Every individuals character formation depends on the upbringing and the environment in which he or she is brought up. If you see Naina as a child , she has every one except her mom. But these people whom she calls as family do they give her the affection that she needs??
-Her dad ,we know is biased to her brother. He likes her but has an archaic approach to girl child.
-Her Chacha , loves her but he has his limitations as he is not her primary guardian
-Her Chachi, loves her ..tries her level best to treat her like her own but not exactly the same. When it comes to spending for Naina you can clearly see she has her reservation.
-Tauji not a very expressive person. A total patriarch . Cant expect much from him
-Tayiji, for her Naina is a burden to the family. She has very openly said that Naina is not lucky as her birth took her mother away from the family.
-Then the siblings. Very affectionate to each other but do they stand up as a team ?? . NOPE.
Example: Preethi got caught changing the marks , she blamed Niana.
Arjun was the one who stole the key , he didn't even tell the truth when he saw his sister being pulled into the mess. A smart brother would keep his sister away from problems involving other guys.
Pralay , is the dear one of the family primarily because of Tayiji. He gets away with anything.
So this is her house. Now tell me how would this child learn to survive in such a household?? Imagine from the age of 2 years till the current age how she would have managed. She as an individual has likes and dislikes. Do you think that was completely taken care? Lack of her mother has played a huge part in her character formation. Even after having a dad , she lives with her chacha chachi. Basically this girl is living out of others mercy!! But the smart one understood a basic rule be good and others will be good to you. Will appreciate you. Study well and be perfect you will get noticed.
Don't tell lie but you can definitely manipulate to survive the situation is her mantra!! This can be understood , when she tells Preethi that if she plans to cheat by changing the marks atleast use a pen that is similar to that of teachers. She doesn't want to harm any one but she is cautious that she survives and she gets her pie of happiness
When it comes to a choice of your loved one against someone else you would choose your loved one. That is can also be called prioritization. Example : You have to go for a movie with your husband but then you get a call from your house saying one of your relatives not well. You choose to meet someone sick over movie. Does that mean love for husband is less. Now when we look from husband's POV , he took leave /came early from office spent time and money to be with his wife..but she cant make it..so would you call it wife being selfish?? Wife will expect her husband to understand the situation...understanding is also another attribute of a relationship.
Naina not choosing to tell about Arjun is because she prioritized her fathers pride above all. She did tell Sameer that she knows he hasn't stolen the paper. She also expects Sameer to understand her silence abt this topic ...but will have to see how Sameer would take it.
Naina not telling Preethi about her affection for Sameer. Its obvious , she is scared if family comes to know then things will be blown out . Considering the orthodox nature and the approach that they have to concept of love , she very well knows it will backfire. Preethi many a times have given away when under pressure. Be it the yellow Saree she got for Pooja or changing Marks on mark sheet.
She wanted to keep that feeling of being loved and cared close to her heart and enjoy the moment. She was feeling loved and she was feeling that Sameer is all for her and no one else.
Regarding Swathi , her wanting to play Juliet was pure womanly Jealousy rather than being selfish. She couldn't see him with anyone else. To top it all she knew that Sameer didn't love Swathi. She wanted him all to herself , to such an extant she was willing to take the role of a "Sepahi !!
Decisions that she took till date , she considered her happiness but she never thought it would backfire on others to such an extant. One thing about Naina is , she has solution for all her problems , but these solutions are more temporary in nature . She just wants to solve and move on. Never thinks about its affect in the long run. Which she will eventually learn. That's one learning she will do soon. .
She needs to survive in a family that is purely archaic in thoughts and very orthodox, she has the right to be happy . For once she chose her happiness above others by allowing her heart to wander around this happy go lucky handsome boy. Somewhere deep down in her heart she wanted to live his life. She fell not just for his looks but also for his I don't care attitude. He was getting all the attention in spite of not being perfect like her. So you see the contrast?? Naina is a teenager not an adult . She has lots of learning to do and am sure she will turn out to be a smart and intelligent woman.
We all need to understand , that being selfish is a part of being alive. Every living being has a grey shade of selfishness. It is required to survive , to face challenges and get what you want in life. But having said that one needs to understand ,the extant of grey in the selfish act is what makes or breaks a situation. It also defines mental strength of an individual.
Keeping the above lines in mind , the question you need to ask is
"Why should Naina be sorry for wanting what she thinks she deserves and not being afraid of walking away to get it ??
"Does she have it in her to get the right balance so that her selfish act doesnt harm her loved ones..that includes Sameer too??!!"
Well...ONLY TIME CAN SAY !!
Edited by WeRockTheWorld - 7 years ago
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