Not Ruhi bashing - Page 5

Still don't understand why she's called lusty bhabhi. Cause if that was true by this time she would have drugged and tried to have sx with Arman cause of her uncontrollable lusty hormones 😂🤮

Now she's back to PH cause of Rohit yeah once she's full delusional vamp with monologue and giving dialogues like main Arman ko alag krke rahungi I will reserve my judgement on the lady.

Everyone loves saying she killed her mother because it helps show her a villian again, so since she killed her mother, she deserves all sadness, that's the maths. Akshara bringing up Ruhi won't have helped the story because then how would they have shown Ruhi a villian? They couldn't repeat Sirat Akshara and Arohi story right.

Originally posted by: itsShonali

I can understand And I am thankful for this thread as well. The reels on insta made me quite upset about how they were mocking Ruhi's pain and calling her names.

People without any trauma would not understand how difficult it is for a person to recover from that. I wish we could see Rohit actually noticing her pain and helping her out. Both of them should just move out for a while and give their relationship a chance. I am thinking of writing a fanfiction on this. I am not sure I would be able to make Abhira and Armaan neutral side characters though

Dadi sa had always wished for Rohit to be better than Armaan, right? I think I know what I wanna do

Maybe the makers should let Abhira experience the same thing as Ruhi and see how she reacts in the situation.

I would be first in line to read that fanfiction, can you please tag me if and when you do?? I am okay with Armaan and Abhira having gone to Musoorie permanently if you feel you have to make them positive. I find them so over unbearing now a days that I would love to see them as that negative only but I am okay with anything you decide.

Originally posted by: ShadowImbue

The difference between Armaan, Abhira & Ruhi are intentions & choices..Whatever u wrote might appear completely right at the surface level, as a perspective, but if we take entire storyline of S4 under consideration and characters' traits & approach then most of the points aren't accurate. If people can criticize their favorite character or couldn't justify their actions then people can also criticize a character merely because of her intentions & approach not because she is a roadblock in between ML & FL's togetherness.

Frankly speaking, Armaan & Ruhi had no story together. Those 2 days of infatuation & her choosing someone else as life-partner then getting married to Rohit to stay close to Armaan was her "choice". If Armaan asked her to get married to his brother she could've refused. Goenkas wouldn't have disowned her for refusing a proposal. Armaan had no such "intention" to stay close to Ruhi by asking her to get married to his brother Rohit. But Ruhi had such intentions which made her wrong but same can't be said about Armaan. He didn't feel that strongly for Ruhi to take stand for their marriage alliance, specifically when Ruhi already decided to get married to his brother, it's his choice.

Ruhi knew about Armaan-Abhira's deal marriage from the beginning but did Armaan gave her "hope" for the entire year? He asked her to "move on" with his brother even when his own marriage with Abhira was deal marriage, there was no hope. When Rohit was declared dead by his family Armaan was about to choose a life-partner for Ruhi without any regret or residual feelings, he didn't choose Manav not because he had given Ruhi any kind of "hope" or he wanted to get married to Ruhi but because he felt Manav wasn't compatible with Ruhi. His intention was to find a suitable groom for Ruhi which obviously wasn't him. There was no "hope" during those 5-6 months. So, the statement that he gave false hope to Ruhi for 1 year isn't correct as initially he wanted her to move on with his brother later on he wanted her to get remarried (obviously not with him).

Ruhi has seen Ar-Ab getting close or comfortable in each other's presence & it made her insecure. Ruhi witnessed Armaan taking stand for Abhira for which she kept blaming Abhira though it was Armaan's choice. Dadisa's love story made her believe Armaan-Abhira will have same love story or will eventually fall in love with each other so she got their divorce papers ready before time. She revealed Charu's kand so Abhira couldn't confess her love for Armaan. Those were her choices which can't be justified & nobody else can be blamed for it. Armaan's mistake was he shouldn't have give in to Ruhi's demand of talking to dadisa because of her destructive and suicidal tendencies.

