Anandi's pain is not because of child marriage - Page 6

Originally posted by: di_vya

Yes, I did. And I agree with you. In fact, you're right. You know, if I be honest, I enjoy cooking. I had made Idli the other day - for the first time - mix also prepared by me at home and it turned out so well. I felt so satisfied. The other day I made an eggless (my MIL is a vegetarian) cake at home - again fully prepared by me, no premixed ingredients. It turned out awesome. So yes, I do enjoy cooking.

But both of these I made when my MIL was not at home. I don't want to give her the satisfaction that woh mujhe line par le hi aayin.

EMAs happen outside child marriages too, but the way dadisa treated Anandi when she was young and the eventual pain bcoz J treated her the way he did, all this is def bcoz of child marriage

Originally posted by: tinoo

if you are stopping yourself from doing something you enjoy, then that means that your MIL is still controlling you.

Originally posted by: earth1978

@ momamie

m sorry if i was rude. i was hurt yes.

yes it is THAT overwhelming , teh inlaws problem. it consumes ur life and ur positive energy. those gilrs are helpless. they cannot back answer inlaws, they are pained by their rude comments. if they approach their husband , he dsnt listen dsnt udnerstand , dsnt support infact gets angry how dare u speak ill about my mother. yes it can get to a point u obssess over it.

i dont mean to scare you ... it need not happen that way. remember fore warned is fore prepared. if u knwo what may come u can prepare urself better for it. unlike me who entered the institution of marriage very naive.😭

but i dont want to give u false hopes/assurances.

one thing i want to tell u is ... in ru attempt to please ur new family dont loose urself. dont do things which u find unpleasent , dont work ur ass off, becuase many times they r impossible to please. or worse have decided to just never be pleased sigh!

i dont mean dont try, do ur bit but set comfortable boundaries for urself.

also dont ever expect ur husband to take ur side too much. if he ds its well n good but fight ur battles on ur own accord.

akways respect urself ... if u dont, no one else will.,

and yes always force ur husband to maintian some amount of contact with ur family and friends u trust. u will understand the value of my advise later on.

Originally posted by: di_vya

Hi Tinoo, yes, I see your point. It gives me a new perspective.

With so much negativity around, I don't think it'll be easy 🤔 but I'll make the effort. 😊

Thanks a lot for sparing time. 🤗

Originally posted by: tinoo

Yes, even Jagat i feel used to love cooking and trying new recipes. They have shown us how he cooks several times. He doesnt do that nowadays because he feels that gauri will think such and such of him ... and he doesnt want her to think that she has the upper hand... in doing that he damages himself by depriving himself of an enjoyable hobby.

I really feel that he would have really found something to engage himself if indeed he had taken up cooking again. It would have been something he found creative and soothing for himself... who cares what gauri thinks?

Originally posted by: tinoo

Yes, even Jagat i feel used to love cooking and trying new recipes. They have shown us how he cooks several times. He doesnt do that nowadays because he feels that gauri will think such and such of him ... and he doesnt want her to think that she has the upper hand... in doing that he damages himself by depriving himself of an enjoyable hobby.

I really feel that he would have really found something to engage himself if indeed he had taken up cooking again. It would have been something he found creative and soothing for himself... who cares what gauri thinks?