AnSh have mutual feelings for each other now? - Page 7

Originally posted by: Missesha

Khusi, I feel at that this stage, Anandi has found a friend, who understands her well, even without telling him much. I think this is a phase when she is slightly comfortable with him, respects him, admires him for who he is and can trust him without the fear of being JUDGED.

But I yet don't think she has any 'feelings' for him. This is a very beautiful phase of her life and falling in love will start from somewhere around here.

Originally posted by: tinoo

bluerobin,

the one thing i can say is that you yourself feel you are not good looking and others reflect that to you.

It is not them making you feel that way... it is you feeling that way about yourself and projecting those hurtful thoughts onto others.

If you have time, I'd like for you to go and see the "Work of Byron Katie" videos on youtube. She is an excellent therapist in these matters.

So basically, as a first step, you must take ownership over the fact that these are your thoughts about others and not others thoughts about you.

Will get back with some more stuff.

Originally posted by: Suchi-Virmanian

Did we not say that anandi likes him lol

But seriously,

I think anandi is realizing what jagya has done to her was wrong. Before she taught she dserved it, she blamed herself for not being up to par for him but now she has someone to compare it with. She will compare the behavior and see that what jagya did was abuse. And she will be able to move on from his thoughts completely.

Is she in love with shiv

I do not think so.. But as you said kushi, the healing has started.

Shiv has fallen no doubt.

But this process will be harder for anandi.

I am glad that she is moving on and by the time jagya returns she will be completel y over him and thus it will be easier for her to make decision.

Until now she was hurt by jug head but, she still loved him. But now... She is up to no feelings for jagya... And eventually she will be irked by him.

I cannot wait to watch

Originally posted by: AnjanaYYZ

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Tinoo - i agree and disagree with this. The buck stops with her, but I don't think it always starts with her. Sadly, most folks have a "jogia" or four in their lives...having such unkind ticks is always detrimental for ones self confidence.

Originally posted by: khusi_*

that's what I am trying to say..but due to lack of expressing capability I cant articulate it!!😆

That's not love'.thats sure'I mean I just compared anandi with sugna'at that time sugna has no feeling for shyam at all..she took ages to like him..but here in anandi's case..it seems different..!! kuchh toh hai...😆

Originally posted by: AnjanaYYZ

Tinoo - Not sure we are talking about the same thing. The thing I feel is that while Anandi has gained professional confidence, she is still lacking it on a personal level. Or maybe I am projecting🤔

Her own self worth is lacking and that was apparent in her conversation with Shiv and her dreams today. She is seeking validation. One should not enter any relationship with a "need" for validation. Validation must ideally come from self not external sources. One remains vulnerable so long as we continue to seek external validation. Shiv has no need for validation, which makes him complete within himself.

Edit

Part of this personal self worth may have to do with her femininity, but not all of it. Jagat destroyed her self confidence on every level...including her intelligence, social skill set, etc. not just her femininity

Originally posted by: bluerobin

@ anjana and tinoo - yaar all I have written is based on my experiences from relatives and also the so called " enjoyable college life " . Often I try to motivate myself thinking about sachin tendulkar ( short height ), actors like dhanush ( he is thin like me ) . i often try to say to myself that people taunt me because they fear I have something that they don't have . But still it takes lot of time as well as patience because people pass comments on you everyday . And personally I have never distinguished anyone or had some biased approach towards any person based on their height, weight, skin colour. I am very confident of one fact I do pay respect to every individual without any prejudices about their looks, religion, caste , occupation etc .