Custody *Note on pg 11 about Ishra* - Page 16

Originally posted by: geno0309

I second that thought Gan! a Bigg group hug from our side to you.

Originally posted by: GanBarunFan

Note :

For anyone thinking Ishita doesn't care about Raman...please take a look at this collage...Ishita was absolutely hysterical...everyone in the Bhalla family was trying to calm her down...and look who succeeded and whose shoulder she took spontaneous refuge in...does that look like an action of a woman who doesn't care for her husband?

And look at him, he forgot his own pain momentarily and stepped up to reassure her that he's going to take care of it. Not the actions of a snooty, MCP ..is it?

This is a human tale..where both make mistakes, and when they get angry they yell at each other but they both also feel and understand the other side...sometimes we just need to put ourselves in their shoes before we jump into judging their actions...Raman is at fault...Ishita might have said she has no one/nothing (can't recall the exact phrease)...but they have always beem there for each other. even at the time when they were not in love with each other. That's their YHM.



Sorry for the rant...but let's not make every episode about Raman v Ishita but sometimes that's all I see here in the forum..so needed to get it off my chest.

I guess people are misunderstanding those who are saying that for ishita only ruhi matters,nobody else. We are not saying that on the basis of today's episode,but on what is about to come. She clearly mistrusts everybody in the house now,including Raman, and that is why she ran off with ruhi. Ruhi is her life,agreed,but there are others now in that life too,arent there. Her running away just shows that for her nobody else matters, its only and only ruhi in her life,negating the past year completely. No ruhi means no raman,no family?? This is actually a fault of cvs who took the story 1 year back, to start it all over again.
she cud've stayed with everybody and fought for ruhi,as she has ruhi's permanent custody. There was no need for such drastic steps. She really thinks anyone else in the family wud let shagun take ruhi away? She thinks that raman wud purposely sign off ruhi for adi?? Then she doesnt know her family and husband at all. They are grieving too, they needed to stick together and be each other's support. Raman needs her too.
the cvs are completely ignoring the fact that raman is ruhi's father and is devastated too. He is at fault but the blame game wont help! He was deceived! Like many have been, so many times! The cvs need to focus on his character too! He is not there just to romance his wife, or make mistakes then say sorry!!

Originally posted by: beckysharp

<font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">On
going through the forum, I saw various topics made regarding the episode
yesterday and it really got me thinking.
I would like to put my view forth on some of them. Gan, I hope you don't mind.</font></font>

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<font face="Times New Roman"><font size="3">1.</font> <font size="3">Raman
is all alone : Is Raman actually
alone ? No he is not alone, he CHOSE to
be alone in this. He could easily have
confided in Ishita, like he did when he resigned. Even when she was angry with him, she kept the
channel of communication open, but Raman did not tell her anything. He chose to do everything by himself. Does that make him an MCP ? No. He made a decision, albeit a wrong one, where
he put not only Ruhi but his relationship with Ishita on line. Why ? This is where the crux of the matter
lies. In his eyes, Ishita is the ideal
mother. He sees the way she has brought
up Ruhi and he wants the same for Adi.
But, and there is a big one here, does he see Ishita as the ideal wife
? He is still measuring Ishita by the
Shagun yardstick. The one where she
should be happy with the material comforts that he can provide and one where
she does not want to be involved in his emotional issues. His experience with Shagun has scarred him, and
he is unable to see Ishita, the woman who is willing, not only willing to walk shoulder
to shoulder with him, but also help him through his emotional issues. That is
the reason why Ishita is so upset and angry with him, because he did not
confide in her and his impulsive action has put her daughter and her life on
the line.</u></font></font>

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<font face="Times New Roman"><font size="3">2.</font> <font size="3">Ishita
loves Ruhi more than Raman : I have
already explained a little earlier. Yes
she does. But we cannot compare her love
for Ruhi with her love for Raman. Ruhi
is her identity. She got into this relationship with Raman BECAUSE of Ruhi.</font></font>

