Who can best help resolve the issues between the sisters? - Page 3

Originally posted by: SheThought

Daya, your topic reminds me of the movie Pataakha!

Spoiler Alert: Not sure if you have seen it, but the movie is about two sisters who could not see eye to eye and fought about almost every single thing. They elope with two seemingly very different guys only to end up in the same house as they turn out to be brothers and then when they decide to live separately to maintain peace, the sisters go through life altering changes because they could no longer fight with each other😆

The sisters there were generally similar and they had the same kind of issues with each other, so there was still a possibility of a middle ground. Someone could show them a mirror and there was a chance they would understand...

In our show however, the sisters are generally good people, love their families and want to keep them happy, but that's about as much similarity as you can find between them. Otherwise they are fundamentally just very different in their style, thinking, nature, approach to each other (let me help you even when you don't ask me v/s all my problems exist because of you), problem handling (this is wrong, let me tackle it head-on v/s it doesn't matter since family is happy unless the problem is you), their acceptance of each other (can I be accepted as family v/s wish you were/are not part of my life/family), extent of issue with the other (I will leave you alone if you leave me alone v/s I can't leave you alone as long as you are in my life), their basic idea of little joys in life...

I feel that they are just too different, especially when it comes to each other, to come to any middle ground at present. Distance would surely help, but won't completely eliminate the bitterness.

Abir might be able to help, but he will be torn between the sisters and is likely to lose his objectivity at some point or may stop if it ends up hurting Mishti and damaging his marriage in the process.

Parul is at the best vantage point to understand the issues between the sisters. She has kind of faced and been through somewhat similar issues with Benba as her pseudo-sister and learnt to make it work. And she also posses the wisdom that is required to convey her ideas without hurting the other person.

But overall, I feel it might take a life altering event for one, for the other to realize and change her viewpoint... till then, family can try to mend the relationship but it won't go far!

Wow Pali, this was amazing to read, all their problems in a nutshell!

I agree, as you've said, they have completely different approaches and totally don't understand each other. Middle ground is difficult. I was thinking about distance helping because it seemed to work when Mishti was in London 😊, but obviously this won't be the same as they're married to brothers who are pretty close.

Agree about Abir.

After all the discussion here, Parul seems like the best option (if at all), but I wonder if Kuhu will pay attention to her, given her current mindset.

You're right, a life-altering event may have them stop and reconsider where they are headed with this.

I think Rajan Shahi can best help resolve the issues between the sister.. whenever he wishes all issue will be resolved as if they never existed.. 😎

Originally posted by: ZindagiCalling

I think Rajan Shahi can best help resolve the issues between the sister.. whenever he wishes all issue will be resolved as if they never existed.. 😎

aapne toh ek line mein discussion hi khatam kar diya 😆

Originally posted by: angelfire78

Of course Diya! Your updates and the whole thread kept me going through the break-up 😆.

This is a great idea and would definitely work. If she knows what would push Kuhu over the edge, then she would definitely know how to pull her back. It's unfortunate that's not her goal.

Indirectly might still happen, the way her plans pushed the couples together, it could push these two together as well.

haha wow thats so good to hear dear 😆❤️

exactly she has an ability to read people well and knows how to handle them if only she can use it to make things right...

Haa thats quiet possible many a times she has done things to separate both couple but that only made them know something new about each other and bought them closer so this time too she might help indirectly like in ketu shaadi time she locked them in room but they worked together to bring out the truth but this time its something different still they will come together whenever needed... but i agree with pali she explained everything so well..

As RS said in today radio IV bro's love for each other will change sister equation..

Originally posted by: ruhi19

As RS said in today radio IV bro's love for each other will change sister equation..

Really? Haven't seen the IV yet. Youtube mein hai kya?

Originally posted by: angelfire78

Really? Haven't seen the IV yet. Youtube mein hai kya?

after getting link, i will post it..

