AnSh have mutual feelings for each other now? - Page 9

Originally posted by: bluerobin

sure yaar , I will try my level best that i don't pay importance to the nonsense broadcasted by people in such a way that I start doubting my self worth .

Originally posted by: tinoo

Once you become joyful, all these other people will fade away... they are all figments of your imagination anyway, repeating what you feel about yourself.

the day you change your thoughts, you will see that they are nowhere around. you'll just look up and say "hmm,,, this is odd... I havent seen or spoken to so and so for eight months now. wonder what happened" 😆

yaar I never go to people and talk. if by chance accidently peopleand i come in the same platform , they start their speech along with their doubts. Nowadays my parents and you guys in the forum are the only ones with which I talk freely and interact. Rest all vanished😆

@ bluerobin

You've raised some very important issues and I can see that you are being dragged down a bit by events in real life so before I begin my bhashan, 🤗. Ok, now that that's done, I'm going to speak from experience. I've borne the brunt of people's so-called humour nearly all my life. Looks, the way I dressed, academics, hobbies, personality, people always seem to have something negative/funny (to them) to say. It affected me pretty badly, in fact, it affects me to this day, but I've improved a bit now. The turning point came the day I sat down to think just why I was giving so much importance to these people. I enjoy being quiet, I love to read, I actually like keeping my grades up and yes, parties give me a raging headache. Trying to change any of these made me feel bad about myself, and those other people were never going to be satisfied in any case. Basically, I realized that you can NEVER get such people to like you. It is better you focus on liking yourself. Now I try to do those things that make ME feel good and try my best to ignore what other people say about this. I don't even bother justifying myself... and that is working! I also make a conscious effort to talk to people about ideas rather than things or other people, which helps me eliminate thoughts about what I have or who is better/worse than I am. I'm still only getting out of the bad phase, so I'm not an expert, but I hope this helped you a bit 😊

Originally posted by: bluerobin

@ bhoomi - thanks a lot yaar . your words mean a lot to me . I just have only one enquiry to the society , relatives especially ...can't they just follow the principle of live and let live. We are not disturbing anyone, we never enquire about their personal lives, no interference in their lives from our part , so can't they also keep follow an ettiquette and stop interfering or start cooking up stories about us and teaching us what should be done with our life minute by minute . yaar here people don't like to discuss ideas or general knowledge . All they know is to talk petty things regarding the lives of others , forming opinions about others, cooking up stories to project they are number one. And the problem is they get disturbed and uncomfortable if we talk about things that they don't know. Now a time has reached that people start fuming just because we have ideas to exchange . so finally the last retort is to talk with oneself .

Live and let live requires a bit of maturity, bluerobin 😊 And maturity, like common sense, is most uncommon. Ignore such people. One thing I will say, the minute you put yourself above such negativity, people's attitudes change. If they don't, their loss and you won't even care 😃

Sometimes fiction helps to get our thoughts sorted. Jagya thinks and talks rot because he's insecure, selfish and arrogant. Gauri has become terrible because she won't look at things in all dimensions and accept she's wrong. The villagers cannot accept change, even when the old way of things hurts them. These are prototypes of the hundred negative people we meet in our daily lives. Anandi is rising above her difficulties because of her absolute conviction in what she's doing. She's in pain, but she never gives up. And now she has Shiv, whose encouragement helps her to keep persevering. Translated to real life I suppose it means we ought to do what we think is right, even in the face of criticism and the people who really matter will always be there to support us. 😊

Originally posted by: bluerobin

I really had to make plan like an army personnel to remove people like this.

I hope your plan is succeeding! All the best for everything 😊

Originally posted by: bluerobin

@ bhoomi - thanks a lot yaar . your words mean a lot to me . I just have only one enquiry to the society , relatives especially ...can't they just follow the principle of live and let live. We are not disturbing anyone, we never enquire about their personal lives, no interference in their lives from our part , so can't they also keep follow an ettiquette and stop interfering or start cooking up stories about us and teaching us what should be done with our life minute by minute . yaar here people don't like to discuss ideas or general knowledge . All they know is to talk petty things regarding the lives of others , forming opinions about others, cooking up stories to project they are number one. And the problem is they get disturbed and uncomfortable if we talk about things that they don't know. Now a time has reached that people start fuming just because we have ideas to exchange . so finally the last retort is to talk with oneself .

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