Anupamaa Live Update and Daily Discussion Thread 09 Jan 2023 - Page 5

Yeh koi khilauna nahin karid rahe hain ki anuj ko khush karne ke liye haan bol diya. BACCHI hain. Jo biological bacchon ke samaan ho. Unse kam nahin. Woh pyaar aur mamta unke saath wakt bitaane se, unhe samajhna mein aata hain jo Anupama ne kiya hi nahin. Aur woh ITNI acchi insaan hain, lekin adopted child ka dukh ko samajh nahin sakti? I thought Anupama was so good, so kind, and this is something she can't feel? You can't say yes for such a big decision to make someone happy, you are ruining a little girl's childhood by doing that. It's a grave sin. Anupama ko support karte karte aap ek choti innocent bacchi, jo already life mein itna seh chuki hain, usko aise ignore aur unimportant kar rahe ho.

Anuj never forced her. If he was upset, he would have been for a short while and gotten over it because he really loved Anupama. There was no reason to say yes. Now Anuj and CA are suffering even more.

To kya kare choti anu bachi hai . Anupama bhi koi machine nahi to anuj is asking choti anu ko ke liye mother feeling develop karo .ek dum se anupama ne choti anu ke prati develop ho gayi .are woh kyon ek strange child ke saath ek Dum.pyaar lutaane lag jaaye .nahi ho ho paa raha hai anupama se choti Anu ki taraf ek.dum se motherly feeling ka pyaar yeh achi jabardast hai anupama par

Ateast give time to anupama to to have motherly feeling for strange child

Wohi to kaha usne! agar woh Shahs aur unke kaand se door rahegi tab hi toh kar paegi. Jaise usne Pakhi ke saath dance kiya, waise yeh competition CA ke saath jit leti toh aur gehra ho jaata unka rishta. When CA had a nightmare/panic attack if her mother was there for her their relationship would have strengthened. Anuj didn't say love CA immediately more than anything in the world. If he didn't force her to create boundaries with shah house she will never get a chance to become close to Choti or create a motherly bond with her...they won't give her the time or mental space to do that! And their problems are barely emergencies. It's all things other people can easily take care of but still call Anupama. whereas in Choti's case she only has her parents. Shahs would not give her space to spend time with and create that bond with her child ever, so whatever Anuj is doing is right, in the end it will benefit Anupama the most to break her toxic attachment to the Shahs apart from her children when absolutely needed. She will also get a happy healthy family and enjoy time with them.

And anyway CA nahin bhi hoti toh bhi yeh boundaries zaroori hain. 99% of the time her kids and ex in laws emergencies are not emergencies. this is also for her own benefit.

And please. Anupama took up a responsibility. Bacchi hain toh kya hua ka matlab kya hain? Insaan hain. She agreed to foster and adopt her, she has to take up that responsibility. Us bacchi ki galti nahin hain isme. Whereas she does not have to take up responsibility of her vile mother in law and thankless adult children at times when they can clearly solve their own issues.

Tell me a few things:

1. Why did Anupama cry today? Why the panic attack?

2. What was she referring to that "Mujhse matt cheeno" holding a photograph (which again was the couple patching up with a "batti" without Choti Anu).

3. What Ego was Dheeraj referring to, that Anuj exhibited?

Kitna unrealistic expectations logon ko anupama se ki anupama instantly ek.non blood relation ship ke liye motherly feeling develop karne lag jaaye when she has already has own biological that too three children

Anyway ending. Discussion don't want to continue

BTW I am. Telling for a mother when she has already 3 blood relation ship children so it is very difficult fir mother to develop intense mother feeling for adopted children so soon

And I don't know what disgusting mentality in this I m talking natural feeling of mother but people saying pov is disgusting ?

one needs to have an open and rational mind for a proper discussion anyway, so this was far from one. my bad won't respond again have a good day!

You are calling her a 'strange' child, which is coming across as offensive. That is the problem.

Strange child kaise offens8ve hai

I don't know

Anyway

Waise Jo sochna hai socho .I don't care

Originally posted by: surabhi01

What disgusting mentality so saying truth is disgusting mentality and natural truth is disgusting mentality ?I did not know

And yes anupama has said that that she do not want to take care of another 4th child but anuj ka man delhte hue usne Haan boli the

It is very unnatural thing of anuj expect from anupama to that anupama will develop intense mother feeling of strange child when she has already biological mother of three child

I want to see which mother in real life will develop intense mother feeling for strange child so soon when she has already blood relation chidren

There are several parents in real life who have kids of their own and also have an adopted child. Even if there is no adoption, maternal instincts, basic humanity, compassion takes over a person, especially a woman when she is around children. It is plain natural to console and hug a crying/disappointed child. Nobody can force basic humanity, compassion and instincts on others.

In this case, Anupama is fostering a young child who maybe under 10yrs of age. Anuj is suggesting that if she does not prioritize(not mollycoddle) a <10 yr old kid and instead prioritzes 70+ or 80+ yr old baa, she might lose the child. Which is a fair & reasonable.

Originally posted by: poobaniparvati9

one needs to have an open and rational mind for a proper discussion anyway, so this was far from one. my bad won't respond again have a good day!

Just my two cents over it. The point you stated regarding adoption is completely accurate. However, a logical and rational discussion is possible over a character which is actually normal. Anupamaa loves to play god and give bhashans but is an utter failure in terms of all her responsiblities.

Here we have a character who was offered a second chance at self respect and a good life but willingly rejected that to slave around for the people who abused her. This in itself speak volumes. However much we fret and complain, this is exactly how the character will be portrayed in the future as well. She will keep taking such decisions, victimise herself, never see what's right, fake panic attacks etc. So let's not get worked up over the actions of this absurdly shameless character.