Not Ruhi bashing

I am gonna be slightly anti what I have been reading on the discussion portal so please no coming for me aggressively, I am more than happy about a healthy discussion. And apologies for long post.

In the Ruhi Armaan story, both were equally at fault and equally not wrong I feel. Armaan went all overboard to show his love for Ruhi and to say to both Ruhi and Rohit that he can't move on from her, while Ruhi also rushed into a 2 day relationship and believed someone who refused to speak up for her. But in both their cases, they have been deprived of parental love their childhood. From Ruhi's pov, she lost her father before she was born.

In case of Armaan, he only saw conditional love and here was a girl who was ready to love him without him being someone for her. Everything till the minute Ruhi and Armaan got married, everything was okay, very normal, but once they got married, Armaan should have stopped saying he will never love another and Ruhi should have stopped asking for Armaan's time. Two personally insecure people in love, caused all this, doesn't make one a hero and one a villian.

After Rohit supposedly passed away, Ruhi was holding on to the love Armaan claimed to have for her, and when he repeatedly kept saying he is only with Abhira for 1 year, she wasn't wrong in assuming that after that, maybe they'll get their chance since Rohit is no more. She was living in the concept of maybe that wasn't the right time, and when family asked about their marriage, Armaan still never spoke up about it not being right or anything. He loves on extreme ends, so when his love for Abhira he realized, he didn't once thing about how wrong he was doing with Ruhi and he didn't even see that love till Abhira confessed, and after that, nothing mattered.. he only felt bad for himself and Abhira, I might have missed it but I never saw a honest regret at what he did with Ruhi for a year by making her live in false hopes while he happily and easily moved on. Ruhi had wanted to move forward with Rohit, right before he disappeared, so her assumption that maybe that was fate isn't completely wrong either, don't we look for signs in life to validate our decisions? Ruhi kept looking for them after Rohit came back also because again from her pov, she saw Armaan very quickly move on to Abhira, so she figured that is also something fleeting since he has told her for last 1 year it is her only he can ever love. In her brain, Armaan and her relationship has been there for a year, surviving circumstances that had separated them.

Rohit and Abhira for me are not in this story to be honest. Rohit was a normal arranged marriage guy who dreamt of a happy married life and was very understanding of his wife needing time and Abhira herself was very clear she wanted nothing to do with Armaan. I feel a lot of people do keep making her a part of story because they loved Abhinav and she is is his daughter, but in Armaan Ruhi story, she isn't anywhere or even important. It is what they both did, not a third person.

But what I don't understand, Abhira was very quick to easily forgive Armaan because she loved him, Armaan was very easily able to move on in his love which he also realized a day after Abhira confessed her love, and be happy with Abhira because she loved him, but Ruhi cannot be swayed by something and want to give Rohit another chance without wanting a man who has now repeatedly ditched her? Nobody even wants to assume that could be the case, Chachi is telling her she is a problem, Abhira is happy the divorce is happening and saying so to Armaan, audience is convinced Ruhi has a plan while nothing of that sorts has even been shown yet, but somehow in the end, only Ruhi is the one who did everything wrong because Armaan is Abhira's love? Abhira forgave Armaan hiding about Ruhi within a matter of days, Rohit never even talked and vanished, and when he came back, he only insulted Ruhi over it, but yet Armaan is bechara for how Rohit is talking to him and Ruhi deserves it?

I feel this is where indian tv has managed an amazing thing, they have managed to turn all women who aren't the main lead of the show or aren't the members of the main lead is mahaan group, to seem manipulative and negative constantly, they don't deserve a chance. If audience and the main lead are so sure of the love the main couple has, why the automatic assumption that Ruhi is bad till she shows she is, as even the Dadisa in the show said?

Ruhi, Rohit, Armaan and Abhira are all victims of Ruhi and Armaan not behaving their actual age but rather their emotionally immature age, but the fact that Armaan is exempted because he is Team Abhira and romancing her but Ruhi is automatically villian because she isn't, feels very unfair to her for me. I would love if DKP for a change shows something progressive and shows Ruhi and Rohit actually happily moving forward in their lives and giving their arranged marriage a shot. Ruhi has been shown a very caring and nice person who has run to the aid of whom she thought were strangers multiple times, and Rohit has also been shown a nice guy who is wounded, they deserve happiness of their own.

Edited out gen#3 discussions

i do not consider ruhi as worst character as same thing if in some other show leads would have done it we will consider it as a plot. Where a FL fell in love with ML and married someone else and was still yearning for her ex.

Morally it may sound wrong but many movies like Devdas, hum dil de Chuke Sanam, dhadkan were hit where Fl loved someone else other than her husband.

