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Raman has in the past questioned why Ishita isn't Adi and ruhi's 'asli maa'. I hate the dialogues spoken again and again in the current track. Everyone does. And the term 'asli maa' keeps coming up.
But that's it isn't it?in the past, When Adi is willingly taken in by Ishita despite knowing that means also giving shelter to Shagun, Raman and Ishita have this poignant scene where he laments, 'why can't you be his real mother?' And this happens again shortly after, when he then realises, that's unimportant, because you are 'Ishima'.
And that for me is where the positive spin in all this overt crudeness lies. The silver lining. Ishita, once Raman realises that the 'asli maa' tag is irrelevant, because Ishita surpasses that, becomes more than someone who needs blood ties with a child. Up until this point, yes, he knows Ruhi is Ishita's world. The apple of her eye, the spring in her step, the sparkle in her eyes.
But until this point it's because she is childless, and Ruhi and Ishita fell in love; and as far as they knew then, will remain so. So Ruhi becomes her whole existence. Adi on the other hand was someone who was filled with hatred, and despite this Ishita was and continues now to be the mother Shagun cannot be in a thousand lifetimes. It recently occurred to me therefore that the 'asli ma' taunt is actually irrelevant, and it's because Raman thinks it's irrelevant. Raman himself doesn't care about the whole 'asli ma' of it all. He never did. He doesn't now. And that's why he flings this taunt left,riight and centre so easily. Because Ishita was never the 'asli ma' and he loved her all the more for it.
Therefore, the term is redundant. Inapplicable. So that's why Raman uses it. It has no meaning. Because the wonder of Ishita is that she will give her life a thousand times over for his children, and she has done that.
So for me, the silver lining lies in the idea that the words coming out of Raman's mouth he actually counts as empty himself. For him they have no meaning, and so he uses them easily. I've said it before, I'll say it again, Raman is burning, festering in anger, guilt and jealousy and he is lashing out. But the truth is, for Raman, after realising the beauty of the fact that Ishita isn't Ruhi and Adi 's 'asli ma', he fell even deeper in love with her.
From then on we never see him wishing she was their real mother. Because that is where the beauty of her lies. The fact that she isn't their real mother.
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