health centers and give free counselling.

Originally posted by: DynaCory

Your story is truly heart touching and inspirational. The way you fought back and the courage you have shown here is so admirable. This world needs gutsy people like you who can face the unknown the fear. I hope and pray and wish you dont get into that depression again ever in your life. Respect and Love for you. Hats off. Your parents must be proud of their tough girl. Keep this up.

I wanted to ask some question- did psychiatrist prescribe some drugs? did your friends and family help and support you in the dark times? are you fully recovered now?

You dont have to answer these. Its up to you.

You are strongest. Wish you the best in life Girl.

Originally posted by: colossial2015

I am really sorry for your cousin. I hope she rests in peace

In her case the Indian obsession with fairness was the main culprit of her death. I seriously do not understand how one cannot see beyond the melanin content of the skin. She must have led a sad life were every saw her skin color not a soul. Has any punishment had been given to her in-laws and the so called relatives and friends? I hope she really got help in time so a precious soul could be saved.

This obsession with skin color harms everyone in long. I am giving another example from my life. One of my senior had glowing dark skin without any discoloration or pigmentation. But she hated her skin tone. She always wore tones on makeup to work. She always hated me and other girls in the office. At first I thought our performance was not up-to the mark with the men in the team. She always favored men over women. This was really weird considering she spoke of female empowerment. So called men stood by us all the time. Later I understood that she hated everyone with a fair or fair to wheatish skin tone as she was always insulted by her family for having darker skin color. One of the worst thing about hospitality and aviation is a general fact that here appearance matters more than performance. If you look good clients to seniors literally favor and help you. This attitude creates superiority complex in one group and inferiority complex in another.

Originally posted by: colossial2015

I never needed drugs. I just needed a push in direction which came to me in few councelling sessions. For me death was not an option possible. I had live this life and show people yes I can survive and win. When I decide something no one can stop me including me. Salman's dialogue in wanted perfectly suits me. I am weird in this way.