kindness or stupidity ? - Page 2

Originally posted by: hooked

Well, I do agree that Dadisa may say dress doesn't matter and that maybe Anandi is just stressing - Saanchi WILL adjust. She has shown herself open to learning the ways of this house. And Anandi may not be able to convince that it was all a show.

In that case, she should then talk to Jagya. She has seen J's discomfort in being made to cut the pink cake, wear the pinbk coat and open presents , do stuff , exactly as per Saanchi's whims. Maybe J will rethink this whole thing.

By doing this - the most important thing she will do is - let them know that accepting or rejecting Saanchi will have no repercussions on her own position here in KB. 😉 In any case - after last night - Anandi has very openly declared her hand and will get all the brickbats that BH was trying to protect her from.

Another thing is - I really disliked her choice of words - She said - is rishte to yahin khatam kar dena chahiiye. ...This was super blunt and not needed.

She shud have said - Is rishtey par thoda aur sochne ki zaroorat hai.

Yeah, I agree, she should speak to J, share her concerns, know his mind and then let HIM make a decision on whether he wants to continue or call it off.

guys it's d Indian society she said if she tlks to her F*Ly Dey will lstn n break d rishta... dis will nt go dwn wid saachi but also her reputation in society will be spoiled... I rem she nve wanted dis... infct she tld in last epi to mahi I though dadu n company will nt tke d rishta Ro Singh Dey tuk... den she thugh singh's n jagu would nt accepted Dey accepted... thngs r so complicated... she evn said today to shiv every one will thnk y dint she said before n dats wat happened... coz nobdy bothered to ask her... infct she ws informed or got to knw wen alok said abt taking rishta to jaitsar... n mre imply she told shiv y thngs r taken so hastily we can wait for few days n thnk abt it... bt shiv said saachi wuldn wait...

at 1st wen mihir came shekhar's were ready to wait for an year... n nw saachi tld dem... n f very nxt day Dey tkng rishta... shiv said wat if saachi herself said to jagya... den situ would be out of control...

in my opinion situation wuld be better if saachi herself hve tld to jagy den he culd say no easily... bt here wen he is getting a proposal from F*Ly wer as per Singh's Dey married dere daughter will put her in difficult situation...

n honestly d way shekhar 's proposed dis rishta was luking completly like Dey want jagy as dere sil... to be honest Dey did pressurised... lke cm sayng... we expect u all to consider d happiness of our daughter... wat does dis mns...

and i don think anandi is woring just bcoz of saanchi's dress...but it was more about how saanchi faked it...saanchi made the singhs to believe that she will change after marriage & will wear ghaghra-choli...sumitra also expecting it from saanchi...anandi knows the singhs very well...as she said that no1 in BH shows off!...but saanchi is doing it...so there is a difference between these two mentalities...and for this only anandi is worried...

Originally posted by: hooked

before wondering how Saanchi will adjust, atelast make an effort to adapt yourself into this house. take the pallu off your head, wear your ghagra if you must, but wear a simpler odhni.

Does anyone watch Sarawatichandra ? The ghagras of Kumud are so beautiful. they are light n modern and made of lovely material and look a perfect blend of tradition in modern times. The CV's need to take Anandi out of the 18th century dresses. Go a little easy on the embroidery and the heavy look.

Originally posted by: hooked

Now that Anandi will get eggs and tomatoes from all in KB anyways - Anandi has nothing more to lose. she can afford to go fro broke and also let Jaitser know everyhitng that concerns her so far.

Anandi shud have a chat with Jagya - and say - you came to me but I cudn't talk - tell me what did you want to know. And also say - I know you've accepted Saanchi, but let me tell you about the things that concern me about her compatibility and the final decision is ofcourse still yours.

And THEN - if Jagya still choses or rejects - its fine. Atleast Anandi will have done her job and will have a clear conscience. After all, we can't all manage people and affairs and excessive butting is is not welcome either. A shud stick to caring and sharing. And I hope to God, she can find a way to smile. She looks like the weight of the world is upon her all the time.

before wondering how Saanchi will adjust, atelast make an effort to adapt yourself into this house. take the pallu off your head, wear your ghagra if you must, but wear a simpler odhni.

Does anyone watch Sarawatichandra ? The ghagras of Kumud are so beautiful. they are light n modern and made of lovely material and look a perfect blend of tradition in modern times. The CV's need to take Anandi out of the 18th century dresses. Go a little easy on the embroidery and the heavy look.

Originally posted by: libsrocks

even i feel BV's ghagra's are too old and ungraceful...they need to remove the kamar band...makes anandi look gawar in actual sense...but kumud's gahgra is too revealing ...it will look odd that anandi is not comfortable with wearing jeans but she is comfortable in wearing such revealing cloths

Originally posted by: hooked

Well, I do agree that Dadisa may say dress doesn't matter and that maybe Anandi is just stressing - Saanchi WILL adjust. She has shown herself open to learning the ways of this house. And Anandi may not be able to convince that it was all a show.

In that case, she should then talk to Jagya. She has seen J's discomfort in being made to cut the pink cake, wear the pinbk coat and open presents , do stuff , exactly as per Saanchi's whims. Maybe J will rethink this whole thing.

By doing this - the most important thing she will do is - let them know that accepting or rejecting Saanchi will have no repercussions on her own position here in KB. 😉 In any case - after last night - Anandi has very openly declared her hand and will get all the brickbats that BH was trying to protect her from.

Another thing is - I really disliked her choice of words - She said - is rishte to yahin khatam kar dena chahiiye. ...This was super blunt and not needed.

She shud have said - Is rishtey par thoda aur sochne ki zaroorat hai.

Originally posted by: libsrocks

I am still confused that what Anandi did today was her kindness or stupidity...she had a very strong base to prove her point- Saanchi's conversation with her friend but yet she did not say a word about it to anyone...if she is so worried about this rishta then for awhile why not forget her kindness and get mean and spill the beans...she is unnecessarily complicating the things

anandi knew jagya's opinion about sanchi in his own words...so she could have easily warned the singh family about this rishta...told them her opinion about this whole thing...this way atleast sumitra/dadisa would have paid more attention to jagya's concerns with this marriage...anandi had this moral responsibility as she was after jagya's life to get him agree to this marriage...she also knows the hardships the family suffered because of jagya's past with gauri...and that they can't take another blow...but she just kept quiet.

i am not even concerned about the sanchi phone convo that anandi overheard...now its too late for her to say anything...it would not work with the shekhars.

she should just go talk to jagya & dadisa...if she really wants to stop this marriage...of course the short-term consequences will not be good for anandi.