Should G be concerned with J's treatment of A ?

I have a quick question.

thats a very good qs tinoo and i have raised this point ages ago,

Anandi was and is part of Jogia life so she want or not it will effect her own life. I don't want tht she sd think abt A but she sd think abt herself. She hd made her own life hell and blaming others. If she sd not think abt others why to expect from others. As I hv watch no one is interfering in her life but she is poking in others life.

The point I am trying to make is that Jagya is the married one - it is HIS job to worry about his marital commitments and all the wedding promises to anandi.

Tinoo ur point is valid to some extent but only if you look at it from the Jagya's point of view. Its not only about treatment, its also about respect, trust.

The person whom I love, I want him to be honest with me about everything.

A person who is good to someone on the face but behind their back he is a two timing creep or a serial lier, a cheat, then the person who is in love with this , that someone, i.e. Gauri , has the right to know about everything this guy is right?

If it was as simple as , as long as you treat me well I am fine, then every man in this world will be two timing their wives and most of the time the two timers and cheaters , get away because they treat their partners very well , so well that the partner does not have the slighest inkling about his other life, other woman or women.

Honestly is the basis of every relationship. Its not simple as , you be good to me, that's all I care about and you can do what ever you want behind my back.

Infidelity , cheating is called such because the person involved, hide their dubious life, and feelings.

So for once we should stop looking at it from the POV of jagat/Jagya.. I am glad that CVs have made him have two names to show the obvious duality and cheating life. We should look at it from Gauri's perspective. No girl , no matter how well they are treated would want to be called a mistress or a keep.

Its the worst kind of insult to any woman. Gauri does not deserve this. She has invested her emotions into this relationship. She deserves better but, I am sure there are other POV and I have to say they look at it only from the eyes of Jagya.

I agree that A's well being is not G's responsibility. But it is J's responsibility.

G knows her marriage to J is not on legal grounds. As a self respecting woman, she should ask J to first file for divorce from A and then think of living a life with G. G's mistake is to stick with a guy despite knowing that her relationship with him is illegal. G should also realize that she treaded thin ice by marrying a guy who was already married, albeit in childhood. She should have been very very very very very very careful getting into the relationship.

Just as G is not responsible for A's happiness, G should not expect A to be compliant and understand G. If A resists divorce or decides she does not want to divorce J, then G should understand it is not A's responsibility that G got herself into an illegal situation.

Well I think marriage is a very big decision in anyone's life and we should give weightage to how one's choice of life partner behaves everywhere.

Your spouses behaviour with other people is a huge pointer to how he will behave with you after the first blush of romance has ended. Yes we behave differently with different people, but how many people do we actively misbehave with? Is it not important to know the reasons for that? It is quite well known that certain behavior patterns repeat themselves, e.g. a wife beater is always a wife beater. Suppose you were getting married to a divorced guy and found out he used to beat his wife, or that he had once raped some one. Would you worry? Or would you think, well he didn't beat me or rape me, so that's okay then ! Thats the first reason Gauri should be concerned with Jagya's behaviour, because it will come back to bite her in the butt later.

In Jagya's case, he has been exposed as a liar and cheat many times over. He claimed that he was never in love with Anandi, he always thought of her as a friend. Ever since she came to Jetsar, Gauri has had the opposite information thrown at her face. Sumitra, Gehna, Phooli all have informed her in gory detail that Jagya used to romance Anandi with the same reckless abandon with which he pursues her now. How can she conveniently forget all that information?

You are right that Gauri has no legal obligations towards Anandi's future. But firstly she has an obligation to think about the moral consequences of her husband's actions. If your husband cheated someone why would you want to stay on with him, even if he is a good husband to you? Take this one step further in your mind, would you stay with a husband who raped some one? Then why with a cheater either? If you believe certain things are morally wrong (and she passionately talked about the fate of Balika Vadhus in her pre-hysteria days), then they are wrong even when committed by your near and dear ones.

Secondly, there is such a thing as sense of self-preservation. Gauri seems to have lost it completely. Once a cheater, always a cheater. She should think now that just as Jagya's love for Anandi became friendship when he went to the city, so may his love for her change when he goes somewhere else. How can she not worry about this? Well, except of course if she acted sensibly the serial wouldn't proceed quite so dramatically.

Bottom line, morally her actions are indefensible. Jagya has primary responsibility of course, but she cannot escape the secondary responsibility of destroying Anandi's life.

BTW I just realized you were probably asking about her reaction when she got married to Jagya before coming to Jetsar. In that case also, the same applies. You find out that the guy you love has lied to you for years, and is leaving his wife to hastily get married to you, and that sets no alarm bells ringing? Why the shotgun wedding? Why not wait to find out why exactly he left his wife? Why exactly his family hates him? Especially in the case of a spouse, since it is important to be able to respect your husband or wife to live with them. How can you happily marry a wife abandoning, cheating, lying, shifty-eyed slimeball without a thought?

@TM very gud quesns & topic👏👏 & i agree that though G isn't responsible 4 A's life but if she considers her as a human being then defntly shes expected 2 behave like a responsible, educated & sane prsn & not like sum stupid prsn!!