"Main tumhari Badi Maa hoon" - Page 3

Originally posted by: naaznin

Anupama is just a aunty for kavya's child. She is not vanraj's wife nor Chachi of the child. She is so obsessed with maa thing 🤢

Jagat maata ban k baith gayi heIts her 6th child of kavya dies before leap 😕

Kid is V’s, toh in her head atoot rishta automatically hai

Originally posted by: SanchiIndu

I don't know if anyone will agree with me or not

But seriously it jsut so cringe

She forgave K and V is different matter but being so friendly with both of them and now looks।so gross.

If V and K married after Anu divorced him even then it would have looked okr

But I don't think anyone can be okay with such people who abused belittle and cheated her for 8 long years

Being coordial or formally meeting them is another thing but being so friendly looks utterly fake and cringe

I agree it’s highly unreal to be so cordial and warm after what she’s been through. They’ve just used this as another tool to show her mahaanta.

Originally posted by: xDownInFlamesx

Kavya's babay should be protected. His/her sanity needs to be protected. But unfortunately her badi maa still exists

And ain’t going on no udaan anytime soon 😆

Originally posted by: Dee-Dee

Oh yes, how could I miss this new Rishta she formed today

She doesn’t have any Rishta from Mishter Shah now but wants to be addressed as Badi Maa to her ex husband’s kid with his current wife, this is so complicated while she claims and pretends that her only Rishta with Mishter Shah is bachho ke Pita to her kids but sits with him in all major Poojas of Shah House and dances with him, hugs as Dada Dadi

Funny thing is her kids never addressed Kavya as Choti Maa, she is still Kavya to them and Anuj is still Buddy or Anuj for them not Bade or Chote Papa

This woman needs to get over Mishter Shah and her Maa Hu Ne complex to move forward in life

Originally posted by: Wanderers36

It is true. Because maybe we view it from an educated lens of awareness about right and wrong which someone like Anupamaa just does not possess. For her all the taunts and humiliation are minor niggles in front of the overarching concept of family that dominates or rather gives meaning to her life. Bearing routine abuse is considered a necessary sacrifice and this attitude is permanently ingrained in her. Thus, concepts like self respect may be viewed as selfish and not the domain of a woman whose primary role is to cook and clean, and it ends up taking a backseat.

Not to defend her but someone who has given up a majority of their life towards what she considers is building the family and preserving the house, is not going to suddenly question the behaviour she is used to, from the others. When the affair was revealed, it shook her a bit but things settled back gradually and would have been better if Anuj Kapadia didn't complicate her life. Kavya became like a younger sister in law for her rather than the woman her husband had an affair with. Once she proved that no one could manage the house as well as her, the resentment over the affair slowly faded away and she got accustomed to the new arrangement, as it was still within the protective confines of her family. As for Vanraj, she could be enjoying the attention or rather the change in positions after she spent more than two decades pandering to him quite unsuccessfully. I personally know few people who like the role reversal in a justice served sort of way, when someone who mistreated them in the past now ends up running after them.

Anupamaa is simply unable to fathom a life without Shahs. Which is why she kept insisting on coming back out of her own volition, despite every humiliation. There is always a difference between how people react based on their background and circumstances. I feel people have too many expectations from Anupamaa. She is not capable of moving out and carving a life for herself (like in the movie Thappad) else she would have done it after the divorce. If she would have managed her own small dance academy, it would have just sufficed and the gradual respect given by the family could have been a surprise by product eventually.

(Apologies for the long post)

I will love to read more long posts when they have well thought out and cohesively put content like yours ❤️

I think you have got the crux of all our grievances with the show. We’re looking at it from our own life experiences and expectations. She will always fall short. The problem has also been the way the story has been sold. A Journey, soaring flights, discovering her strengths, all paint a broader picture than what she’s capable of.

Guess they really should have followed the fundamental mantra of under promise and over deliver. They’ve done a terrible job of managing expectations!

Originally posted by: Arshi67

I will love to read more long posts when they have well thought out and cohesively put content like yours ❤️

I think you have got the crux of all our grievances with the show. We’re looking at it from our own life experiences and expectations. She will always fall short. The problem has also been the way the story has been sold. A Journey, soaring flights, discovering her strengths, all paint a broader picture than what she’s capable of.

Guess they really should have followed the fundamental mantra of under promise and over deliver. They’ve done a terrible job of managing expectations!

Thanks for engaging. I thought there was the scope to expand on the point.

I agree that the makers have deceived the audience by claiming to show a story of progress whereas it's not. The drama is amped up like any other show. But my thought behind all this stems from observing why such a character has a widespread connect even with the unrealistic scenarios, beyond any sort of TRP considerations.

I watched this show involuntarily during the pandemic year because of family and whenever I am back, I find my mother and others like her somehow still watching it. Anupamaa as a character is a manifestation of millions of women who were raised with a simple thought process of only starting a family and looking after them. It is true that even now majority of people still want girls to be educated only till a minimum acceptable level per society (which has only shifted slightly) and not really focus on learning or a career. A woman is taught to adjust and bear each tantrum from husband/in-laws/sons and not argue back because where would that leave them as they are not self sufficient or confident in the first place. Call it conservative, traditional or regressive, the number of such people is much more than the mostly urban women who are empowered and can take a stand for their ownselves. Neither can they change in a jiffy nor can they be wished away. It will take generations to unlearn this attitude.

I am not reading too much into the show because it is absurd and the makers only want to cash in on the sentiment. But people could be relating to the character seriously because of the common circumstances even if they do not agree with her actions. Each time Anupamaa is insulted and remains silent, it reminds women of several instances in their own life where they sighed and accepted it without protesting, wishing that things somehow improve in the future. Because another option or a better life, sadly could not even be conceived.

Oh i so wish when k told everyone that she pregnant anupama say I'm your baby Bari Bua

Because to kuch bhi ho sakta hai writers se logic nahi talash Karo

Originally posted by: name2saakshi

Oh i so wish when k told everyone that she pregnant anupama say I'm your baby Bari Bua

Because to kuch bhi ho sakta hai writers se logic nahi talash Karo

V would need CPR if she said that 😆

Originally posted by: Arshi67

V would need CPR if she said that 😆

Originally posted by: hinz

you mean Anupamaa to the rescue again, I’m sure she’s a first aider too, her skillset is quite varied said Arya🤣

That's a given 😆

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