Ak's obsession

Today I want to talk about Ak's obsession with Nav. I get the whole speech about him being her selfless savior. Awesome. If you really felt that way, why did you take so long to even start moving on? At every point after the leap, Ak has spoken up either to defend Abhinav or inserted his praise even when it wasn't warranted. I understand realizing someone's value etc. But this is constant. She only speaks to defend Nav. In the few instances where she has spoken up for herself, even there, Nav becomes the priority. Since the first Udaipur trip, she has also taken up the job of boosting Nav's ego. Everything he does is viewed through rosy-tinted glasses for Ak. She talks about him literally like he is the best man on the planet. Then why are you still not in love with him ??? Or maybe you are, in which case, why announce to the world that your relationship is a farce? I would understand if she did that before the swing and the almost kiss. But I would call going on a date with someone and almost kissing them having a husband-wife relationship.

And why does Nav need a constant reminder of his importance in Ak and Abhir's life? What are the whole nonsense money issues which literally aren't there? Ak hates Abhi now, so Nav's position is pretty secure. Why is there so much convincing, then? Today, Abhir was literally upset about not getting enough attention, but nope, it was all about Nav again. Ak is angry with Abhi every time Abhir likes him cause Nav will feel bad. Ak stopped Abhir from wearing the shoes Abhi got cause Nav will feel bad. Today, she was getting upset about Abhir being happy with his docman, cause Nav was hurt ??? I would understand if she herself was feeling sad that she didn't spend time with her son. That part was nice and understandable. But the whole being upset about Abhir finding happiness with Abhi is so uncomfortable. Then she ran behind Nav to boost him up again. It's just gotten to be too much.

From the beginning, she has let Nav take a central role in Abhir's life. Abhir is super attached to Nav, and obviously, Nav loves Abhir, and that relationship is precious. But Ak has been sidelined in all of this. We see almost no mother-son moments. Everything is about Nav, and Ak wants it to be like that. Why ???

Abhinav is her husband. Her friend. Father of her son. There is absolutely nothing wrong if Akshaar stands up for him, praises him, or even consoles him while he is upset. There is more to martial bond than sex

That is what a normal healthy relationship looks like

Originally posted by: Agni_Jytsona

Abhinav is her husband. Her friend. Father of her son. There is absolutely nothing wrong if Akshaar stands up for him, praises him, or even consoles him while he is upset. There is more to martial bond than sex

That is what a normal healthy relationship looks like

Not really, normal healthy relationships do not require this much convincing. There is never any feeling of "debt" between partners, and definitely, no god-like status attributed to the partner.

I never talked about sex, and I never said Ak-Nav were not married or anything.

The missing link here is that akshu LOVES abhinav . Everything falls in place then . 😌 yes it is about sex ..the sanskari term for it is "moving on" ...but love and relationships do exist without sex.

She need not stress on mother son Relationship. Bec she isn't an obsessive mother like manjari.

Abhinav is in her maayka , she will.obviously try to make him comfortable as much as possible. He is not there out of his own will..he's there for abhir..n from the time abhim is in abhirs life , there will he comparisons between him and abhim so it's natural for akshu to make abhinav understand his importance in their life . That's what we call understanding . She can assess his emotions well.

Also, It's natural for a parent to feel insecure if their child pays attentions to a 3rd person. ..they will feel they r lacking somewhere n try to make it up for it ..just as abhim was insecure abt abhiv and feels jealous when abhir gives attention to him. The adults need to grow up before ruhi and abhir.

The tip of the scale will be balanced when abhir knows the complete truth . That abhim is his father and why his real parents are not together . Abhim can make peace between ruhi and abhir (siblings anyways bond in this show , like kairav pays attention to arohi more than akshara ) , but the real challenge is to make abhir live in Birla house .

Well I have no issues if everything is about nav. So what ? When akshara was in kasauli abhin went above and beyond to make her feel at home.

Ak loves him. That’s why.

Nav is all of that...but partners r also individual...i personally don't agree to the partners being one unit concept...AK was the one who suffered 6yrs ago nd Nav helped her.... it's good she acknowledges that but why does what nav did take center stage instead of her suffering...even the KM confrontation she was listening to al BS till Nav was attacked...these instances i can still understand....today was just weird....AbhiM did nothing actually...he simply came to meet Abhir(Ak has given him permission to spend time) there was nothing ott there....that scene was so much more about the kids then AbhiM...Nav got insecure that those three r happy together nd AK is pacifying him 🙄

He has never been in so much stress and feels out of depth. Ak is making him realize even though their situation has changed, their bond is still the same.

Let's be honest here No relationships don't exist without sex...they do that only in ITV that consummation is a big deal...it comes from the need of physical intimacy along with emotional intimacy (Nd no i don't mean sex is the only thing in relationship but it's just as important as any other aspect)

This is a show nd Abhir is a her son Maan Dhaan biological every way...it would be nice to see there scenes...the only mother who spend time with their kids r not the obsessive ones... fussing over children is such a core trait of typical Indian mothers

Parents r grown up adults not 6yr old kids to throw tantrums ki kid loves mummy more papa less. It's very clear that Abhir sees AbhiM as his docman not father...itna insecurity seeing them hugging each other.

Let's see how that one plays out...the only one devastated here would be Abhir... I'm not expecting Abhir to enter the BH alone...that wouldn't make sense to me... AK will win the custody...nd Abhir stays where she stays... it's my firm belief.

Totally ur choice if u have no issues with everything being about Nav...in my list of preference he's a little below nd i would still want the story to be multi faceted nd not everything about any single ckt be it Nav, Ak or AbhiM.

Originally posted by: Agni_Jytsona

Abhinav is her husband. Her friend. Father of her son. There is absolutely nothing wrong if Akshaar stands up for him, praises him, or even consoles him while he is upset. There is more to martial bond than sex

That is what a normal healthy relationship looks like

If you label such a relationship as marriage and then do acha pati jap to an extent that Ak does then it is delusional and unhealthy relationship.

Infact their relationship started by her asking him to be fatherji to her child, NOT her life partner who will raise the kid together. Mother-Father to the kid is the relationship they have maintained for 6 years while living isolated in Kasuali and then suddenly she started “meri pati sabse acha” jap in front of Udaipur clan. As I see now, their relation has turned into just debt and gratitude from Ak’s side and the need to hold on to the child from Abhinav’s side. Take Abhir out of equation, their relationship won’t have legs to stand on, because really they have just been in mother-father relationship rather than husband-wife relationship.