I personally believe even though Ruhi and armaan were wrong but ruhi did not played with both men. She could have taken divorce once Rohith was back if Armaan still loved her. If she had lusty intentions she would have had SR with rohith and armaan both. She was taking time to process her feelings and also decided to move on with rohith at some point. Armaan lacked the courage to take a stand for her but he got that courage for AB as if she had done some magic which seems weird.

Ruhi is responsible for her own miseries and Rohith's miseries.

Rohith is responsible for his own miseries as instead of confronting her he left her and decided to gift her to Armaan thab kaha that bhabhi bhakt devar. Usne socha nahi abhira ka kya hoga?

Armaan is responsible for ruhi and rohith's miseries as if at all he had not promised Ruhi that day we never knew the story might have been different than what we are seeing now.

AbhiMaan is responsible for Ruhi's miseries if she had not done this sacrifice drama for vidya and madhav marriage ruhi would have not got any hope. If Armaan could have clearly told her that he loved AB then it would have not gone until alter drama where she was left on the alter. Armaan and AB gave her more hope because of their mahantha and stupidity.

If the argument is ruhi knew ab loved armaan then armaan never told ruhi that he loves AB. He only told her that she suits his family and she is the mature one and they will be able to manage. Armaan also dropped a bottle of water on AB's head no person who is in love will do that. Ruhi assuming armaan does not love AB is looks fine to me. Pardon me if they showed any scene where she gets to know armaan loves AB as I never come across such clips.

Ultimately all characters are faulty.

We never know what is the ultimate plan for Ruhi they might be trying to tell the audience a woman who was madly in love with her ex will find solace in someone who loved her irrespective of how badly she behaved with him. This happened in N5 so it looks normal to me. In N5 bani was destined to marry her love from her past life. her husband was her enemy she married him to take revenge for killing her and her love in past life and she misbehaved with him but eventually she fell in love with him and her ex was a villain who was jealous because of her powers.

Originally posted by: cutepigs

I am gonna be slightly anti what I have been reading on the discussion portal so please no coming for me aggressively, I am more than happy about a healthy discussion. And apologies for long post.

In the Ruhi Armaan story, both were equally at fault and equally not wrong I feel. Armaan went all overboard to show his love for Ruhi and to say to both Ruhi and Rohit that he can't move on from her, while Ruhi also rushed into a 2 day relationship and believed someone who refused to speak up for her. But in both their cases, they have been deprived of parental love their childhood. From Ruhi's pov, she lost her father before she was born, when she was gonna get Poppy as her father, her Maasi came back to marry him, and then her Maasi killed her mom and took her Poppy and brother also. I am not saying she is right or wrong, all am saying is that was the 6 year old's pov and since the family also only knew what Akshara told, they didn't try to change Ruhi's opinion. In case of Armaan, he only saw conditional love and here was a girl who was ready to love him without him being someone for her. Everything till the minute Ruhi and Armaan got married, everything was okay, very normal, but once they got married, Armaan should have stopped saying he will never love another and Ruhi should have stopped asking for Armaan's time. Two personally insecure people in love, caused all this, doesn't make one a hero and one a villian.

After Rohit supposedly passed away, Ruhi was holding on to the love Armaan claimed to have for her, and when he repeatedly kept saying he is only with Abhira for 1 year, she wasn't wrong in assuming that after that, maybe they'll get their chance since Rohit is no more. She was living in the concept of maybe that wasn't the right time, and when family asked about their marriage, Armaan still never spoke up about it not being right or anything. He loves on extreme ends, so when his love for Abhira he realized, he didn't once thing about how wrong he was doing with Ruhi and he didn't even see that love till Abhira confessed, and after that, nothing mattered.. he only felt bad for himself and Abhira, I might have missed it but I never saw a honest regret at what he did with Ruhi for a year by making her live in false hopes while he happily and easily moved on. Ruhi had wanted to move forward with Rohit, right before he disappeared, so her assumption that maybe that was fate isn't completely wrong either, don't we look for signs in life to validate our decisions? Ruhi kept looking for them after Rohit came back also because again from her pov, she saw Armaan very quickly move on to Abhira, so she figured that is also something fleeting since he has told her for last 1 year it is her only he can ever love. In her brain, Armaan and her relationship has been there for a year, surviving circumstances that had separated them.

Rohit and Abhira for me are not in this story to be honest. Rohit was a normal arranged marriage guy who dreamt of a happy married life and was very understanding of his wife needing time and Abhira herself was very clear she wanted nothing to do with Armaan. I feel a lot of people do keep making her a part of story because they loved Abhinav and she is is his daughter, but in Armaan Ruhi story, she isn't anywhere or even important. It is what they both did, not a third person.

