I personally think everyone has been at fault in this issue. Be it Singh family, Gauri and her family or Jagya-Anandi and their foolish friends Lal Singh and Phooli!
I never think of Anandi as a devi. I find her at fault for covering up Jagya's sins even in teenage, or covering up even Sugna's lies to meet Pratap in secret.
Lal Singh is at fault for feeling bad but keeping quiet. Talking to Jagya alone is not enough. He must have talked to elders and informed them about what their son was upto and alerted them.
Phooli too, should have communicated concerns to Anandi's parents and in-laws. In fact, she was so foolish that in name of friendship and for not breaking her friend's heart, she used to give jhoota dilaasa to Anandi also whenever Anandi expressed anything about Jagya's growing berukhi towards her!😡
It's strange how wise and experienced members of Singh family couldn't sense tension between Jagya-Anandi and Jagya's changed behaviour.
BUT AT THE SAME TIME!
I would also like to give benefit of doubt to people in Jetsar!
They thought maybe it's all normal and natural part of growing up. They felt perhaps every teen starts liking college/hostel and new city. They felt he was just excited with his first brush with outside world.
People in rural areas and elders make mistake of thinking that person will get sense and become mature with time!
Not to forget that DS made everyone believe blindly in Jagya and brush aside all his faults. DS' pampering is the main reason why no one was able to discipline Jagya or even cast doubt on him.
As for Anandi, DS used to be very harsh on her whenever she spoke of equal rights or went against Jagya as a kid! DS' subjugation and her brand of socialisation made Anandi so docile and spineless. Plus, Bhago's training about treating husband and in-laws as God and dedicating one's life in their service till the last breath - also changed her.
We should not forget, she was scolded, beaten up, locked up in dark rat-infested store rooms, kicked out of the house, shamed many times in front of the family, her parents were publicly insulted by DS - for all her ''rebelliousness''!
I still don't understand why after all the drama, Anandi never studied further and even family did nothing in those 5 years! It was the most frustrating thing shown in this serial. But again as I said, they might have felt that all those lies at Jagya's birthday party in Mumbai or lying about name at college - must have been Jagya's majboori. He must have done it all, because he was finding it difficult to adjust in city.
About Jagya, see, he gave final ultimatum to Anandi ONLY after those 5 years!! That barking session on phone was only after 5 year leap. Then Anandi fell in depression and whole family went to Mumbai one by one.
Till then, people must have brushed it aside thinking that either his actions were normal, or maybe he did it out of stress of tough studies at college and the friends who knew about his actions, thought maybe he would still get back on right track and stop deceiving both girls - so they all kept silent, hoping for things to mend themselves!
Girls in rural areas are not proactive as such. They are made to believe that they have to bear everything quietly and that neglect or abuse from husband is just a part of married life, and that someday Kanha ji or Devi Ma would set everything right and the girl's patience shall be rewarded!
So I don't completely and solely blame Anandi for all that she had to face. Others had a lot to do with what happened to her.
The problem with Singh family (and many such families in real life) is that they never taught Jagya to be responsible and handle things properly. He was whimsical, moody, fickle, stubborn, ignorant and always in mode of experimenting in life! He still is that way!
Singh family's love and pampering has been strong, but they have been useless in imparting basic values and sense of responsibility and practicality in Jagya!
[I believe they didn't teach a thing to Sugna too! They had no idea what she kept doing behind their back. Both Jagya and Sugna were into lying, hiding stuff, doing their own thing and were irrational, giving in to temptation anytime, anywhere!]
At times, parents tend to get too doting towards their kids and have rose-coloured glasses on their eyes! And if there are sugary and hopelessly pampering grandparents too, then kids get spoilt and get out of hands!
The Singh family was at fault for lying to themselves and consoling themselves with multiple explanations of Jagya's behaviour. Families of young men also fear that if they are too harsh or restrictive, then the boy might run away from them or turn a rebel! So they keep giving their boy time to get back on track!
I think they should have visited him regularly in college, parents sometimes even pay surprise visit to kid's colleges and ask profs and wardens how their ward is doing. Singhs were fools to believe J's explanations! The things they accidentally learnt about him after 5 years, they should have learnt about those things at the very outset!
I think Jagya's cheating on women is also due to DS. He's seen how Basant could get a new girl and how DS was about to get him also, a new girl when she felt Anandi was sick and useless. He's grown up seeing his grandmother BUY girls and replace other girls at will! He's seen both of Basant's wives being treated like doormats. DS made him believe ''thinking'' about feelings of girl or giving too much importance to beendni was un-manly! 🤢
His grandmother, sister, tausa, original jija (Pratap), have not been positive role models for him. He's seen people lying, hiding stuff, fulfilling their whims without bothering about anyone and even their own fate! His ''best friend'' Sundar also ruined him.
He's seen his DS and Tau sa put on fake face in front of society and pretending to be full of values, respect and culture. But buying people, doing things their own twisted way in reality! No wonder he's also expert at being a phoney!😡
Just as his family lives on fake maan-maryada, he tried to live on fake modernity and status!
This whole fiasco is not just about child marriage! It's a complex play of many factors - clash of cultures (village vs. city), faulty upbringing, keeping false hopes about the one you love, blatant patriarchy, selfishness, naivete and ignorance, irresponsibility on everyone's part and having illusion of keeping things in control or being able to manage everything.
It also shows that kids trying to be worldly wise and handling things on their own is also wrong and leads nowhere (Lal Singh-Phooli-Anandi-Gauri-Jagya). And even adults solely relying on their old experience, needs/beliefs and customs and trying to govern child's life is ultimately useless.
And life is not like a book in which you can skim at random. Close old chapters first and only then you can actually proceed to newer chapters, otherwise past keeps haunting you for life! Old loopholes and unattended issues wreak havoc with present.
Each and every person has been at fault in this whole tamasha. No one is 100% innocent.
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