Anupamaa Live Update and Daily Discussion Thread 09 Jan 2023 - Page 7

Wow to strange ka Matlab bus ajeeb Hota hai it does not mean doosra ka bacha ,paraya

.my strange child word refers to doosre ka bacha not ajeeb or abnormal

Kindly check meaning of strange usme strange ke aur bhi meaning diya gaya hai not just ajeeb abnormal whatever

https://www.shabdkosh.com/dictionary/english-hindi/strange/strange-meaning-in-hindi

https://www.shabdkosh.com/dictionary/hindi-english/%E0%A4%AA%E0%A4%B0%E0%A4%BE%E0%A4%AF%E0%A4%BE/%E0%A4%AA%E0%A4%B0%E0%A4%BE%E0%A4%AF%E0%A4%BE-meaning-in-english

Anuj is so wrong that he is forcing other child on her .anupama even said try to.express that she s unable to look after child at this age but still he ignore her feeling

I think you were going for ''stranger'' or perhaps "stranger's" rather than strange, because strange commonly means what I said above. Considering that a lot of comments indicated the same perception, I don't think I'm wrong. No offence, sorry if I have hurt you.

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Bani Rahe choti anu kid choti anu is not blood relation of anupama so Anuj can't expect from anupama that she will very soon develop intense mother feeling of that child who is not blood relation of anupama .it is difficult for mother to develop intense mother feeling for strange child jub uske khud ke bache ho .and yes anuj is cold to anupama it does not matter whether he hug her but inside he is very cold to anupama

If I remember it correctly, Anuj asked Anu before adoption and gave her the choice to say No. Can someone remind me what was the answer ? I think Anu took her own sweet time and said Yes.

Marriage is a series of committment. Once you commit to a task, you do it. If not, pay for it. No one can take marriage for ‘grent’ and expect it to work.

Anuj is 10000% corrrct IMO to expect Anu to be dedicated and stick to her committment. Anu is not a 20 yr old girl figuring out life. She knows about everything enough to always give a 5 page bhashan. Doesn’t she know what’s right and wrong and what things are to be done when one adopts a kid ? Even my 24 yr old bachelor sister knows it. 😕

Anupamaa could look after Meenu, she too is not her blood but now has issues to care for a child she consented to foster and adopt with her husband. Or Meenu is okay because she was Ravanraj’s sister’s child so still blood.
If she wanted a responsibility free life she should not have consented to adoption or marriage. Marriage brings equal rights and responsibilities. If its her right to have happiness with Anuj after her disastrous first marriage. Then the marriage gives right to Anuj as well to be happy with his family. The responsibility or decision of choti was not foisted on Anupamaa, he asked her and she agreed. If she did not think herself capable of being motherly again she should have told so. Yes Anuj would have been disappointed but not this heartbroken to see his child neglected and sidelined. Or did Anupama just want a sugar daddy to pay for her responsibility free life and also the life of her biological children and their father and his parents.

Anupamaa is a fictional character. I am kinda busy today but I observed something that I want to share

She is so fortunate that her reel husband takes cares of her 7 yr old reel daughter, while real husband takes care of her real kid.

All she is doing is babysitting her 21+ kids and 70+ ex in laws IN THE SHOW and for which real people get tears and then they bash other real people on twitter. Period.

And everyone here is worried about why Anupamaa cant take a break!

baat bachhey sey attachment ki bhi nahi hai. bass thoda saa compassion aur sense of duty towards a kid is needed. attachment apney aap ho jata hai. Jaisey anupaMAA ko BAA sey ho gaya- apni khud ki Maa ko bhool gayi.

Originally posted by: surabhi01

See this episode number 594 anupama said to.anuj that at this age age it is tough to become mother to anuj Kitna ghabra gaya he look very tense but as soon as anupama said yes it is tough to handle small kid but if husband like u then let's do it .

Jub Anuj ko yeh lag raha. Tha ki anupama adopt karne se mana Kar degi to kaise Anuj ka tension ke mare bura haal.tha and when anupama said she will adopt how Anuj was laughing

Instead of understanding anupama helpless Anuj was feeling tension ka kahin anupama adopt karne ko mana to nahi kar degi

Anupama clearly and whole tell feeling to anuj

Jub Anuj itna tension mein lag raha tha to anupama kis mooh se kehti ki main little anu ko nahi adopt karne paaomgi uski responsibility nahi le paaogu

People without second thought call my thought disgusting where I am talking about realistic feeling of

Mother

I am unable to.post link.of episode but episode number is 594

Much have been said and discussed already so I dont want to elaborate on that but yes I will like to clarify that its about individual's perception how they interpret a particular scene or scenario. So in my pov, that episode when anuj asked for adoption, he was not fearing that anuapama will say no, he was just plain sad. And yes somewhere anuj being upset played an important role in anupama's decision of saying yes for adoption but again its her people pleasing nature which is to be blamed. Devika had advised her clearly over adoption. Anuj was not like vanraj who would have created ruckus over her decision and yes anupama wanted to make anuj happy but finally it was her decision which she took after thinking all the factors like age, fatigue work load etc. And now if she is backing out of her responsibility then its not good and she can't blame anuj for it.

And about motherly feelings for adopted child. Its no big deal yaar. I have seen example in my own family. It doesn't matter if child is adopted or not, parents love both biological and adopted child equally.