But what I don't understand, Abhira was very quick to easily forgive Armaan because she loved him, Armaan was very easily able to move on in his love which he also realized a day after Abhira confessed her love, and be happy with Abhira because she loved him, but Ruhi cannot be swayed by something and want to give Rohit another chance without wanting a man who has now repeatedly ditched her? Nobody even wants to assume that could be the case, Chachi is telling her she is a problem, Abhira is happy the divorce is happening and saying so to Armaan, audience is convinced Ruhi has a plan while nothing of that sorts has even been shown yet, but somehow in the end, only Ruhi is the one who did everything wrong because Armaan is Abhira's love? Abhira forgave Armaan hiding about Ruhi within a matter of days, Rohit never even talked and vanished, and when he came back, he only insulted Ruhi over it, but yet Armaan is bechara for how Rohit is talking to him and Ruhi deserves it?

I feel this is where indian tv has managed an amazing thing, they have managed to turn all women who aren't the main lead of the show or aren't the members of the main lead is mahaan group, to seem manipulative and negative constantly, they don't deserve a chance. If audience and the main lead are so sure of the love the main couple has, why the automatic assumption that Ruhi is bad till she shows she is, as even the Dadisa in the show said?

Ruhi, Rohit, Armaan and Abhira are all victims of Ruhi and Armaan not behaving their actual age but rather their emotionally immature age, but the fact that Armaan is exempted because he is Team Abhira and romancing her but Ruhi is automatically villian because she isn't, feels very unfair to her for me. I would love if DKP for a change shows something progressive and shows Ruhi and Rohit actually happily moving forward in their lives and giving their arranged marriage a shot. Ruhi has been shown a very caring and nice person who has run to the aid of whom she thought were strangers multiple times, and Rohit has also been shown a nice guy who is wounded, they deserve happiness of their own.

Agree and I felt Armaan falling for Abhira too sudden But then I recall He was always like that He behaved Ambiguously with both Ruhi and Abhira So It was very easy for him to dump Ruhi n get together with Abhira Because he never truly had any feelings for either of them Just went with the flow and that's why it's easy for him to behave indifferent towards Ruhi He behaved in similar way towards Abhira as well before n now it's Ruhi

@Bold True

Abhira Knew that there is a chitwali in Armaan's life n she was fine with it because their marriage was just for a year n she repeatedly Emphasized this fact that theirs is a Deal Marriage which will end Though Armaan behaved ambiguously with both girls She wasn't really the victim in that triangle because she was aware that there is someone other than her n she also knew that she was anyways leaving after her deal ends The Real Victim was Rohit for whom Ru-Ro's marriage was a Normal arranged one which won't end n he didn't knew anything about Ar-Ru or that Ruhi still has intentions to keep loving his brother Until he found out the truth Yeah He was wrong in disappearing Instead of Confronting them that time itself because things became even more complicated for him n for others as well

Though I don't want This current Ruhi who still has feelings for Ar to get together with Rohit because he deserves better not someone who married him with wrong intentions n cheated him But If Armaansa can get a chance then why not Ruhi

Ruhi should focus on her career Same for Rohit n then they can fall in love But this is ITV They might turn Ruhi into a complete Vamp Just like they made Rohit who was right to look like the bad guy n Armaan who betrayed him look like the bechara

Rohit married through heart accepting ruhi for family as arranged marriage. He is the main victim in story. He wanted that rista to be real . When he knew about ar ruhi angle he felt as haddi left in the name of sacrifice it's not cheating as per him then. He truly wanted them to be together. All this because of ar words he can't mend his broken heart.

Ruhi went for arranged shadi for family leaving hopes on Ar. When she saw him after engagement she wanted them to tell family but Ar said she is not above family. But he promised he keeps her in heart she can marry his brother. This is the main thing which went till it broke. Holding his words ruhi was in hopes he won't love abhira kept on checking him. Ruhi is wrong to want Ar even she is married to Rohit. Though she wanted to give Rohit chance he is gone by then. So her chances she wanted to try with arman holding abhiras deal shadi words.

Abhira married in deal for one yr kept on reminding Ar she is bhoj she is majboori she is for one year oy she will go away. When ruhi told these words she used to tell her haq as one yr wife or deal patni hi toh bhi patni.

Like you said it's arman and ruhi story which started in mussorie. Abhira realised her feelings whenever arman touched her or when he stood against fufa. When he chose vidya Or dadi her who anger rised against him as self-respect. Ar love came in 2 days after abhira told. If not he could have married ruhi. If abhira was not wedding planner she went away he could have married for his family no doubts or for gulit of destroying ruhis life .

