Ak's obsession - Page 3

I am happy with the premise that Ak loves Nav. I really don't care anymore that they haven't done that track properly. But why does Nav need to be in everything? Why can't Ak talk about her own struggles without also talking about Nav's greatness? Why does she have to constantly coddle him? Why does she only speak up when his "respect" is in question? Why does she do elaborate things to appease him?

I am sorry, but this is not a friends-to-lovers story. Most friends to lovers' stories have a very cute dynamic, as Kaira had - there is nok jhok, teasing, fighting, etc. This is more like a savior-to-lover story, which is extremely unhealthy. Ak literally treats Nav like the best person in the world with zero faults. I get that being thrown into this situation, Nav needs support. But personally, I think the situation is a LOT worse for Ak, and she is the one who needs support.

Correct me if I am wrong, but after the first Udaipur trip, Nav has not been there for Ak, it's only been the other way around. The real issue began with Abhir's problem and the first thing Nav blamed Ak. He realized his mistake and apologized quickly. But from that point on, Ak has been in much greater emotional turmoil than Nav. Shouldn't he be consoling her? The only consolation from his end has been that Ak was wrong to fear Abhi, which she totally wasn't. On the other hand, Nav is insecure about his wealth, his relationship, his position, and everything. In each instance, Ak has to console him.

Originally posted by: FleetingWishes.

I think it's pretty obvious why. It is because AK inserted Abhinav into her and abhir's life and feels responsible for abhinav's welfare after initiating and orchestrating things to a certain extent. She gave the rights of a 'father' to a man who would've probably been pretty content being an 'uncle' in abhir's life, married him to legitimize the claim knowing full well she'll never give him the rights to a real marriage, indirectly put him in the line of fire without ever disclosing how badly things can blow up in their faces. She knew to a certain extent what would happen if Abhir's truth comes out which is why the law tayyaari. Abhinav on the other hand had assumed Akshara and her child were both disowned by the child's father. To a certain extent, Abhinav literally thought the Birlas, especially Abhimanyu, were vile people who'd abandoned and traumatized her. Akshara on the other hand probably knew Abhimanyu would fight for his kid if he finds out. By the time Abhinav's misconception about abhimanyu the dad was cleared, he was already pretty enmeshed, pretty entrenched in all of this with abhir at stake. Akshara knows this and so she's protecting the one person who still has the most to lose in her opinion.

And then obviously there's the fact that he's been an incredible father to her child and an incredible partner and friend to her. Akshara's seen too much, been through too much, her ability to trust her ex in-laws, her own family, and her fate has pretty much been decimated. At this point, her only system of support is Abhinav and she does not want to lose him at any cost. So the slightest wrinkle causes her to react disproportionately.

I fully get this, but I really feel like they are overdoing it, which is why I termed it an obsession. Maybe its the writer's obsession. But in the story, at least, it is Ak's obsession. She is trying so hard. In yesterday's episode, she literally started crying in the middle of the prayer. I wish they had focused more on that, than on stupid Kasauli ppl drama. I wish they showed for once, Abhinav consoling Ak and giving her some comfort. Instead, he is doing his own ego-boosting, and when that doesn't work, Ak does it for him.

Today, Ak and Nav both felt bad about not spending enough time with Abhir. But only Abhinav's POV was highlighted, and Ak had to go console him again. It's all getting really tiring.

Originally posted by: lagjagale

I fully get this, but I really feel like they are overdoing it, which is why I termed it an obsession. Maybe its the writer's obsession. But in the story, at least, it is Ak's obsession. She is trying so hard. In yesterday's episode, she literally started crying in the middle of the prayer. I wish they had focused more on that, than on stupid Kasauli ppl drama. I wish they showed for once, Abhinav consoling Ak and giving her some comfort. Instead, he is doing his own ego-boosting, and when that doesn't work, Ak does it for him.

Today, Ak and Nav both felt bad about not spending enough time with Abhir. But only Abhinav's POV was highlighted, and Ak had to go console him again. It's all getting really tiring.

