Vanraj is the love of Anupamaa's Life - Page 2

Originally posted by: hinz

I dont think she still understands or knows what love is...Anuj may have given her a sneak peakto the idea of love but she is yet to know what it actually means, she’s way too invested in her ex to even think of her present or future. She will never be able to love Anuj for the right reasons, thats if she ever loves him back, cause at this point she has only accepted the notion of being in love with Anuj, she still has long way to go to feel it or live it IMHO

i've been thinking it, you might have been too.

anupamaa is brainwashed/programmed/wired so hard that i wouldnt be surprised if Vanraj was her handler.

she is possessed by the shahs.

Yes. It's like this.

The FD is brainwashed/programmed/wired so hard that we wouldnt be surprised if ANUJ is our handler.

We are possessed by ANUJ

Whatever crap they show we will not leave this show

Even if some of us leave with just a one second lollypop we come back

We want to get the TRP down but we will not stop watching.

We come back again and again and again to "V" show

Originally posted by: BaAZiGar0

i think she has these glitches where she realizes just how badly those 26 years of her life were, were, but like i said to smitha, they seem to know exactly what code to punch in to get her right back to how they want her to act. i agree, she comes from that generation of arranged marriages that believes that you love your husband cuz its what ur supposed to do, not bc you feel it. (although we know she had the hots for him) . i dont think she had come to terms with vanraj not loving her - i think it was forced on her and i think she is still processing it. when they got divorced and around the time during the resort, kavya was still very much apart of their lives. i think she knew enough that vanraj only wanted her to stay to maintain the routine they had built up over the years. in fact i think if she knew they had had an affair and were repentful, she wouldve stayed with him but it was seeing them in bed together that she couldn’t stomach.

Oh trust me the way they showed, Vanraj was plenty repentful... Vanraj is an egoist, self-centered man who would never bow down in-front of anyone, not even his parents... but he had gotten to the point that he was pleading and begging Anu... he had shown immense care for her during her cancer too. That would have been enough reason for someone like Anu to have forgiven him if you are claiming she loved Vanraj so much... people do forgive when they are in a life/death situation.. but even then Anupama didn't budge. So not just them seeing in bed together, but by then she had realized that whatever it was with Vanraj, it wasn't love. She even tells the family on the day of divorce, she doesn't wanna stay in a loveless marriage (not just from Vanraj's end but also from her end, by then whatever love she had for Vanraj had diminished).. The revelation of affair might have given her the courage but I think even if she had found out about their affair not as dramatically as she did, she would have still divorced him. She might have had hots for Vanraj at one point like I said cuz of her conditioning... "pati parmeshwar hota hai... you have to love your husband with tan, man, dhan" bullshit that has been fed to that generation... but thats all it was.. her conditioning. I don't think Anu ever knew what love was when with Vanraj. Vanraj toh waise bhi never loved her.

Originally posted by: catalan

i've been thinking it, you might have been too.

anupamaa is brainwashed/programmed/wired so hard that i wouldnt be surprised if Vanraj was her handler.

she is possessed by the shahs.

Yes. It's like this.

The FD is brainwashed/programmed/wired so hard that we wouldnt be surprised if ANUJ is our handler.

We are possessed by ANUJ

Whatever crap they show we will not leave this show

Even if some of us leave with just a one second lollypop we come back

We want to get the TRP down but we will not stop watching.

We come back again and again and again to "V" show

oh, wait you're talking about me, are you ?

🤣

Originally posted by: hinz

I dont think she still understands or knows what love is...Anuj may have given her a sneak peakto the idea of love but she is yet to know what it actually means, she’s way too invested in her ex to even think of her present or future. She will never be able to love Anuj for the right reasons, thats if she ever loves him back, cause at this point she has only accepted the notion of being in love with Anuj, she still has long way to go to feel it or live it IMHO

I have a feeling that she now understands what love is. Initially she was in denial beacuse she felt that love was not something that could happen to her at that age, given her looks. But now, she has an idea that she appeals to someone for her vitrues and age has nothing to do with it. However, she has a hard time reciprocating it.

Right at the cusp of when she is about to reciprocate, she is weighed down and gets sucked into "motherly" duties. Because I think she still feels, at that age duties come first, everything else next.

Originally posted by: catalan

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Originally posted by: SmithaRam

I have a feeling that she now understands what love is. Initially she was in denial beacuse she felt that love was not something that could happen to her at that age, given her looks. But now, she has an idea that she appeals to someone for her vitrues and age has nothing to do with it. However, she has a hard time reciprocating it.

Right at the cusp of when she is about to reciprocate, she is weighed down and gets sucked into "motherly" duties. Because I think she still feels, at that age duties come first, everything else next.

Originally posted by: BaAZiGar0

it so new and foreign to her and maybe at some level it feels wanton - could be why she talks about boundaries all day promising everyone around her that they have them. she doesnt know how to navigate this b/c this wasnt supposed to be her life. its always easier to go back to old thinking habits than to create new pathways in the brain. essentially she has 26 years of living a life that she thought was good. it would be very easy for her to have a weak moment and justify going back to that household if invited to...

She probably “understands” or probably even “feels” the love but I feel it is Cus Anuj has been a giver all along. Could she be so used to his attention that she has now wired her brain to call it love? Is it really? Is she reciprocating his love?

I’m sorry but I feel bad for Anuj in a way that it will be never be equal. He will always love her more. Or better put, it will be a long long time till it even reaches close to being equal. Not that equal is a pre requisite in any way. But to think of it, doesn’t a relationship come to a point where this comes up?

Her lack of boundaries and conditioning will always be a sort of a barrier in reciprocating or even understanding the love he has for her.

Anupama while giving white rose to vanraj on vanraj birthday she told to vanraj ki log alag hone ke baad sirf nafrat ka raasta hi kyon chunte hai aapas mein sukoon aur shaanti to bhi to ho sakti hai

Anupama don't love vanraj but she said to vanraj ab hamare raaste ab alag hai but it by chance hum dono kabhi bachon ki wajah se mile to hum doni sukoon aur shaanti se mil saakta hai baat kar sakte instead of shouting and taunting each other

i want anuj to pack up his bags to US,because dontbwant makers to bring the track of anuj's death! if it happens,anupama can never be forgiven!