Not Ruhi bashing - Page 3

I sort of agree with you on Ruhi being treated unfairly by this forum but I think this is the story of all forums. Go to any forum, the PL (or anyone who dares to compete with FL for hero's affection) is namecalled (standard ones like lusty, immoral), called a non-actress and even said to be on great terms with director/ producer for getting screenspace. Be it Ghum or Imli or Yeh hai mohabbatein, people make fun of PL's acting capabilities and even her real character. It's almost like people identify with FL to such an extent that they have an almost visceral reaction to any female threatening her love. We never see such hatred for male villains (even actual criminals and psychos like Yuvraj who in every sense is a much much worse character).

In this story, the hatred for Ruhi started even before she actually did anything, just based on anticipation that she would be like Pakhi. And I don't understand how is Ruhi manipulative - she was extremely honest with Armaan at all times and very transparent in her intentions. If he did not understand (or ignored), it does not make her manipulative, rather it makes the ML look stupid. And this stupid statement from him that it was never love is hailed here - I find it a pathetic attempt to rewrite the past. Why can't he just say that he moved on, fell out of love. After all that crying and heavy dialogues, if he says it was not love then how does anyone ever trust him.

And it's really funny how some people have no empathy for ruhi, but they have completely forgotten (because he is fl's love) armaan was a equal ( I consider him the bigger one at fault here from the Day he told ruhi that she will be in his heart forever even when she was getting married to his own brother). Abheeera, just because she is in love with arman has forgiven him but ruhi is irredeemable for her.

if abheera was with such great morals, did she for once told ruhi about her loce confession on the day of ar-ru wedding? She did not even bothered to apologise ruhi, and the first face-off all she was asking ruhi about ru-ar past. Jaoo jaake apne armaan se pucho na fir?

Also armaan's love is laughable for ab, like he did not have an ounce of idea unless fl confessed to him, huh.

I find it disturbing when someone accuses Ruhi of killing her mother - it was an accident and Ruhi had no idea what she was doing. A car accident is never a 6 year old's responsibility - the adults around her failed her. Also I do not consider Akshara responsible for her sister's death but she is responsible for her hare brained scheme of confessing. Who told her that all conversations need to happen in front of a child - she could have told others in confidence about what happened. I don't think other Goenkas are so vile that they will accuse a small child of murder. Why did she feel that only she was capable of understanding what Ruhi would go through if she finds out the truth. Ruhi already lost her Mom that day - instead of filling in for her dead sister, she left her and also took away her Poppy and a very loved cousin. Things would have been so different if she had applied a little bit of brain and empathy for Ruhi instead of whatever mahaanta syndrome she was displaying. I do not doubt her intention but as they say the road to hell was paved with good intentions.

Originally posted by: maahi11

Her massi dint killled her mother. Ruhi herself killed her mother. Akshara took ruhis blame to protect her from guilt of killing her mum.
abhimanyu never loved aarohi he was marrying arohi coz of manjri and ruhi. Ruhi herself understood that she can’t get a perfect family when her poppy is already a real father of another kid right in front of her.
Akshara never came back to marry abhimanyu co she was already married to abhinav. After abhinavs death, she was pressurized to give a perfect family to Abhir.

both were wrong o agree ruhi and Armaan, but Armaan learned from his mistakes. And Ruhi never tried moving on. And Honestly it’s not her fault. If Rohit had stayed back maybe like Armaan she would have moved on too.

Dude, Ruhi was not even in the car when the accident happened. The makers just wanted Aarohi dead so they did that. It was an accident, a mistake, neither Ruhi nor Akshara is to be blamed for that. Also, @cutepigs specifically mentioned that the statement that you highlighted in bold was as per Ruhi's point of view, Ruhi who was a 6 years old child at that time. Which 6 years old is so mature to understand the whole situation?

If that had happened in real life, the family would have understood that it was an accident and would have tried to make Ruhi understand the same as well. But the makers are too stupid to do anything like that.