The way I see the equation between the sisters - Misti is mature and caring, wanting to keep peace and Kuhu - selfish, insecure, entitled and outright rude. The more Mishti gives in and puts up with Kuhu's nonsense the more it will continue. What Mishti told Abir was right. They need to make clear that there are ground rules for acceptable behavior and Kuhu has to learn this. I have lived in a joint family. You don't maintain peace by keeping quiet...you do it by defining clear boundaries. The sooner Kuhu learns this the better. How long will Kuhu get the excuse of insecurities - if anything Misti has more reason for having insecurities. Kuhu lacks empathy and is seriously looking like the vamp she says she is not. The only times she came across well was 1. remorse after she almost killed Misthi and 2. when she asked Abir to spare Misthi heartache - too less to count. I want Mishti to walk away and completely ignore Kuhu - so Kuhu understands her place. Also Mishti can stop being a mahaan and poking her nose into Kuhu's business. When someone hates you - it makes no sense to keep running after them. It's extremely annoying to watch.

Originally posted by: priyapak

The way I see the equation between the sisters - Misti is mature and caring, wanting to keep peace and Kuhu - selfish, insecure, entitled and outright rude. The more Mishti gives in and puts up with Kuhu's nonsense the more it will continue. What Mishti told Abir was right. They need to make clear that there are ground rules for acceptable behavior and Kuhu has to learn this. I have lived in a joint family. You don't maintain peace by keeping quiet...you do it by defining clear boundaries. The sooner Kuhu learns this the better. How long will Kuhu get the excuse of insecurities - if anything Misti has more reason for having insecurities. Kuhu lacks empathy and is seriously looking like the vamp she says she is not. The only times she came across well was 1. remorse after she almost killed Misthi and 2. when she asked Abir to spare Misthi heartache - too less to count. I want Mishti to walk away and completely ignore Kuhu - so Kuhu understands her place. Also Mishti can stop being a mahaan and poking her nose into Kuhu's business. When someone hates you - it makes no sense to keep running after them. It's extremely annoying to watch.

I agree that in general Mishti is mature, caring and wants to keep peace (only to an extent though) and Kuhu is insecure and rude (to Mishti specifically), but Kuhu has also been shown to be mature.

There have been instances where it struck me that when Mishti really gets involved in something, she doesn't consider Kuhu either - I vividly remember Kuhu's face in the episode where Mishti sings jeete hain chal and saathiya mere. It's true for the first one Mishti was really hurt and second she was lost in Abir (and believe me, I enjoyed it 😊) but they had come to sing/dance together and she simply forgot? To change something like that last minute is just not done. So it's not just Kuhu who is thoughtless. The other instance that strikes me more recently is when Kuhu calls her to ask where she is on her birthday, Mishti is quite rude to her. Again, this is not meant to excuse Kuhu's behavior towards Mishti but just to make the point that it goes both ways. I know there are many more instances when Kuhu is rude and thoughtless also, and the list may be longer. I just wanted to say it is not entirely one-sided.

I totally agree about defining boundaries and definitely Kuhu can't continue talking to and about Mishti (and Abir) the way she did at the resort but I think that is being addressed right? Kunal told her right away she can't talk like that, and Abir also mentioned it. At this point I don't see any advantage in anyone other than Kuhu herself bringing up the pills incident again.

Mishti and Kuhu both have their own insecurities, but Mishti has the advantage of having married someone who fought the world to be with her, and she knows it. She has a mother who went against the whole family to let her do what she wanted. She has a father who apologized for pushing her to a marriage she didn't want, but is still worried for her future in a house where her MIL doesn't like her. Adversity and opposition push her to try harder. I don't really see her accepting all injustices done to her silently. She has a threshold, and after that is crossed, she will stand up and say no. Her threshold may be higher than others though. I really can't imagine anyone threatening Mishti and getting away with it for long. She has put up with a lot from Kuhu and is maybe willing to put up with more, somehow the nature of their relationship is like that - remember her wedding day she asked Kuhu ki ek bhi taana nahi maara aaj. Even with the whole coffee pills fiasco, her outrage was less once she found out she was the intended victim and not Abir, and she is more angry now about what Kuhu implied about Abir.

Kuhu in my opinion has insecurities without all the advantages. She's not sure about her husband standing by her regardless of anything. She knows her mother loves her but she's stuck trying to protect her and is not sharing her issues with her. Her dad loves her but he doesn't really speak up. Her parents agreed and gave her what she wanted with the second wedding and now she feels even more pressure to make things work (however many times I write this I wonder why she rushed into her second wedding ).

