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Posted: 12 years ago
I am not just talking of her bias towards Singhs sector . Even with the Shekhars , She bows down to every rubbish of Ira and Saanchi to maintain Shiv's parivaar khushi . There she emotionally blackmails Jagya to give the Singhs khushi . But she tells the women like Chanda , take a stand even if it is against ur family member and creates rifts in a parivaar held together for years together . An observer with a petty mindset would say she goes to any lengths NOT to break up her own famiies but advises others to go to lengths to break theirs . If she is of the thinking that abuse is only physical and one must tolerate crap from family members if it is not exactly physical i don't agree . She has not only tolerated the utter crappy behaviour of Saanchi but even enabled her . One cannot have double standards in principles sector . Whatever be the circumstances , wrong is wrong .
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Posted: 12 years ago
It is just not Anandi's double standards, it just that Anandi is made out to be some wizzard, where she
is just a human being broght up under oppressive culture who accepts it. Anandi is emotional most of
The time without much rationality. When some one is rational aNd not giving in to the unreasonable
Tantrums of elders it is termed selfish. Why should'nt people be selfish with in reason? Are'nt older
People being extremely selfish for their happiness forcing children to do what they want them to do for
Their happiness? Each person has a duty to him self or herself first. If Anandi was stupid,
Why Jagia is not recognizing that? This is where I wish the Cvs make him more rational and have
The guts to make his own decision and understand himself better. He should realize that he has
Been forgiven and free from past guilt. Every decision he makes should not involve his past. He
Should recignize it when sone one like Ds and Sumi are using it to make him comply.
He does not owe any explanation for visiting any one. If the future partner is not ok with this
End the alliance.
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Posted: 12 years ago
@Esha don't you think Anandi could put up her rishta gracefully only because of her partner was too good ?otherwise what she did ? Had Shiv been someone like Sanchi would she be able to do anything ?The thing is Sanchi's true face Jagaya does not know She made promises to him even more than Shiv made to Anandi but in her heart she is black ,slowly her true face is coming to him ,the more and more it is coming he is having thoughts to re consider his decision Did he make a mistake ?Shiv was not a two timer but clear person while Sanchi is cheating Jagaya

Jagaya said it many many times to everyone i don't want to marry but no body is willing to listen even when his alliance was fixed with Sanchi he came to share his heart with Dadisaa How he feels and he was considerate to Sanchi ( the members who are saying he never thinks about Sanchi perhaps have missed this episode ) He said to her will i be able to give Sanchi happiness and all that, I have a fear i might not be because i am not ready to marry Dadisaa said to him don't worry everything will be good He is trying his best to adjust with her how much he can do ? Understand him he is totally burnt and wounded from inside how much he can push himself he is doing but what she is doing ? its in my view entirely her fault Her two timing to everyone including Jagaya is causing problems now for everyone even in future it will be
Edited by sidra08 - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

If she is of the thinking that abuse is only physical and one must tolerate crap from family members if it is not exactly physical i don't agree .

ooh! good point 👏. I never really thought about what she defines as 'abuse'. You are right.
She only defines abuse as physical abuse and sexual abuse.
The other types - emotional, verbal, etc. don't seem to register as abuse. Even coldness and anger shooting eyes don't register with anandi. 😆
With her behaviour with saanchi though, I had no particular view on it till the day of the teej fast. (i.e. enabling or not - didn't bother)
Then it irritated me that she went to wake saanchi up. I feel that this was saanchi's own decision to keep the fast so she should have set her alarm clock. A simple knock on the door would have been enough to wake saanchi if she did not get up. But no, saanchi refused to get up, and anandi climbed into bed with her, and started doing all the kootchy-koo business trying to coddle her into getting up, and then having lots of nok-jhok with shiv about saanchi not getting up ... and all of that was just like 🤢🤢.
If that had to be done at all , I feel it was ira's place to do it. But if Ira didn't do it, then it certainly wasn;t anandi's place to do it. 🤢
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Posted: 12 years ago
Jagya should get over his Anandi hangover , therein lies his true improvement . I loved it when he firmly went against Anandi and told her he is NOT taking Ganga back to the house . This time he should take the same stand if she comes to blackmail him emotionally and give lectures on duty to Saanchi and 'zimmedari' . In plain words he should tell her to butt out . If he falls in love with Ganga it should be without Anandi's encouragement . If he breaks off with Saanchi it should be by himself . Jagya's character will develop only if he takes decisions without the suppression of Anandi's iconic personality . Anandi has now become the key factor to the unhappiness of his remainder life .

