"Main tumhari Badi Maa hoon" - Page 2

At the beginning I had raised the same question but her fans came with all guns that how could u blame Maa its all Baa and Van fault /---

Originally posted by: kooki07

At the beginning I had raised the same question but her fans came with all guns that how could u blame Maa its all Baa and Van fault /---

At some point you have to stop blaming the source and blame the person who keeps letting it happen to them.

I don’t blame Baa or V nor Shah family anymore. Anupama allows herself be treated this way.

She allows herself be treated like doormat, 2nd class citizen when she doesn’t need to be. I could care less, I have no respect for her nor feel any sympathy for her. I am starting feel the same for Anuj too. How long will you fall for this crap of a wife and want this kind of crappy life.

Exactly the self respect comes first ,if you let the peoples walk over you its your own mistake not the Mahanta .

Originally posted by: Arshi67

Very well said ❤️

She has had ample opportunity and support to actually make a difference to her life, yet her first instinct has always been to run to SH. The concept of self respect appears to be meaningless to her. The vile things that have been said to her by each member of that family has always been brushed away by her, with her sense of duty reigning supreme. And that has never come with boundaries. She allows herself to be demeaned by them time and again.

I still can't accept the entire acche pita feelings she harbours. Baffled from which angle he appears to be so in her eyes. This married man is letching over you and you put yourself out there letting him carry on!

It is true. Because maybe we view it from an educated lens of awareness about right and wrong which someone like Anupamaa just does not possess. For her all the taunts and humiliation are minor niggles in front of the overarching concept of family that dominates or rather gives meaning to her life. Bearing routine abuse is considered a necessary sacrifice and this attitude is permanently ingrained in her. Thus, concepts like self respect may be viewed as selfish and not the domain of a woman whose primary role is to cook and clean, and it ends up taking a backseat.

Not to defend her but someone who has given up a majority of their life towards what she considers is building the family and preserving the house, is not going to suddenly question the behaviour she is used to, from the others. When the affair was revealed, it shook her a bit but things settled back gradually and would have been better if Anuj Kapadia didn't complicate her life. Kavya became like a younger sister in law for her rather than the woman her husband had an affair with. Once she proved that no one could manage the house as well as her, the resentment over the affair slowly faded away and she got accustomed to the new arrangement, as it was still within the protective confines of her family. As for Vanraj, she could be enjoying the attention or rather the change in positions after she spent more than two decades pandering to him quite unsuccessfully. I personally know few people who like the role reversal in a justice served sort of way, when someone who mistreated them in the past now ends up running after them.

Anupamaa is simply unable to fathom a life without Shahs. Which is why she kept insisting on coming back out of her own volition, despite every humiliation. There is always a difference between how people react based on their background and circumstances. I feel people have too many expectations from Anupamaa. She is not capable of moving out and carving a life for herself (like in the movie Thappad) else she would have done it after the divorce. If she would have managed her own small dance academy, it would have just sufficed and the gradual respect given by the family could have been a surprise by product eventually.

(Apologies for the long post)

Anupama is just a aunty for kavya's child. She is not vanraj's wife nor Chachi of the child. She is so obsessed with maa thing 🤢

Jagat maata ban k baith gayi heIts her 6th child if kavya dies before leap 😕

Originally posted by: Arshi67

"Main tumhari Badi Maa hoon"

I found it very telling that Anupa chose to introduce herself to Kavya's baby as Badi Maa. She could easily have chosen Maasi, given that she and Kavya have forged a connection separate from that of ex and current wife.

It would have satisfied her Maa complex as well as Maasi also has Maa in it.

Guess all rishtas do indeed lead to, and are via, Meeshter Shah for her.

I don't know if anyone will agree with me or not

But seriously it jsut so cringe

She forgave K and V is different matter but being so friendly with both of them and now looks।so gross.

If V and K married after Anu divorced him even then it would have looked okr

But I don't think anyone can be okay with such people who abused belittle and cheated her for 8 long years

Being coordial or formally meeting them is another thing but being so friendly looks utterly fake and cringe

Originally posted by: Wanderers36

It is true. Because maybe we view it from an educated lens of awareness about right and wrong which someone like Anupamaa just does not possess. For her all the taunts and humiliation are minor niggles in front of the overarching concept of family that dominates or rather gives meaning to her life. Bearing routine abuse is considered a necessary sacrifice and this attitude is permanently ingrained in her. Thus, concepts like self respect may be viewed as selfish and not the domain of a woman whose primary role is to cook and clean, and it ends up taking a backseat.

Not to defend her but someone who has given up a majority of their life towards what she considers is building the family and preserving the house, is not going to suddenly question the behaviour she is used to, from the others. When the affair was revealed, it shook her a bit but things settled back gradually and would have been better if Anuj Kapadia didn't complicate her life. Kavya became like a younger sister in law for her rather than the woman her husband had an affair with. Once she proved that no one could manage the house as well as her, the resentment over the affair slowly faded away and she got accustomed to the new arrangement, as it was still within the protective confines of her family. As for Vanraj, she could be enjoying the attention or rather the change in positions after she spent more than two decades pandering to him quite unsuccessfully. I personally know few people who like the role reversal in a justice served sort of way, when someone who mistreated them in the past now ends up running after them.

Anupamaa is simply unable to fathom a life without Shahs. Which is why she kept insisting on coming back out of her own volition, despite every humiliation. There is always a difference between how people react based on their background and circumstances. I feel people have too many expectations from Anupamaa. She is not capable of moving out and carving a life for herself (like in the movie Thappad) else she would have done it after the divorce. If she would have managed her own small dance academy, it would have just sufficed and the gradual respect given by the family could have been a surprise by product eventually.

(Apologies for the long post)

Very well written and can be true for rela life character though highly unlikely still

But she is fictional character and it was promised initially that they will show her journey from being doormat to independent women but no change in her character from starting storyline is meh

Current track current husband has become fathe of bride and current wife is groom's mother

Isn't it gross 🤢 any couple could have done kanyadan except Anuj because in a way he is like father to Samar and if he treats someone as daughter dharm ki or muh boli or adopted like CA she will automatically be sister to anupamas children

How difficult it is to understand

Originally posted by: Snowstorm22

Kayva actually allowed this woman near her unborn child🤢?
I would keep Anupama far away from all my children much less the one my ex husband now shared with me.🤦🏻‍♀️

Anupama couldn’t even raise her own children properly but plans on being there to help raise Kavya’s.🤦🏻‍♀️.

I heard it takes a village to raise a child but if that village includes Anupama, Baa, Kavya is better of raising her child in the wilderness.😂😂😂.

Kavya is a fully paid up member of the Maa is the besht Maa fan club. For her, it would be an honour to have her kid being brought up in Maa’s chhatra chhaya 😆

Originally posted by: kooki07

At the beginning I had raised the same question but her fans came with all guns that how could u blame Maa its all Baa and Van fault /---

There’s none as blind as those that won’t see 🤷‍♀️

Kavya's babay should be protected. His/her sanity needs to be protected. But unfortunately her badi maa still exists