Rohit is calling them cheaters now because ar didn't go ahead with ruhi instead chose abhira happily. Ruhi is left over . Abhira was in ar room for almost 9 months and ruhi was outside room, corners everywhere with him holding hands. If they both didn't had love then why they destroyed Rohit life this is where his anger is burning. Ruhis one yr of her period with ar is thrown in bin by arman easily so it's hard for her to accept as she trusted him. Rohits come back is like again humiliation for her with words. Her fears are there dadi can accept abhira and ar any day and what about her life. She checked staying near Rohit if he accepts her back but he was in his own pain. Whatever he said in anger is fine except words used. So her going ahead with Rohit she is unable to decide. She already knows his pain and losing love. Ruhi too is in same pain so they can unite back to hold each other to give a chance in their rista . Setting mistakes and going ahead is the way of accepting things .

Ar fell on ruhis feet after he left her in mandap. It's all about his love he never understood ruhis pain. Ar fell on Rohit feet for what he did but he didn't get what his brother lost . Abhira ar are trying to set Rohit back to their side so that their rista is set and abhira thinks she wins dadi. They are happily cutting ruhi javo javo javo tum move on hojavo. This is what I didn't like because they are insecure of their rista with ruhi being there. So they have no trust on their love which is formed on ruhis tears. What about her pain her broken heart her broken life. Won't she deserve good in life. She was told sachi achi by the hero many times. Ruhi made illusionary rista with ar on Rohit tears as he truly wanted that rista. Ar told Rohit ka dil toot gaya Abhira told hum usko tootne se bachayenge. Then what about ruhis. Did they ever think of her pain except saying she is kanta, she is haddi. I too want her to go ahead in life because she is bewakoof to trust arman for long and losing Rohit one year. Lautado lautado one year of ruhi Rohit married life. Will ar give it back. Abhira is unknown to these issues so i dont involve her till she is known to it.

Both Armaan and Ruhi are at fault for naming their two days interaction as love and obsessive over it. They did not even dated practically and nor even had idea of their full name and family.

Firstly it was Ruhi who impulsively took decision of marrying Rohit . No-one ask her to get engaged to rohit on gun point , even rohit asked her multiple time in every function of their marriage from roka to engagement till armaaan showed up at last moment if she wants this marriage or not and she said yes everytime .it was her decision to marry .

I genuinly felt bad for rohit , he got cheated by his brother and wife . Ar-Ru had no right to play with Rohit's life . He is the real victim here and everybody from ruhi to her B-nanu are slapping him . Nobody is thinking about his pain.

Abhira has no role in Ar-Ru scenario. She has no idea of their past and she did not do anything wrong to them . I agree she knew about chit wali but Armaan kept on saying her that it was a closed chapter for him.

It will be good if both Ruhi and rohit move on in their life , focus on their career and later on get settled with somebody else who have no past baggage and truly belongs to them .

Shit happens in life and we need to learn lesson from it and give fair chance to our life and instead of crying over past need to look forward for happiness in real terms.

Thank you! This is what I was missing when I was reading comments online. I wasn't liking how suddenly only Ruhi deserved to be alone and vilified when it was circumstances and not at all one person's fault anywhere.

Agreed. I understand Rohit being angry and it is justified, but for some reason because Armaan is crying, he is the bechara and Abhira has to fix the relationship, because FL after all, so everything has to be centered around her.

Precisely! They only want to make Rohit on their side so they can happily get married with no family issues, Abhira is least cognizant of Rohit's pain when she says she went through it when she realised Armaan had loved Ruhi. And that is why I am not liking the conversation online about how Ruhi deserves to rot, she should go to USA not for herself, but so she can leave Armaan and Abhira alone, but it is ok for the ML and FL to feel no remorse for what they did to someone and even now are doing because they feel insecure.

I completely agree that the only real victim here has been Rohit, which is why I am in favor of things happening the way he wants to.. he loves Ruhi, and Ruhi is just broken, if the makers handle it nicely, this can be an extremely amazing healing journey for them because sometimes, it takes two broken people to heal each other when they aren't strong enough on their own, which neither are.

But ya, obviously, they will end up showing Ruhi as bad because apparently somebody is permanently needed to create issues for ML and FL. I don't get the why in this case because Abhira's personality crash with the family is enough to create issues. Even in real life, a lot of houses won't like daughter in laws who butt in everything. We all choose our battles because some aren't worth it, but Abhira doesn't, she likes to fight everything and because she has not had to ever compromise with family, it is obvious she won't get that and that should be enough for conflicts.

Originally posted by: cutepigs

Precisely! They only want to make Rohit on their side so they can happily get married with no family issues, Abhira is least cognizant of Rohit's pain when she says she went through it when she realised Armaan had loved Ruhi. And that is why I am not liking the conversation online about how Ruhi deserves to rot, she should go to USA not for herself, but so she can leave Armaan and Abhira alone, but it is ok for the ML and FL to feel no remorse for what they did to someone and even now are doing because they feel insecure.