Divorce after Adoption - Page 3

Krupya yahan kisi ko gyaan naa de, kyunki yahan gyaan baantna aapke apne keemti aur amoolya vakt barbaad karne ke samaan hai.

Anupamaa ek sarvagyaani naari hai, jise sab sab sab pata hai. Agar galti se bhi kuch pata na ho, toh voh saksham hai aur google ke prayog se jaan jaayegi.....

Ek aur arthaat neeche diya gaya hai

Dhanyawaad!

Originally posted by: ShahH8er

Krupya yahan kisi ko gyaan naa de, kyunki yahan gyaan baantna aapke apne keemti aur amoolya vakt barbaad karne ke samaan hai.

Anupamaa ek sarvagyaani naari hai, jise sab sab sab pata hai. Agar galti se bhi kuch pata na ho, toh voh saksham hai aur google ke prayog se jaan jaayegi.....

Ek aur arthaat neeche diya gaya hai

Dhanyawaad!

I just want to know, when was the insensitive word used in context of a particular member and when did OP accuse someone of calling Aadhya Ganda Khoon? I hope am not missing anything here!

The post was generic for everyone differentiating between adopted and bio kids and advocating Maa’s actions!

If someone is taking it personally and playing victim like usual, no one can do anything about it! It has become a pattern now!

Also moral policing other members and asking them to think before responding is like preaching but not practicing.

I mentioned this earlier, repeating again

Originally posted by: Harish111

Anupama's bio kids are a million times more rude and selfish, even today they were laughing at her. But I have never seen you hate them so much or call them names so many time as you do with Adhya.

No one is fooled, some people just hate adopted kids and it's obvious.

The problem here is anupama, her bio kids are laughing at her, vanraj misbehaves with her still she's like ek kaghaz k tukde se, ache pita, ghatiya nahi hai crap.

Agar ek kagaz k tukde se rishta khatam nahi hota to anuj adhya se itna jaldi kaise khatam hogaya

Divorce k baad shah's k pass jaati rahi coz of bache (which is a lie) but anuj k saath divorce k baad adhya ke baare me janna tak gawarah nahi kiya just because you did a favor on her by adopting her??? After divorce you are not a mother to an adopted child, and you cannot force her to be her MOTHER, seriously???? Mujhe laga maa dil se hoti hai and anupama cared for choti as a mother but here but she didn't want to remain an adopted child's mother anymore

Originally posted by: Harish111

.why do you deliberately keep missing the point each time. This topic was clearly about the child and responsibilities of a a child, not about divorce or not.

Divorcing doesn't mean a mom can abandon a child and run away.

You know what affects a child way more than bad marriage? Total abandonment where so call mom leaves and runs away.

These things should not be a man vs woman issue, it should be a human issue. Abandoning a child in the name of divorce is wrong both morally and legally, even courts look at custody and good of child while granting divorce.

I deliberately did not miss the point, tho; Harish bhai. I geddit. This forum has utnost concern for adopted children till they turn out like Anuj (then he becomes someone whose parents would be cursing the day they adopted him.)

No one would ever think about treating a middle-aged woman's parenthood as a satitva litnus test lol.

Secondly, I did not even bring in gender relation into it. But keep on projecting this rich powerful men are perpetual victims stance. I would still hold that no one should stay in a beman marriage for kids. Literally no one. Parents are humans too and forcing themselves into bad romantic adult equations just because kids might struggle to adjust to change for a while is unfair for everyone.

Kids internalise and normalise shitty parental equations. All of Anupamaa's kids— including Adhya— are perfect examples of this. A preteen is calling a woman 5x her age a "golddigger," and it is seen as justified anger? Lol. Divorce is a good thing and should be encouraged. It is not "leaving and running away."

They supposedly went through a divorce settlement, and like OP said, Adhya is with the parent who can materially and emotionally do best for her (since alimony and childcare are also seen as "gold-digging" in the Upma meta-fanverse).