Also, not everybody is like Armaan the great for whom moving on was easy. Some people take time and some people spend their whole lives trying to move on. It is not as easy to do as it is easy to say or write. And yes, had Rohit stayed, Ruhi too would have the chance to move on but Rohit never gave her the chance.

Every character is flawed in the show but our issue with the makers is that they are over highlighting Ruhi's flaws and making her the villain of the story just to make Abhira shine like the best wife and daughter in law of the family.

If Ruhi's character had been like Sonam's (from Saavi ki Savaari, Samridhi's previous show) who was materialistic and selfish from the beginning we would have accepted her being the villain and all. But here, we have seen how cute, nice, and adorable Ruhi used to be as a child, and as an adult as well. Things changed after her marriage and then after Armaan chose Abhira over her.

And now, instead of focusing on Ruhi's trauma, her trying to move on with Rohit or just leave him and start afresh, the makers are trying to make her Paakhi 2.0

Originally posted by: Susi26

I prefer not to write anything as I have only gaalis for Armaan and Abhira.. my post will be definitely removed .. don’t want to comment anything about Abhimaan’s love story as its full of insecurities and selfish motives.. but I’m glad that Ruhi’s vulnerable state and the way she is being accused by others is raised in this thread.

She has a psychological problem for which she is getting therapy.. makers had a reason to show this even from the beginning… the moment from when she lost her mother till Armaan dumping her at mandap and even now Rohit abusing her for her mistakes made her life more painful and worse. She never got what she wanted.. it’s good Rohit has returned, he still loves her.. I hope she finds her soulmate in him and set her life.

For a change I’m ok if she takes revenge on Armaan by ignoring him completely, until the point he sees the change in her. As you said Abhira’s nature itself is enough for their relationship to end.

I can understand And I am thankful for this thread as well. The reels on insta made me quite upset about how they were mocking Ruhi's pain and calling her names.

People without any trauma would not understand how difficult it is for a person to recover from that. I wish we could see Rohit actually noticing her pain and helping her out. Both of them should just move out for a while and give their relationship a chance. I am thinking of writing a fanfiction on this. I am not sure I would be able to make Abhira and Armaan neutral side characters though

Dadi sa had always wished for Rohit to be better than Armaan, right? I think I know what I wanna do

Maybe the makers should let Abhira experience the same thing as Ruhi and see how she reacts in the situation.

Originally posted by: itsShonali

Maybe the makers should let Abhira experience the same thing as Ruhi and see how she reacts in the situation.

this makes me think ki agr ruhi ki jagah abheera ko panic attacks aatey (like her mother), would there have been the same reactions of mockery to her pain as well? oh but she is fl so everything about her will be genuine, pure unlike other characters 🙂

by the way during the wedding planner track all she used to do is cry and imagine wild dreams (like pregnancy) with her 1yr contract husband all day.

Originally posted by: ceyy

this makes me think ki agr ruhi ki jagah abheera ko panic attacks aatey (like her mother), would there have been the same reactions of mockery to her pain as well? oh but she is fl so everything about her will be genuine, pure unlike other characters 🙂

by the way during the wedding planner track all she used to do is cry and imagine wild dreams (like pregnancy) with her 1yr contract husband all day.

Do not make me want to comment something that will cause the moderators to issue a warning

But yeah, just like you said, agar Abhira ko panic attacks aate then there would have been statements after statements ki kitna dukh saha hai usne, kitne dard mile usko but she still keeps on going on and on and on. FL hai na, toh kuch galat kar hii nahi sakti woh. Kiya bhi, toh people will call it cute and funny and just a bad plot twist but never blame her like they are doing with Ruhi and all the other parallel leads.

Good lord! Now no one would question her wild dreams because she is the female lead and it is her right and duty to have such dreams about the male lead no matter if he reciprocates her feelings or not, no matter if he likes some else at that point in time or not.