Armaan was getting married to Ruhi & had given her false hope to get married to her during or after his divorce proceedings, as for him she was a suitable DIL for his family for maybe 2-3 months (from her attempt to suicide till the day of marriage) he also clarified to Ruhi "I'm getting married to you because of my family" but she was adamant that he will fall in love with her again. Armaan made a wrong choice and faced it's consequences. Armaan left Ruhi at altar, she was also given a choice to leave Armaan at altar by Goenkas but she didn't because of her unhealthy need to associate her happiness only with Armaan. She begged for love that was her choice. Armaan was humiliated and slapped.

Abhira despite all her flaws gracefully wished Armaan-Ruhi a happy married life but Ruhi kept instilling seeds of doubt in Abhira's mind regarding their incompatibility. It was Ruhi's choice to stay delusional & try to prove herself superior or a victim, nobody else was responsible for it. Ruhi tried to manipulate Vidya against Abhira addressing her dusri aurat. It was her choice.

When Armaan made it clear several times that he loves Abhira, Ruhi is still having "umeed" to get together with Armaan. He isn't even 1% wrong from the time as he set clear boundaries.

When Rohit returned she blamed him for running away & didn't introspect her own actions. She again portrayed herself a victim. Vidya, Dadisa keep talking how Ruhi should give Rohit a chance but what wrong did Rohit do to request for a second chance? They should instead be talking about how Rohit can give Ruhi a chance even after betrayal and deceit.

Obsession, Self-Victimization, Superiority complex, Hypocrisy, Suicidal tendencies, Manipulations & Lack of self-worth. This character isn't merely bashed because she is a third-wheel but because of mentioned personality traits which has nothing to do with ML or FL.

Absolutely nobody is saying that Ruhi is not flawed, in fact everyone is acknowledging that while everything till her marriage was okay, everything after she did was morally wrong. But Armaan isn't that clear of it either. The audience looks at it from the prospective where we see everything happening, all I am saying is that instead of that, if we saw only Ruhi's pov and why she was doing what she was doing, she can be called flawed but not a villian. Her intentions when she went to Vidya also was that she knew Abhira wasn't Armaan's choice, with Armaan's own words, so her assuming that Armaan will fall for her again, wasn't wrong.

She only told Rohit about him running away when he started physically and emotionally abusing her, till then, she wasn't out of the trauma only of what happened with Armaan at the alter and her insults after. Armaan attended a function today, nobody insulted him about leaving someone at alter, but Ruhi got insulted, saw her family go into financial issues, just because Armaan didn't realize his feelings till he reached the altar. Him leaving is right, he shouldn't have married Ruhi when he realized, but him not feeling any empathy is the problem.

Abhira is also similarly showing in front of everyone she is trying to save Ruhi Rohit relationship but in reality, she is being happy that they are separated, she confessed to Armaan, doesn't that also make her manipulative and all that who is pretending in front of everyone and Vidya, so they convince Dadisa for her?

Originally posted by: Lissagreg

I dont think Ruhi is being treated unfairly by the people of fandom. She is being called out for all the right reasons.Leave everything else why would you even keep hopes on that same guy who left u in altar? For any woman there is nothing which can be more humiliating than this. Acc to Ruhi she came back to PH for the sake of humanity right??. And what was she doing? Making Rohit's wounds more deeper. She also knew that she is yet to move on from Ar. But still she chose to come PH and kept eyes on Armaan. All these can never be love. In the name of love u dont have right to make the lives of people around u more difficult. Ruhi is time and time again doing that only. Yes Ruhi saved Rohit's life. But what was her thought after bringing him back home? That now she can never get back to Armaan.. Is there anything more pathetic than this? She in her whole life has cared about herself only. And I have no sympathy for such a character. Armaan may have lead on Ruhi in past. But now his stance is crystal clear. So whatever Ruhi is doing now only she is accountable for that.