I disagree that Kuhu lacks empathy though. Her behavior towards Mishti right after Abir broke up with her, with Kunal right after he found out about his birth, with Meenu after Kunal's public announcement about Parul and in general the way she has behaved with the Rajvansh family even knowing her divorce is imminent shows a different side of Kuhu. Yes, she has blinders on when it comes to Mishti but just because you don't get along with one person doesn't make you selfish. It's unfortunate that Meenu is very cleverly using her dislike for Mishti and her insecurity about her place in the house against her. Kuhu is still culpable, doesn't excuse her actions in any way, but I can't help feeling sorry for the state she is in.

True, Mishti should stop interfering in Kuhu's life and Kuhu should stop blaming Mishti for all her problems, but I don't see either happening anytime soon unless they totally decide to change what they show us after the break 😆.

They've crafted such beautiful characters in the show, I hope they plan to show how they end up.

Hi - I agree that Mishti has been thoughtless sometimes - but the scale of thoughtless of Misti's actions towards Kuhu (both singing episodes and b'day) and Kuhu's actions towards Mishti (psuhing her down on Holi, insulting her on every occasion, deriding her birth situation, going behind Mishti's back to maintain a relationship with her sister's then fiancee, scheming and manipulating to ensure Mishti and her true love don't unite just because she does not want her in her maika, wanting Kunal at the expense of someone she has shared a room for many years with zero remorse, bad mouthing her to Meeankshi, blaming her for all her own problems (sometimes I wonder if Kuhu is mentally challenged, how can someone blame someone else for everything in their life - common sense ought to kick in - no?), demanding the mandap at her sisters expense, drugging you sister and for what - to get to do aarthi, then spoiling your sister's relationship by badmouthing her to her own husband, insulting and disrespecting her own mil, sucking up big time to Meenakshi just because she is wealthy (what a hypocrite)...in my mind she does not value Kunal at all - only sees him like a trophy husband and she needs to be center of attention at all times and no one can upstage her, lying to her husband about something she knows is extremely imp to him....the list goes on. It's just not comparable. Mishti deserves some of this - she should be focussed on her own life instead of worrying about Kuhu - why did she need to even try to get Kuhu and Kunal together? I find mahaan people so annoying. If she truly puts Kuhu in her place instead of indulging her - Kuhu will learn her limits.

Instead Mishti is upset for a while and then lets it go. And why can't she tell the truth about Kuhu to Abir. Abir's defense of Kuhu is so unacceptable - I almost lost all respect for him. He pursued Mishti for what - to place her second to Kunal and Kuhu?

Also the talking to she got from Abir and Kunal during the last few episodes was initially good and then Kunal's talk with Abir and then Abir feeling bad - ruined it for me. People need to be strongly held responsible for their actions.

Wrt advantages Mishti has over Kuhu - I disagree.

Mishti has the advantage of a loving husband because they truly love each other for who each other is - the marriage did not happen because of superficial things like a red sports car or the rajvansh name or money - Misbir is a romance, KuKu is infatuation on one end and convenience on another....shows Kuhu's imaturity in settling for this.

Regarding parents - both sets of parents are exemplary - in fact Kuhu's mother is even more fiercely protective of Kuhu than badi maa - who tends to be more fair. I remember Kuhu's dad on multiple occasions stepping up for Kuhu - when their wedding was fixed and esp when the news of her divorce came out - he certainly was not quiet. Understanding whose advice is good and and who is looking to create trouble (Jasmeet) is a sign of maturity and discernment....which Kuhu lacks. Can't blame ones own character failures on surroundings and others. Kuhu needs to first understand herself, and change before she can be redeemed. Being good to rest of Rajvansh's family means nothing. She needs their favour to indulge and fan her almost narcissistic temperament.

I enjoy watching both these actresses on screen and don't favor one over the other in terms of how they enact the role each play. Kaveri dances well - carries outfits really well, nails the air head entitled role and Rhea plays her well balanced thoughtful, resourceful try hard - role very convincingly as well.

But in terms of the actual roles they play - Mishti's character on screen far outshines Kuhu's.

Sorry - got a bit carried away :)