The difference between Armaan, Abhira & Ruhi are intentions & choices..Whatever u wrote might appear completely right at the surface level, as a perspective, but if we take entire storyline of S4 under consideration and characters' traits & approach then most of the points aren't accurate. If people can criticize their favorite character or couldn't justify their actions then people can also criticize a character merely because of her intentions & approach not because she is a roadblock in between ML & FL's togetherness.

Frankly speaking, Armaan & Ruhi had no story together. Those 2 days of infatuation & her choosing someone else as life-partner then getting married to Rohit to stay close to Armaan was her "choice". If Armaan asked her to get married to his brother she could've refused. Goenkas wouldn't have disowned her for refusing a proposal. Armaan had no such "intention" to stay close to Ruhi by asking her to get married to his brother Rohit. But Ruhi had such intentions which made her wrong but same can't be said about Armaan. He didn't feel that strongly for Ruhi to take stand for their marriage alliance, specifically when Ruhi already decided to get married to his brother, it's his choice.

Ruhi knew about Armaan-Abhira's deal marriage from the beginning but did Armaan gave her "hope" for the entire year? He asked her to "move on" with his brother even when his own marriage with Abhira was deal marriage, there was no hope. When Rohit was declared dead by his family Armaan was about to choose a life-partner for Ruhi without any regret or residual feelings, he didn't choose Manav not because he had given Ruhi any kind of "hope" or he wanted to get married to Ruhi but because he felt Manav wasn't compatible with Ruhi. His intention was to find a suitable groom for Ruhi which obviously wasn't him. There was no "hope" during those 5-6 months. So, the statement that he gave false hope to Ruhi for 1 year isn't correct as initially he wanted her to move on with his brother later on he wanted her to get remarried (obviously not with him).

Ruhi has seen Ar-Ab getting close or comfortable in each other's presence & it made her insecure. Ruhi witnessed Armaan taking stand for Abhira for which she kept blaming Abhira though it was Armaan's choice. Dadisa's love story made her believe Armaan-Abhira will have same love story or will eventually fall in love with each other so she got their divorce papers ready before time. She revealed Charu's kand so Abhira couldn't confess her love for Armaan. Those were her choices which can't be justified & nobody else can be blamed for it. Armaan's mistake was he shouldn't have give in to Ruhi's demand of talking to dadisa because of her destructive and suicidal tendencies.

Armaan was getting married to Ruhi & had given her false hope to get married to her during or after his divorce proceedings, as for him she was a suitable DIL for his family for maybe 2-3 months (from her attempt to suicide till the day of marriage) he also clarified to Ruhi "I'm getting married to you because of my family" but she was adamant that he will fall in love with her again. Armaan made a wrong choice and faced it's consequences. Armaan left Ruhi at altar, she was also given a choice to leave Armaan at altar by Goenkas but she didn't because of her unhealthy need to associate her happiness only with Armaan. She begged for love that was her choice. Armaan was humiliated and slapped.

Abhira despite all her flaws gracefully wished Armaan-Ruhi a happy married life but Ruhi kept instilling seeds of doubt in Abhira's mind regarding their incompatibility. It was Ruhi's choice to stay delusional & try to prove herself superior or a victim, nobody else was responsible for it. Ruhi tried to manipulate Vidya against Abhira addressing her dusri aurat. It was her choice.

When Armaan made it clear several times that he loves Abhira, Ruhi is still having "umeed" to get together with Armaan. He isn't even 1% wrong from the time as he set clear boundaries.

When Rohit returned she blamed him for running away & didn't introspect her own actions. She again portrayed herself a victim. Vidya, Dadisa keep talking how Ruhi should give Rohit a chance but what wrong did Rohit do to request for a second chance? They should instead be talking about how Rohit can give Ruhi a chance even after betrayal and deceit.

Obsession, Self-Victimization, Superiority complex, Hypocrisy, Suicidal tendencies, Manipulations & Lack of self-worth. This character isn't merely bashed because she is a third-wheel but because of mentioned personality traits which has nothing to do with ML or FL.

Just found this while scrolling through x

https://x.com/Itsmetararathod/status/1820181943440605217