Originally posted by: hima_123
I think Jagya has the right to be angry. Heroism and benevolence has been an expected norm from Jagya...when he wanted to make a career of his own, for his own dreams---everyone vented out their disappointment on him...because he wasn't thinking about the parivaar and the village. A seventeen/eighteen year old boy should have desired to be a "Doctor" for the sake of whole village and not think about his own, personal dreams. Since when has serving personal interests become acceptable in the Holy land of "Balika Vadhu". Only community interests can stand above the joint family paarivaarik interests--while personal goals, feelings, and aspirations are trivial and worthless---only villains are allowed to have and follow goals that serve their own interests!
Hima,
I agree with the broad thrust of your post. However, this portion above I feel is a little harsh on balika vadhu.
It's not that a 17/18 year old Jagya was "forced" into being a "doctor" for "community interests" thereby stampeding all over his personal aspirations to become a journalist or an engineer or a lawyer.
Dadisa and Bhairon never wanted Jagya to be a doctor or to go to the city. This was Jagya's own little dream. They wanted him to be a 'sahukar' and take over their line of agricultural work as well as money-lending practices as the next generation of dadisa's money lending business. But Jagya was insistent on being a doctor, and he begged anandi to convince the family on his own behalf.
At the time, 17-18 year old Jagya HIMSELF used reasons of "community interests"; "No doctor in Jayetsar"; "No health care in Jayetsar"; "Varun's twisted foot" etc. etc. as all sorts of reasons to convince Bhairon and dadisa to let him pursue a career in medicine ... and anandi seconded all these reasons. Finally B and D agreed to allow him to go to the city to study medicine.
At the time, there was an implicit or tacit agreement between B and D and J, that Jagya would come back ... particularly all the discussion about Varun's foot and there being no health care in Jayetsar... and J's own lofty declarations about how he would change the face of rural health care.
So, let us be clear that J himself used reasons of "community" and not his personal interests as his flagpole to hoist his own interests.
Now after going to Bombay he started becoming "city bred" ... and on his own changed his agenda of wanting to go back to Jayetsar for "community reasons" because he felt rural stuff is beneath him now. HOWEVER, HE DISHONESTLY NEGLECTED TO CONVEY THIS TO BHAIRON AND DADISA.
I feel that if two parties (in this case J and his family) agree to something in a particular context, no matter how tacit and implicit it is, and no matter that it has not been explicitly codified into a legal contract 😆, then the moment one party decides that the agreement is no longer working for him, he has an obligation to make sure that the other party is aware of the change of mind/status.
There was considerable dishonesty in the way that J continued to let his family be under the impression that he was coming back to Jayetsar to serve "community interests".
Naturally, nobody could have predicted that the singh family would in a matter of one week prior to his graduation suddenly erect a hospital in Jayetsar. Least of all J himself. However, I still feel that if he had let his family know his now newly found suburban interests, his family would not have really gone through the trouble of constructing the hospital... or if they did, would have gone and found doctors who were generally interested in practicing rural health care.
Given that the singhs were under the impression that he would come back to Jayetsar, naturally they were shocked and were THEN AT THAT POINT questioning his allegiance to community, but that was because of the carefully guarded sheath of lies that Jagya himself had put up.
Then, because he wanted to be close to Gauri, he decided to go back for a masters degree in surgery back to Mumbai. Even at that time, he was dishonest with both B and D. He never told them about Gauri and he never revealed that he was interested in staying in Bombay permanently.
He constructed a cock and bull story about how Jayetsar would benefit, if he had further higher qualifications of M.S. and not just MBBS. B and D though disappointed, readily agreed to let him go back to Bombay to study further.
But the key to remember is that even at this point, Jagya himself played the "community interests" trump card to serve his own personal agenda, and lied about having a keen interest in Jayetsar's development when his real interest was Gauri.
The singh family naturally took their personal cue from him and thereby started talking about "village interests" themselves and "serving the greater good".
If Jagya had been honest with B and D and just let them know that he really just wanted to be a doctor in private practice in Bombay, I think they would eventually have agreed to it and let him be happy. But for doing so, they would have had to atleast KNOW first that Jagya's interests did not lie in village development, and J let them continue under the deception or the delusion that he would indeed be coming back.
So let us not blame Bhairon and Dadisa for trying to force Jagya to be a doctor to serve community interests. Nothing could be further from the truth.
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