Anupamaa is a bad mother (according to the internet, she is even an abusive mother so much so that a preteen's emotional manipulation of two adults' romantic relationship is seen as an absolutely normal response to 'abandonment issues.' Furthermore, the same kid saying that she can only 'share' her 50+ y/o father with his fiance is not a call for immediate psychiatric intervention. What more, the same preteen daughter being literally jealous of a toddler's life being saved is not an indication of the parental failure of the dude who stayed back lol, but I digress.)

Accordimgly, she is even considered an abusive wife. But then; then, then, isn't it 100% better if the child (and the abused billionaire husband) is away from the supposed abusive adult with power over them? In that case, isn't sole custody literally lifesaving for the child? Why is the supposed abusive adult being crucified for doing the one good thing they did for the child?

Aren't five years of good parental support from educated, sophisticated, devoted Anuj and Shru along with professional therapy better for Adhya than a gamble on an abusive Upmaa cutting ties from her other children and grandchildren reforning for her? Anuj could and still can afford the best psychiatric healthcare for Adhya and himself.

Similarly,.isn't it better for Anuj to be free of an allegedly abusive spouse than gambling on his abuser reforming in future? Since you like to bring up gender roles and MRA even in unrelated posts, I, for one, would be very happy if an abused woman was free of her abuser without wrecking her socioeconomic security as is the case with Anuj. I don't see why Anuj and Adhya being free of their abuser isn't worthy of celebration?

Too many logical and moral contradictions from— to borrow a term from this forum— Anuj bhakts.

PS. Also if there is a way that Upmaa could be a better parent to Adhya without having to relinquish her right to dissolve an unsatifactory marriage, please do elaborate.

The image you’ve shared touches on the sensitive topic of how adopted children cope with the separation or divorce of their adoptive parents. It highlights the legal perspective that courts do not differentiate between adopted and biological children regarding parental responsibilities.

Sorry what are you talking about my gif on Kokilaben? If so then how on earth does a gif with the phrase ‘Loi Pinini Dobi Daffod’ touch on the sensitive topic of how adopted children cope with the separation or divorce of their adoptive parents

Pehle ka toh answer nahin mila. Khair. Some more koschens.

Suppose a couple with a preteen child divorce for whatever reason. The custody of the child is handed over to the parent who can emotionally and financially support the child better.

In addition, suppose the other parent relinquishes rights on the child (is that even a legitimate statement?) Having no contact with the child post divorce. Suppose the custodian parent were to decide to marry for the second time.

1. Would the child's interest not be considered because afterALL, they are eventually going to be a family staying under one roof? Or the child and the new member of the family bonding or being cordial does Not matter because the child is expected to be accepting of any thing?

2. Suppose the child has been subject to abuse or neglect in the past, the child should not make it known to the parent with a hope of assurance of resolution and re-assurance and hence voice out opinions as an act of self-preservation because that would mean "interfering in the adults' love life"? The child's (who the parents knowingly brought into their lives) wellbeing be damned. The child should be mature enough to put up with and face their trauma again, something that they have been able to suppress over time?

Originally posted by: surabhi01

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U want answer

See in. Aaadhya situation aadhya is staying with anuj

She want custody of anuj and Shrut

Sorry, did not understand.

As far as it is shown, there was a "remote" divorce where by, Anupama was not in contact with Anyone for 5 years and as a result, Anuj got the natural custody of Aadhya.

So aadhya will stay with Shruti and anuj only

Suppose even if anupama want to be mother of choti after divorce but what is use because she can't live with aadhya always and can't take care of aadhya always

But, is it even an option? Once adopted, she is the mother, there is no choice of wanting to be or not, isn't it?

She may visit to aadhya for few hrs may be once in week but what is use

Shruti will stay with aadhya always as she will be living In same house with aadhya most of time

So court may give preference to Shruti than anupama because Shruti can take care of aadhya easily than anupama because Shruti will be more close to Shruti than anupama

And also since aadhya,s feeling comfortable with that is why court may prefes Shruti

First of ALL, why and who will go to court now? What case? Because when the divorce happened, Shruti was not even in picture. Even now by virtue of marrying Anuj, she will be a guardian of Aadhya but that does Not mean Anupama's obligations as a mother is NOT there.

