Messages are given in the context of episode... if you remember the episode where they announced her pregnancy, the message was something like - things done in youth can have repercussions for a lifetime.
Education for widows is fine and they did start sending Suguna to school (after a lot of drama) and Phooli is still going. But Suguna's circumstances have changed and Dadisa stopped her...and that is the story they are focussing on.
If a widower/divorcee with kids wants to marry society doesn't bat an eyelid, then why different rules for women? In all this for me, that is the ultimate question? Why different rules for women?
When a man with a child and no wife is getting married, his new wife is expected to love and take care of that child unconditionally.
If a women has a child (whether pregnant or already born) why shouldn't she expect to have a husband in the same way?
Why should parents/society/anybody have an objection? I know I am talking about an ideal world and relailty is different but I feel that is the crux of the matter here...
we are all so conditioned to the ways of society that we are questioning as to why should we expect Shyam's parents to agree? My question is why shouldn't we? their son likes/loves her, he knows the entire truth, is happy to bring up someone else's child, and wants to spend the rest of his life with her...then why not?