Infact motherly instincts of women are such that if khud ke bachhe bade ho jaye toh dusre chhote bachho par jyada pyar aata hai. That grandparents always adore grandchildren more than their own children. Same logic anupama applied when it come to pari. Anupama's children now are grownup. The youngest one pakhi is also 21+. So yes, still her children will need her but right now chhoti needs more attention. I am sure when pakhi was born anupama would have given more attention to pakhi than to samar and toshu. Same logic applies in chhoti's case. And its not that suddenly also. Its been 6 months since they adopted chhoti.

Aur anuj ne kabhi bhi responsibility share karne se mana nahi kiya but wo chidta is baat par hai ki anupama koi apne career, dance academy, business meeting, classes ke karan unavailable nahi rehti balki wo to shahs ki har chhoti si baat ke liye daud laga deti hai unke pas ignoring her own house. Aisa to koi bhi aadmi nahi sahega.

All in all, jaha anupama galat hai to galat hai, there can be no justification for this. And even she showed maturity by accepting her mistakes then why are we debating over it.

And one correction to your messages as a friendly gesture. Please don't take it otherwise. I think people were offended by the use of word "strange" for chhoti. Which actually is not an harsh word in itself but when you use it for orphan innocent child then it seems little harsh. But my guess is, this was not your intention. I think you wanted to use the word "stranger" for chhoti meaning अजनबी but by mistake you used "strange" meaning अजीब. So thats all the confusion I guess.

Originally posted by: surabhi01

See this episode number 594 anupama said to.anuj that at this age age it is tough to become mother to anuj Kitna ghabra gaya he look very tense but as soon as anupama said yes it is tough to handle small kid but if husband like u then let's do it .

Jub Anuj ko yeh lag raha. Tha ki anupama adopt karne se mana Kar degi to kaise Anuj ka tension ke mare bura haal.tha and when anupama said she will adopt how Anuj was laughing

Instead of understanding anupama helpless Anuj was feeling tension ka kahin anupama adopt karne ko mana to nahi kar degi

Anupama clearly and whole tell feeling to anuj

Jub Anuj itna tension mein lag raha tha to anupama kis mooh se kehti ki main little anu ko nahi adopt karne paaomgi uski responsibility nahi le paaogu

People without second thought call my thought disgusting where I am talking about realistic feeling of

Mother

I am unable to.post link.of episode but episode number is 594

It’s very plain and simple. It might be her people-pleasing nature, or wanting to make Anuj ‘heppy’, or whatever XYZ reason, it was done with her consent. Period. Being an adult, a 45+ Adult, I’d expect her to know of the duties a foster parent has. I dont think one’d have pointed it out if she’s making mistakes on handling the kid or not able to get those motherly feelings that we are discussing. Here the point is the lady is missing from the picture entirely !

If something’s committed, do it, else you’re turning out as bad bad mother and human being. If you dont wanna do it, talk to Anuj instead of beating around the bush and pretending to do it which tactic, by the way, is failing miserably. Come clean man what you wanna do. If your one @$$ is stuck to your Shah House, CA ke liye ‘tame’ hi kab milega to spare.

People are more possessive and protective about their pets than Anupama is for CA

Also marriage is a life time commitment and understanding, if Anupama has her own three grown up kids doesn’t mean Anuj would not want to have his own when Anupama’s kids from her first marriage do not consider him anything in their life except an ATM machine. And Anupama probably never wanted a break from being a mother, that is why she is still babysitting her three grown ups and even their child now- Pari

In marriage both partners have to respect each others’ feelings, emotions and few wishes, Anuj didn’t force Anupama for adoption though it was too early but maybe too late for him at his age and their was a void which he wanted to fulfil by adopting CA, also CA ko dekhte hi Anuj had an instant connection with her hence the hurry to adopt maybe, Anupama being a people pleaser and Mahaanta ki Murat agreed, because she doesn’t know how to say No and her image would be at stake if she says a No

Having said that, CA has been living with them for so many months now but Anupama just treats her like another Matka or jimmedari, hence those lines - Competition mein participate nahi kiya lekin aayi to, dance kiya to - No one would say that for someone whom they consider their own kyonki koi ehsaan nahi kiya yahan usne

We sometimes see very small kids in malls or restaurants and develop immediate liking sometimes and when the kid is alone we wait for their parents to come, even though they may be watching from far, and here Anupama has no feelings for that child despite her staying with them for so many months now

And who is Kinjal, definitely not a blood relation, but Anupama would anyday choose Kinjal over CA or anyone from Shah family for that matter, even Kavya maybe - because she is just obsessed with that family and the people there and doesn’t want to lose her importance in their life

Funny that she said today - Anuj gave me wings, taught me how to fly - but she forgot to add that once she learnt to fly she used to only fly to her Shah Ghosla

For her all of her relations including the one with Anuj are just a jimmedari- khana banao aur pati ko khush rakho, she says her mother taught her only these things since childhood but at the time of remarriage her mom taught her many other new things too, which she conveniently ignored, funny her mom has upgraded herself with time but this woman is still stuck in her old conditioning - she is trying to pacify Anuj by decorating the house and trying to get close to him, emotional intimacy is also a thing, who will remind her that, and here CA can be a bridge between them right now, but this Mahaan Maa who gives lectures to everyone on relationships cannot understand this small thing that her husband is not going to get pleased with her romantic dance and actions but by getting his daughter back in their life who is very much their own now