Husband ko defend karna is okay but ye aurat gungi gudiya ban jati hai when some one bashes her

So defending pati >>> khud ki self respect 🤣

Originally posted by: DevilHere

Let's be honest here No relationships don't exist without sex...they do that only in ITV that consummation is a big deal...it comes from the need of physical intimacy along with emotional intimacy (Nd no i don't mean sex is the only thing in relationship but it's just as important as any other aspect)

This is a show nd Abhir is a her son Maan Dhaan biological every way...it would be nice to see there scenes...the only mother who spend time with their kids r not the obsessive ones... fussing over children is such a core trait of typical Indian mothers

Parents r grown up adults not 6yr old kids to throw tantrums ki kid loves mummy more papa less. It's very clear that Abhir sees AbhiM as his docman not father...itna insecurity seeing them hugging each other.

Let's see how that one plays out...the only one devastated here would be Abhir... I'm not expecting Abhir to enter the BH alone...that wouldn't make sense to me... AK will win the custody...nd Abhir stays where she stays... it's my firm belief.

Totally ur choice if u have no issues with everything being about Nav...in my list of preference he's a little below nd i would still want the story to be multi faceted nd not everything about any single ckt be it Nav, Ak or AbhiM.

I'm not saying sex isn't an imp aspect but they will come to it in the coming time no? The point is akshu is open to it and when suvarna asked her explicitly she wasn't uncomfortable , she said their marriage must he complete.

2nd thing, it may be an individuals perspective but I don't like mothers fussing over their children too much . Akshu was never that kind of a mother thankfully, while in kasauli too..abhin was always the one who over pampered him and was there for him. I don't know why they showed it but I liked it that way.

Yes Insecurity part I agree with and I mentioned It I'm my post that adults needs to grow up , more than ruhi and abhir.

Again I may be in the minority but I don't think everything is about nav. Last 2 epis was focussed on Birla house drama.....I like to see a couple taking care of each other , understanding each other's moods and react accordingly..abhin has been doing it in kasauli now akshu is doing it..when one is worked up the other calms them down and vice versa.

Why should it not be this way ? Akshu like it that abhin cares for abhir this much. While she has full faith in her upbringing and abhir , (that's why she's letting abhim spend time with him right ? ) , abhin is being looked down upon by Birla family and the goenkas sometimes....she is only trying to make sure he's not hurt and he doesn't over burden himself with the expectations he is setting for himself.

Originally posted by: Lostin90s

Their relationship turned real when she rejected AbM ‘s confession at the temple and decided to move on.

Just 1 ques..if in place of abhinav, it was akshara and abhimanyu and they shared a similar relationship (with or without sex) , will it be appreciated or not ?

She was happy in status quo and didn’t want to effect any change until she got a reality check about their relationship fom external forces. When she realized this, things could no longer remain the same.

it doesn’t matter where that push come from, the main issue is she doesn’t want to lose nav no matter what. Even when he gave her option to opt out. You may call it whatever you want, but for me, this is how normal couple behave. Sex will come later when things stabilize. Ak said this herself.

Aisa sub Ruhi aur poppy k bare main kyun nahi bolte? Why for Ruhi poppy is more important than Arohi? If for poppy Ruhi can be his pura Dil than why not Abhinav claim his right as father on Abhir? Kis haq se roka kal Aarohi ko? Abhinav is Abhir father and no one can change this.

Suddenly they become incapable, irresponsible for abhir to 6 saalon se kon dekh raha tha bhai?

Originally posted by: Krinya

Just 1 ques..if in place of abhinav, it was akshara and abhimanyu and they shared a similar relationship (with or without sex) , will it be appreciated or not ?

It really would be the same thing. Infact even in the show the issue was raised when Abhi was treating Ak like that - putting her on a pedestal, never thinking she is wrong etc. It's just toxic behavior in general to have the partner equated to best person, without faults etc. Abhi did eventually learn Ak's faults and in a lot of cases didn't deal with that properly either.

But I would equate Abhi's Akshu jaap with Ak's current Nav jaap. It's just Abhi also had his own POV and battles that were separate from Ak. He stood up for her without fail, but he also had his own issues with her so it was more balanced.