Anandi .. what? reason behind Failure of Whom??

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Suchi-

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Posted: 12 years ago

#51

A dominated Jagya?

Yes .. that would have been nice. she would have saved herself a very very bitter betrayal period. ..

But thats history :) now she is happy so its all good.

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Picasso9

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Posted: 12 years ago

#52

Ermm. I'm not passing the blame of what Jagya did to Anandi as Balvivah. I was merely quoting Anandi's dialogues. She even refused to file a case on Jagya.

I have NOT condoned Jagyas behavior with Anandi during the Gauri phase.

Whatever methods of cheating he indulged in was not acceptable to me. But even Anandi, when she gave the press conference, spoke of how Bal vivah ruined her life.

No one is trying to cover up Jgya's past transgressions but to be fair, it can't be held against him in the present especially in the context where he is trying to appease family at the expense of his personal happiness.

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geet005

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Posted: 12 years ago

#53

Suchi well said

its the story of J and A

and now will be waiting to see how they will fold the story b/w J and A

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Picasso9

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Posted: 12 years ago

#54

Of course, in a way she dominated Jagya. Hence his newfound freedom in Mumbai led to him going astray. She dominated decisions in his house. Even now her opinion is sought before Sugna's and Jagya's. heck even Gehna has become a ghai in front of Anandi. Their opinion don't count if Anandi is present. If that is not called dominating than what is.

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Picasso9

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Posted: 12 years ago

#55

Of course Anandi has one rule for outsiders and a different one for family. It was easy for her to lecture Asha into remarriage but when it came to herself she dragged her feet because she was old school about it. That's how I choose to see it.

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MaxMayfield

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Posted: 12 years ago

#56

Ohok, I thought u meant that Masala thing was a way of J letting A know that she is not the right life partner and bal vivah is the reason for it or something😕 neway cool...

Honestly J himself is not aware of where his personal happiness lies..he is totally confused, otherwise there was no harm in telling S yesterday that he wouldnt want to spoil Sa and his life by entering into this liaison😕

He has not sorted out his feelings for Ganga yet...and that is the need of the hour..I dont blame him for not wanting to get married to anyone...he is mayb not in that space and its fair enough, coz he blames himself for what happened to Gauri and Anandi...and Sa is the worst person to enter his life right now...but neither is he or his family or A or S gona be at peace with this rishta and the biggest fault in Saja happening at all in Singhs and Sa...and J should have just said a NO...why is Sumi EBing him to marry Sa is beyond my understanding...Shekhars are not some bunch of evil people who will make A's life hell if Saja wouldnt happen...hell Shekhars themselves were not good with the rishta in the first place

Nyway hoepfully Saja will come to an end soon and Ansh and Jagan can live peacefully after that

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Suchi-

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Posted: 12 years ago

#57

Originally posted by: Picasso9
Of course, in a way she dominated Jagya. Hence his newfound freedom in Mumbai led to him going astray. She dominated decisions in his house. Even now her opinion is sought before Sugna's and Jagya's. heck even Gehna has become a ghai in front of Anandi. Their opinion don't count if Anandi is present. If that is not called dominating than what is.

Its called getting importance.

Dominating is when a person says their opinion is what counts. And nothing is above that.

This is what DS used to be before. What ever she said went. What ever she said was the LAW of the house.

Anandi gets importance in their household and she did not get this free. She sacrificed a LOT for them and she did it without wanting anything back.

If Anandi's opinion and decisions are sought after .. then thats not called dominating.

She never says, what ever I say goes. She never puts her opinion down as the final law. She never disrespects She always thinks of whats best for everyone before she can even think about herself.

IF They do not think Sugna and Jagya are -for the lack of the word' worthy to get opinions then thats their own decision. IN fact Gehna was always a hot headed person. Thats the essence of her nature. Thats why DS said ( i am not sure when you started watching the show) in the 2010 episode to Sumitra that she is the strong pillar of the house. As she can after DS make sure that the entire family stays together.

And at that time Anandi helped sumitra (she was a child then) to sort out problems that were going on between Gehna and Basant.

Anandi has seen the high and low tides of the family and she has remained strong. So naturally DS trusts her more than she trusts Sugna and jagya. Anandi has proved her self time and again to be the one who can not only handle the family but also an entire village. So She is not dominating the entire village now is she?

She was their elected official.. and that was cause they trusted her opinions and judgement not because she can rule over them.

and same goes to the current NGO-team of hers.

its just her nature .. she fights for the rights of the weak and takes proper decisions at the proper time, thus gaining the trust of everyone around her.

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Suchi-

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Posted: 12 years ago

#58

Originally posted by: Picasso9
Of course Anandi has one rule for outsiders and a different one for family. It was easy for her to lecture Asha into remarriage but when it came to herself she dragged her feet because she was old school about it. That's how I choose to see it.

Asha was a widow

Anandi was a divorcee..

Asha became Widow when she was young.

Anandi just had divorced before that engagement

Asha never spent 17 years of her life with her dead husband

Anandi spent 17 years of her life with her ex before breaking off the marriage

Anandi does not force every widow to get married.

Rather she did not even want Phooli get married again. Who was a child widow too. She infact was against that nath pratha.

She decides about a person based on whats going on with them at that time.

AFter fighting to get her child back , Anandi did not ask Phooli to get married so she can get a father for that child, rather she made sure phooli got work and is getting paid so that phooli can take care of herself and her child.

Anandi makes judgement based on the situation of the person. she does not have one rule for family and one rule for outsider. She has one rule for everyone.

That ws clearly shown during the basant gehna trial that went to panchayat. She has always made fair decisions to the best of her ability and still continues to do so.

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Picasso9

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Posted: 12 years ago

#59

We can split hairs between her being dominating or others giving her preference but it boils down to the same thing. She would not be given preference in the first place if she did not have a dominating personality.

And dominating too can be a positive or a negative aspect depending on how it uplifts or suppresses someone.

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Picasso9

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Posted: 12 years ago

#60

Originally posted by: Suchi-Virmanian

Asha was a widow
Anandi was a divorcee..

Asha became Widow when she was young.
Anandi just had divorced before that engagement

Asha never spent 17 years of her life with her dead husband
Anandi spent 17 years of her life with her ex before breaking off the marriage

Anandi does not force every widow to get married.
Rather she did not even want Phooli get married again. Who was a child widow too. She infact was against that nath pratha.
She decides about a person based on whats going on with them at that time.
AFter fighting to get her child back , Anandi did not ask Phooli to get married so she can get a father for that child, rather she made sure phooli got work and is getting paid so that phooli can take care of herself and her child.

Anandi makes judgement based on the situation of the person. she does not have one rule for family and one rule for outsider. She has one rule for everyone.
That ws clearly shown during the basant gehna trial that went to panchayat. She has always made fair decisions to the best of her ability and still continues to do so.

Well then that still holds my argument up that she did not want to remarry because she was old school not because she had no self esteem. She did not want to remarry because she still had feeli gs for Jagya and as it was a relationship since childhood, it was hard for her as a woman to forget her first love and just move on like that. If she had no self esteem she would not have sought success as sarpanch etc. please read the ensuing discussion in context.

For the record, I have been watching this series since the beginning if it will help give credibility to my arguments 😃