varsha and kuhu - Page 3

Originally posted by: Shaavi

Before I came to US, I had a different view of the country and the people here. But coming here, I saw the flip side of the real people. While some people are happy that there is an influx of new people, there are others who see us as invaders, that we are here to take away what is theirs. It is all just a matter of perspectives. I also learnt a lot about celebrities after coming to US about which I had no idea when I was in India. There are so many celebrities who found fame and fortune at a very young age, but also fell victim to substance abuse, drug abuse, alcohol etc. Most of the times what is visible on the outside may not be the true story. That is why even today the saying "never judge a book by it's cover" holds good.

Here too on the surface it seems like Kuhu has "everything", hence she shouldn't act like how she does. But what pain she holds in her heart is not shown yet. Each person has their own defense mechanism to cope with what hurts them or what scares them. A skunk uses smell as it's protection while porcupine uses thorn. But ultimately what both these animals are trying to do is protect themselves from what they are scared of. The way Kuhu is portrayed is her defense mechanism. Her hashtags are a way of her trying to make her fear not sound so scary.

She doesn't deserve what happened with her. It was not fair either to Kuhu nor Mishti. The very fact that most viewers sympathize with Mishti and expect Kuhu to not feel that hurt itself is a bias. Her feelings are valid too. She got more hurt than Mishti in this case, yet she is the one who is supposed to accept it without any say in it. Negative feelings are like poison, expressing them is the best way to get rid of them. And that is what Kuhu did. She had to get rid of her pain just like a wound needs to be cleaned before applying ointment and bandaid. In today's episode, Kuhu herself admits that she was wrong in blaming Mishti and that she overreacted. That itself shows her true nature underneath all her acting.

Originally posted by: NeverOldEnough

I have not followed yrkkh much.

Can somebody tell me how is Mishti related to Akshara?

Originally posted by: TeenRose1

I personally found her crying over a rejected rishta insulting as a girl. She is crying too much for one rishta bcos she fell for the guy whom she saw once in a sports car? Oh please. On the top barking on Mishti and saying she's like her father? She is self centred like Amyra and she herself is her own problem generator. Real pain and real problems r Mishti's.

After watching KRPKAB, I understood what "calling a spade a spade actually means. How we perceive is all about our viewpoint. Lots of time things are not what they seem, especially on the surface. All of us have masks and shields that we use to defend ourselves, sometimes from real and sometimes from perceived fears. A person who has been betrayed by one's own family will find trusting someone very difficult. Once upon a time eating disorders were not considered dangerous, but today they are accepted as mental disorders. In all my experience, I have found that 80 - 90 % of the time people project an image which is not their real image. We try to hide our deficiencies as we feel that showing them might make us less liked, less attractive, laughing stock. We are overly conscious of how others see us that we try to meet the expectations of others more than ourselves.

Here Kuhu is no different than anybody. If some people are good at concealing their pain, some are not. Some might be physically strong while another might have strong will. One person cannot really be ever compared with another. A person's feelings are ones own. Only they can understand what they are going through. And it also depends on how they express them. Some are bold while some are shy. That doesn't make the shy one wrong or the bold one right or vice versa.

I feel bad for Kuhu because of the assumption. Just because on the outside it looks like the family is rich, they love her and she gets what she asks for doesn't really mean that she is being treated fairly. I always see the Maheshwari's more concerned about Mishti's wellbeing than Kuhu's. She is expected to just accept it because Mishti is the one with the "real problem. Why is Mishti always seen with soft corner. Why isn't she treated the way Kuhu is treated. Why Mishti's pain is valid as opposed to Kuhu's.

Both have their own place and momentum. Both needs to be empathized and sympathized. Kuhu deserves the same place as Mishti within her own family. She needs that acknowledgment and validation that they like her as she is and she will also be loved no matter what. That she is also important.