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<font face="Times New Roman"><font size="3">3.</font>
<font size="3">Something to happen to Raman and Ishita
should be made to choose between Raman and Ruhi : That is like asking Ishita to choose between
the beating of her heart and her life's breath.
How can she choose between Raman and Ruhi ? When Raman spoke with Adi and told him about
moving on, he was not choosing between Ishita and Adi. No, he was getting his son to accept the
fact, that Shagun and Raman would never be together, they could never be
together. That did not mean he loved his
son any less, just that he gave his son a clearer picture of the facts and made
him accept that. But is Ishita in the
same position as Raman ? She is being
put in a position where her life / her identity is at stake. Yes,
Raman completes her, but Ruhi fulfills her ! This is the main difference. Is Ishita obsessed by Ruhi ? No, she is not. But Ruhi is who defines her, the one person,
who fulfilled all her shortcomings for which she was rejected time and again.</font></font>

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<font size="3"><font face="Times New Roman">I
hope this makes sense, as it did atleast in my head !<u></font></font>

Word becky!! I so agree with everything u said. People in the forum take sides so easily they just think from one perspective and don't analyse the entire situation!! I m nor saying Raman is in lesser pain off course he is hurt as hurt as ishita is as he is also loosing his daughter and even son in this but raman's actions are the reason for this mess and he has to own up for it!! But ishita's loss is not due to her own but bc of raman thats y she is angry on him which is justified as he always hide things from her if he would have talked to her she would have been standing with him shoulder to shoulder to come out of this mess but he chose not to!! In this case one can also say raman doesn't love ishita enough bc he always hides such imp things from ishita or else he considers ishita as a lesser wife but is anybody saying that?! A big NO!! As raman had his reasons to hide things and we all buy them!! Then y to blame her if she is angry on him as she is on the verge of loosing her life to woman like shagun bc of her husbands negligence isnt it natural??

Originally posted by: drishtimaurya

I guess people are misunderstanding those who are saying that for ishita only ruhi matters,nobody else. We are not saying that on the basis of today's episode,but on what is about to come. She clearly mistrusts everybody in the house now,including Raman, and that is why she ran off with ruhi. Ruhi is her life,agreed,but there are others now in that life too,arent there. Her running away just shows that for her nobody else matters, its only and only ruhi in her life,negating the past year completely. No ruhi means no raman,no family?? This is actually a fault of cvs who took the story 1 year back, to start it all over again.
she cud've stayed with everybody and fought for ruhi,as she has ruhi's permanent custody. There was no need for such drastic steps. She really thinks anyone else in the family wud let shagun take ruhi away? She thinks that raman wud purposely sign off ruhi for adi?? Then she doesnt know her family and husband at all. They are grieving too, they needed to stick together and be each other's support. Raman needs her too.
the cvs are completely ignoring the fact that raman is ruhi's father and is devastated too. He is at fault but the blame game wont help! He was deceived! Like many have been, so many times! The cvs need to focus on his character too! He is not there just to romance his wife, or make mistakes then say sorry!!

Originally posted by: beckysharp

I concur with you 100%, Raman is hurting more than we can say and imagine. BUT, why did he not speak with Ishita, and she asked him umpteen number of times. Remember she offered to go with him to the lawyers'. She ran away, coz yes, she has lost trust. Why ? Due to Toshi's constant GKC rant n Raman hiding information from her. She asked yesterday, why is nobody talking to Shagun, everyone was in shock, n she decided to take matters into her own hands. She is panicking. She is human too.. Ruhi is her lifeline ! For her Ruhi defines her as a woman n mother !

Originally posted by: drishtimaurya

Not anymore!! She has another identity too!! What was that talk to Raman about (U complete me!!) She needs everybody's support and everybody in her family needs her too!! There is no need for such drastic step! All that is needed is the reversal of contract or proof that Shagun is a fraud, which Raman can solve in a day!

As for hiding info from Ishita, it wasnt coz he doesnt trust her; it was coz it wasnt Ishita's burden to bear!! If Ishita wud have known that she wud have worried, wud have workeed extra hard to keep up with the expenses, to sustain the family, which Raman always sees as his responsibilty only. And what cud he say to everyone???? That he is buying his son?????

A very long post that I made and everything got deleted.

Originally posted by: beckysharp

Bold : Bingo ! You have answered your own question here ! Why Ishita ran away and why she took matters into her own hands. Plus, should she have given Ruhi to Shagun calmly when Raman and Bala find out that the courts were closed until Monday and Shagun had given an ultimatum of 24 hours ?