he wanted some solitude , she forced him to not have any but come back saying he OWED it to the family

he wanted to remain unmarried and dedicate his life to minimizing the suffering of the needy but she coreced him to stand unwillingly in the marraige market saying he OWED it to the family

she kept quite when a thoroughly unsuitable proposal went to him from her family

after that she has been thick skinned and happy with the families , not really noticing he is aloof from all this so called happiness .

After the one time burst out about 'how could u do this to Ganga' she is extremely pally with Sumitra . She took no chance but hurriedly apologised the next day .

so , what credibility does she , who is afraid to take a stand in ANY family , be it the Shekhars or the Singhs have ? She does NOTHING in any family issue but sits on the fence .

Saanchi insulted Ganga so rudely in front of her ...she threw the water down ! She was not in her own house , she was in bhabi's maika ! Just see her guts ! And Anandi just stood there silently and hurriedly went to Ganga's room to explain Saanchi was a child ! Children behave like this ? Really ? So afraid is she of taking any stand against that bratty horrible nanand that she rushes to tell others to tolerate her !

Sumitra insulted Ganga in front of her in the god bharaai , where did she speak up ?

Oh no , she maintains her own relations and families damn well .

She should completely stay out of the Jagya Ganga matter coz whatever he is , Jagya is unafraid to take a stand . It may be right , it may be wrong , it may go down well with some and badly with some but thats HIS stand . Unafraid of family pressure he has taken this stand and i applaud him and request CVs to make Anandi busy with her NGO and Pregnancy and give her own track and let Jagya for once manage the Singhs and his spoilt fiancee . Saanchi and Ira need strong headed Jagya not diplomatic Anandi .


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Posted: 12 years ago
Well I have ALWAYS disliked anandi's character right from the time she went to advocate for bapusa to give him and gauri money to complete their medical education, and how she sent him cheques monthly. So you wont hear any praise for anandi from me. 😆. after that it deteriorated into steady dislike until today as well.
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Very well said kools!👏
Jagia has to get over his Anandi hangups. Just like us, i wish he also understood that Anandi does
What ever suits her happiness. Nothing wrong in it. But jagia, should not let her dictate, take her
Advise with a pinch of salt. This is a real life lesson. I have seen relatives giving lectures about
Family values and how one should be unselfish and honour the wishes of others in thevfamily, and
Criticise any action of others involving their convenience, but
When it comes to them they are so self centered , do exactly what suits them and even controll
others for their own whims.

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Posted: 12 years ago
Yay!! Ira has turned against anandi in the precap.
Serves anandi right!! 😆
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Posted: 12 years ago
Jagya was the one who ran to her in the middle of the night to tell that he is going to meet Gauri.Why did he run to her in the middle of the night?Why does he keep involving her in his affairs?

Why did he have to tell her that he still loves her and make her feel burdened by him?If he still cared enough about her he would have cared for her happiness and kept quite about him and his feelings for her.But he decided to tell her that he still loves her and put and additional burden n her and thanks to his confession she now feels guilty for being happy with her life.

Why did Jagya let himself be blackmailed by Anandi into agreeing to get married in the first place?Why did he give into Anandi?
He could have very well told her to get out when he tried to emotionally blackmail him.
Why did he not do so?

Why did he ask her to chose a bride for him?Why do people forget that he agreed to marry only if the bride was her choice?


When the marriage proposal came from the Shekhars his first instinct was to say no why did he not say no or at least ask for time before deciding?Why did he not take time to decide and then talk to Anandi?

Why blame Anandi for Jagya's hang up about past?
When Anandi was blamed for her Jagya hang up in the past why now blame Anandi for Jagya's hang up?

Why should Anandi be blamed for her hang up about Jagya and Jagya's hangup about Anandi?

Why should Anandi be blamed for Jagya's indecisiveness?Why can't Jagya open his mouth and say that he agreed to marriage with Sanchi for the sake of Anandi in the first place?



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