I am not taking away Ruhi's accountability. Armaan, till the day of the wedding when Abhira confessed, was all up for the wedding, even telling Ruhi how he was enjoying all functions, but in an instant, from Ruhi pov, he fell in love with Abhira. The same thing even Rohit said to Abhira, that how can she trust him. And Ruhi has been shown as having mental health issues and taking therapy for it, people in therapy don't grasp changes that quickly, they need time to process, accept and then move forward, and this is something she has loved and dreamed for a year.

Someone replied really well on this, I think it's about what a person has gone through. If they have been in a position where they needed mental health help, they will see Ruhi needs time, but if they have been lucky, they would see her as being only negative, which does make sense.

Originally posted by: maahi11

I am not saying completely it was Ruhi’s fault it was an accident, it was specifically mentioned Akshara killed her sis. It wasn’t Akshara who killed Aarohi,

Earlier also I have mentioned, Aksharas only fault was to leave the fam, she could have told the family truth of not ruhi, but stayed back to give motherly love to ruhi

Leaving home was Aksharas decision no one can be blamed for this. But inception started coz ruhi was being stubborn, she wanted to drive the car, despite getting scolded and explained by both Akshara and Aarohi, again she was kid and kids do that.
but if u see, this is a habit she had formed, so if she gets stubborn, she doesn’t care what the suffering are,

Every kid at some age insists they wanna drive a car and sits on the driving seat. My family at least, all of us kids did that, that's not called stubborn, that's called kids wanting to be like adults and kids being kids, that's why you gotta keep an eye on them constantly, even when you say no to something.

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Originally posted by: Phir_Mohabbat

Still don't understand why she's called lusty bhabhi. Cause if that was true by this time she would have drugged and tried to have sx with Arman cause of her uncontrollable lusty hormones 😂🤮

Now she's back to PH cause of Rohit yeah once she's full delusional vamp with monologue and giving dialogues like main Arman ko alag krke rahungi I will reserve my judgement on the lady.

Bold! This! I am not saying she'll forever be nice, in fact I know, this is a show and they just can't handle normal people and relationships post Gen 1, so she will be turned proper planning and plotting vamp with time, but the mere fact that she breathes and it is assumed it is to go against Armaan and Abhira is my problem.

https://youtu.be/GpTbuhvcmS4?si=YNblh7sgRjTHrIUV

One more clip when ruhi called out armaan he said he loves ruhi

He constantly gave her umeed but just because he is a man he gets freepass if he says he never loved ruhi sorry to say armaan ruined Ruhi's life and all accusation ruhi put on him was right. He did a timepass with her.

Originally posted by: cutepigs

I am not taking away Ruhi's accountability. Armaan, till the day of the wedding when Abhira confessed, was all up for the wedding, even telling Ruhi how he was enjoying all functions, but in an instant, from Ruhi pov, he fell in love with Abhira. The same thing even Rohit said to Abhira, that how can she trust him. And Ruhi has been shown as having mental health issues and taking therapy for it, people in therapy don't grasp changes that quickly, they need time to process, accept and then move forward, and this is something she has loved and dreamed for a year.

Someone replied really well on this, I think it's about what a person has gone through. If they have been in a position where they needed mental health help, they will see Ruhi needs time, but if they have been lucky, they would see her as being only negative, which does make sense.

Why shouldn't Abhira trust Armaan? From the day he confessed his love to Abhira that guy is doing everything possible to get her trust back. By choosing Armaan Abhira chose her happiness only. If Ruhi still loves to live in her past then thats her choice . Why shouldn't Armaan and Abhira not move on in their life?

Ruhi is the not the only one who has suffered. Even Armaan also had a troubled childhood. Abhira also lost her mother. Still Armaan and Abhira let go of their traumatic memories and looking towards their future. Its all about preferences.

See I cant justify Ru's actions because of her mental health issues. Like I said in my earlier post when she knew that she is yet to move on from Armaan why would she even come back to PH? Making Rohit's life more miserable. In her stubbornness, delusion and obsession she is not only destroying herself but also causing damage to Rohit's life too.