When Anuj-Anupama together adopted a child, they both remain the parents. Isn't it?

This situation is Not different from when Anupama and Vanraj divorced and Vanraj married Kavya.

Consider that if Paritosh, Samar, Pakhi were actually, legally minor.

Are you implying that court would have preferred Kavya than Anupama because Vanraj had a more stable family and Kavya would be in Shah House to take care of the kids and Pakhi was already close to Kavya? Are you meaning Anupama has no responsibility towards her minor kids since she is divorced and the other parent is re-married, she is no longer their mother?

Since happening couple that is both Shruti and anuj mutually decided to fake care of Shruti to court may give right to Shruti and anuj

Agar daughter ya son father ki custody mein rehna hai after court order to technically father ko child ki responsibility subse jyaada nibhani hogi

Kyonki court ne child ko father ki custody mein rakhne ka order diya hai not of mother

And court mein emotions se kaam nahi chalta hai

Granting custody of the child to one parent does NOT mean the other parent has no responsibilities. There are obligations on BOTH parents till the children become legal adults. It was Both parents' decision to bring a child in their life and till the child becomes a legal adult, the child remains under the care of both parents, there can be a shared arrangement but the responsibilities are shared. It could even be shared schedule, financial contributions (even if the custodian parent is richer).

The only exception where the child is not allowed to meet the non-custodian parent (and vice versa), as far as I have seen is:

1. If the parent is convicted

2. If the parent is medically, physically and/or mentally challenged or not in a position to support the child.

3. If the parent is found to be harmful for the child.

Tgese are applicable if there is a custody case, meaning the child(ren) in question are legall minors.

Please correct If my understanding is wrong.

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Originally posted by: surabhi01

There was incident where mother took custody of child. Woh bacha apne father ke godi mei Chad ke jor jor se ro raha tha but court ka order tha to police ne bache ko father se lekar mother ko diya because court ka order tha court ko ise farak nahi padta father son ke beech Kitna pyaar hai

Since aadhya will be under custody of Shruti and anuj to technically Shruti and anuj ko hi aadhya ki responsibility nibhani hogi

This, we have already established. Shruti can be a guardian by virtue of marrying Anuj. But Anupama will also be obligated by responsibilities towards Aadhya unless Anupama were not be available due to:

1. Conviction

2. Medically, physically, mentally unfit

3. Prove to be harmful for Aadhya.

Suppose agar koi custody nahi Lena chahta hai to wapas orphanage bhej dete hai aur phr bacha phir se waiting list mein aa jaata hai

Sorry, aisa koi legal provision hain? Is there a reference somewhere we can read? This is so unfair to the child.

Commodity thodi hain bachche, ki, Kal tak I wanted to be a parent and I adopted them, now I don't want responsibilities toh "return" kar diya.

Waise aisa hota nahi hai ki mother ya father mein se koi bache ki custody na le father ya mother se koi ek bache ki custody lete hi Hain after divorce

So conclusion is court jiske custody mein bacha rakhna ka order degi usi ko bache ki responsibility nibhani hogi

Yes I will say again if couple decide to take care of aadys to technically Shruti ka legal right as mother rahega phir anupama ka legal right ad mother of aadhya band ho jaayega

Because in eyes of law Shruti and anuj will be legal couple not anupama and

Sorry, but this is not valid and would be happy to be corrected with correct legal citations.

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In all honesty, I think we should discount legality for this show. If we are adamant about following legal procedures, Anupamaa could not have flown to America in the first place. But a part of the audience is going gaga over her progressive udaan to believe that she’s truly independent/empowered etc etc. have forgotten to point out the legal rules around immigration. When it comes to CA , there are rules to follow and believe that Maa gave full legal custody to someone else. How convenient!